Love's not necessary for sex, in my opinion.
Maybe not for you or others, but in my experience, soooooo much better when you can put your heart, soul, passion AND body into the equation.
I couldn't say "I love you" to any of the 2 women I had casual sex with bec. I didn't know them....
There were some other things. She smoked marijuana (at the time), which didn't bode well for someone like me who's never been intoxicated.
If she didn't resist, she wanted it as well. You weren't wrong.
I could have been a better date partner. That incident is a big regret.
Seems like that's YOUR problem, not hers. And quite honestly, from this comment I have lost a lot of respect for you. That you would pressure her into sex, have sex, then lose respect for her is pretty low. And from your story, I get the impression that you almost feel like she's somewhat at fault in all this.
For the record, never said it was HER fault.
Notice in my post how I didn't "blame" her and say it was all on her. I didn't view her as a low-class or a "bad girl."
The getting too sexual too soon ruined things, IMO.
Blame myself for how that relationship went. Could have pursued her but didn't. Another regret.
As I posted,
later learned she was a Christian !!!!
(I didn't know that at the time !!) and might have offered me a loving relationship, but the sex ruined everything.
Never did anything like that with other women.
Look what I did all for my sexual appetite !!!
Cannot tell you how much I want to contact her and apologize. Unfortunately, her name is similar to a celebrity's.
It's not spelled exactly the same way, but the celeb.'s name always comes up in searches.
Say Julie Roberts vs. Julia Roberts. Cannot search that plus she's likely married by now anyway as this was in the 80s...