Hello everyone, there's something that has really been bothering me and I would like it if anyone could give me ideas as to why this is happening, and some advice. I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, so I apologize if I've posted this in the wrong place.
Okay, so beware, this is kind of long:
For almost a year, I keep having dreams about the same person. He's sort of one of my friends...I know him well, but I'm not really close to him, if that makes sense.
I'll start from the beginning. When I first met this guy, it was before I was saved. I found him VERY annoying, and wanted nothing to do with him, although I hid my feelings and acted nice to him.
Months and months later, I started veeery slowly to like him. It was strange, I was annoyed with him and then I liked him at the same time. Then after a while I had a huge crush on him.
After this happened, long story short, my parents decided that I could go on a mission trip (I haven't gone yet though, but this to me is truly a miracle that they're letting me go). The same guy decided that he was going to go also right before I did. Then I got really upset a while after this, because he seemed to like another girl (I still think he might, to be honest). I got jealous and was being really immature.
Okay, so then after THAT happened I finally got saved (that is also a long story). My feelings for that guy were gone, and I chose God over him. I remember thinking, "I hope he has a wonderful life, and God blesses him, and that if he likes that other girl, he can be with her." Then I stopped talking to him for a while. I was completely convinced in my mind that it would please God more if I didn't date or marry anyone, that way I stay completely focused on Him. So I decided that unless God really wanted me to, I wouldn't get married.
Once in a while, those feelings for that guy would threaten to come back, but they didn't. For about 1 day I was really tempted to let those feelings come back, but God helped me through it.
The weird thing though that happened was I would keep having dreams about him, even though I had forgotten about him. I had no feelings for him, and I thought secretly that maybe satan was trying to get me to think about this guy again instead of God. I always tried hard to ignore the dreams and I saw them as completely meaningless, just an attempt to trick me. Then I kept seeing/hearing his name EVERYWHERE, and I mean everywhere. It's like someone was trying to force me to pay attention to him in any way possible. The dreams I had were basically just me and him spending time together, and usually I had a crush on him in my dreams. He's sometimes a "messenger" in my dreams as well, like I asked God a question once right after I was saved and the guy answered it in my dream (and even showed me Bible verses about it), and also he warned me about something in a dream before I was saved.
Now somehow we started talking to each other again, and I am so frustrated because those feelings I have for him keep threatening to come back. They were gone for so long and I don't know why they're even there. I do NOT want to be with him because I don't think that would be good at all, in fact I keep praying for God to somehow get him out of my life if that goes along with His will. I wish everything good for this guy, but I can't stand this. Every time I try to distance myself from him, something always happens to bring him back.
So what I'm trying to ask is, why is this happening? Is it a test? Is it the enemy trying way too hard to tempt me, or what? And how do I make it stop, besides praying (I already do that a lot)? I just don't get it, and it's getting a bit ridiculous and I reeeaaally wish it would stop because it's getting too distracting.
Okay, so beware, this is kind of long:
For almost a year, I keep having dreams about the same person. He's sort of one of my friends...I know him well, but I'm not really close to him, if that makes sense.
I'll start from the beginning. When I first met this guy, it was before I was saved. I found him VERY annoying, and wanted nothing to do with him, although I hid my feelings and acted nice to him.
Months and months later, I started veeery slowly to like him. It was strange, I was annoyed with him and then I liked him at the same time. Then after a while I had a huge crush on him.
After this happened, long story short, my parents decided that I could go on a mission trip (I haven't gone yet though, but this to me is truly a miracle that they're letting me go). The same guy decided that he was going to go also right before I did. Then I got really upset a while after this, because he seemed to like another girl (I still think he might, to be honest). I got jealous and was being really immature.
Okay, so then after THAT happened I finally got saved (that is also a long story). My feelings for that guy were gone, and I chose God over him. I remember thinking, "I hope he has a wonderful life, and God blesses him, and that if he likes that other girl, he can be with her." Then I stopped talking to him for a while. I was completely convinced in my mind that it would please God more if I didn't date or marry anyone, that way I stay completely focused on Him. So I decided that unless God really wanted me to, I wouldn't get married.
Once in a while, those feelings for that guy would threaten to come back, but they didn't. For about 1 day I was really tempted to let those feelings come back, but God helped me through it.
The weird thing though that happened was I would keep having dreams about him, even though I had forgotten about him. I had no feelings for him, and I thought secretly that maybe satan was trying to get me to think about this guy again instead of God. I always tried hard to ignore the dreams and I saw them as completely meaningless, just an attempt to trick me. Then I kept seeing/hearing his name EVERYWHERE, and I mean everywhere. It's like someone was trying to force me to pay attention to him in any way possible. The dreams I had were basically just me and him spending time together, and usually I had a crush on him in my dreams. He's sometimes a "messenger" in my dreams as well, like I asked God a question once right after I was saved and the guy answered it in my dream (and even showed me Bible verses about it), and also he warned me about something in a dream before I was saved.
Now somehow we started talking to each other again, and I am so frustrated because those feelings I have for him keep threatening to come back. They were gone for so long and I don't know why they're even there. I do NOT want to be with him because I don't think that would be good at all, in fact I keep praying for God to somehow get him out of my life if that goes along with His will. I wish everything good for this guy, but I can't stand this. Every time I try to distance myself from him, something always happens to bring him back.
So what I'm trying to ask is, why is this happening? Is it a test? Is it the enemy trying way too hard to tempt me, or what? And how do I make it stop, besides praying (I already do that a lot)? I just don't get it, and it's getting a bit ridiculous and I reeeaaally wish it would stop because it's getting too distracting.