The main and most often said "prayer" to Mary is a request "ASKING" her to p¬ray for us (to God). Further supporting what Catholics here have said, we are asking someone else to pray for us.
Do some abuse the Marian devotions and it becomes something else? I know they do, it is wrong and the Church teaches that it is wrong. The fact they are doing something wrong should not reflect on the rest of us or on the proper use of such prayers.
We have pre-Resurection stories of people making requests on behalf of thier loved ones still living. Nothing to indicate post Resurrection that those going before us cannot still make such requests on our behalf. Why should we believe such communications by the dead on our behalf ceased with Christs Gift of Love?
We have depictions of Saints in Heaven offering up the prayers of saints to God in Revelation. To me it makes sense that could only be offering something they heard and received on our behalf.
It has been suggested by some that because of Gods being Eternal, our prayer life with Him should not be restricted to just the present, our present. Most of us have no problem extending that forward, most pray for His Kingdom to come, future events/outcomes...etc. Formerly a Baptist myself, many of us often spoke of prayer warriors. How much bigger a concept to extend that thought to all time, forward and backward? To think that our present prayer could be effectual even for past events, past relatives as they go through their own trials opens the battle field. And if those ideas extend beyond this life, the field gets bigger still.
If my conscious, my spirit is suppose to ponder such thoughts, which the Apostles seem to encourage in telling us to pray for one another, then why should I think that such prayer should all end when I cross over to the next life?
Some would say we could not be happy in the next life if we had to continue thinking about the struggles ongoing here. While it is a thought, am not sure how to conclude that either way having never been there myself.
However, the thought of being somehow pleasantly eternally oblivious to those still living here, nice and appealing as that seems, never fit with my notions of what Heaven should be like, or Justice or being a prayer warrior. Why should we struggle, succeed and then not be able in the next life to help those still struggling?
The thought of eternal oblivious bliss seems rather more Stepfordesk than my idea of what becoming a glorified saint in Heaven would mean. How can a Stepford wife or man be a warrior?
In some simplistic way I guess I could say God is Happy even seeing all that transpires here. So in faith I could say He could see to my happiness even if such events were made known to me in the next life. I do not think we will be ALL knowing, but if God can be happy knowing ALL, then surely He can see to our happiness even if we are partially aware of events here.
If we are all in a struggle together, and we are all one body, then surely we do not cease to be a part of that body when we pass on to the next life. And if a part of that body is still at war here then I would think we are all (past, present, future) still a part of that same body at war. So the idea that part of this one body could already be at eternal happy, oblivious rest while the rest of it (currently us) still struggle does not work for me.
even if physically taken out of the fight, I would like to think that as enjoined by the Apostles, those who have passed on can at least still pray to God on our behalf and be asked by us to do so. And such a role seems more fitting to a Saint, and someone I could see as being a mighty prayer WARRIOR in Heaven helping in the fight on our behalf. A much more active, fulfilling, befitting and in a way happier role for them than seeing them as kicked backed and chilling while we still struggle here. At least to me.