Just wondering. Why is it so easy for others to find love or just someone in their lives, while other's can't even get a date! I mean...It's like... crazy. I've had more internet flings then real life prospects!
It's so complicated. I mean...I can have guy friends easy. I'm into action and adventure movies, Video Games, Football, (not so Wrestling fan) I mean I have lived around guys my whole life and I just don't get it. I know it's not about that, but at least I can find something of commonality with guys, but I can't get a date to save my life. I know what it is, but changing that part of my life is not easy. I wish I had someone who could be my motivator. I can't be the only one feeling this way for sure. I mean some people complain about being single, but they can do the dating thing every week, while...others take years just to get 1 date. Life is so cruel.
I like this thread a lot
Thank you for making it!!!!
I am content in my single walk and until April 2012 passes I won't be going on dates or courting someone until that passes because I made a vow to not date/court anyone for 2 years after my last relationship ended in April 2010 - to focus my life around Jesus more. I am not against meeting any "potentials" that the Lord enters into my life but it is one vow that I made to the Lord that I won't break until next year.
Awhile I am content being Single - I do have my Lonely Days and I want her in my life right now. Who hasn't. And to be honest lately CF been having a love bug where EVERYONE is finding SOMEONE from getting involved, in a relationship, engaged, getting married. I am happy for everyone because a lot here are my Brothers, Sisters, and my friends. I've been praying for them to find someone and I'm happy for them. But it is a Catch 22 to wonder "Lord, what am I doing wrong" when in fact there is NOTHING WRONG with US - we ain't DAMAGED BEYOND REPAIR it is just not our TIME yet. I know "some" will be like "don't wait on the Lord you be Single forever" well DOH - no "lady will jump on my lap from Heaven" and it does take some "effort" and to "introduce" yourself and ect.
But I am not desperate for someone, I don't "need" someone to fulfill my life to be content in our Lord, rebounds are stupid, and going from one relationship to another without healing and to chill out for awhile and be content in Christ being Single isn't healthy. I do not "show off" that I am some sort of "saint" I am not whatsoever and I do not condemn anyone who is currently involved - I am happy for everyone that the Lord has finally bless you all with someone in your life - I am praying for the best - and the Lord will guide your hearts together in Him. So I am not "attacking" anyone but speaking from my own heart and giving my 2 cents to this awesome engaging thread that my awesome friend created
I just want to be real and completely honest about it - and if someone gets offended by it - it isn't my fault - I'm just speaking from my own experience - I won't censor myself any longer...
It isn't my time to be involved yet. I talked to someone last week about stuff - and we both came to the same conclusion - we aren't built to be alone forever - we are built to have someone in our lifetime. For everyone each one is different but that is what I concluded for myself.
I believe that when it is HIS TIME - everything will fit smoothly and everything will open with ease - it won't be forced and it won't be difficult. I've been through mostly LDR experience and for each I always encountered a difficult period - of the Lord simply not opening doors for it to work out - I was very wise to know this - and I ended it off with my last relationship - it was mutual - and we remain friends to this day. I felt I was going in a different direction and my past SO was going in an opposite direction. That is alright - God has His perfect plan, purpose, and direction for each. I am blessed with the experience that I learned from it and I shall move forward in Christ.
So I can relate to StarnChrist and a few other posters in this thread.
I just simply want to give each one a
Some has said to me "why are you single - you are such a gentleman - a Man of God" trust me I heard it all when it comes to those "lines" and I take them as compliments. And I say simply "...it ain't my time yet."
I have blessed so much more people being Single in the past 1 1/2 years than I was when I was Involved with Someone. So right now in my young adult life - I am content - God is preparing me for that Someone (my mom calls it hubby-in-training) - until that day - I am to bless others in Christ with my experience and be a lending listening ear
Sorry for being "wordy" but some things you just got to say to help others in Christ
Take Care
God Bless,
Drew