This is a very good post.. thank you for your input.As a woman who has lived through horrific abuse from my former husband allow me to say a few things.
First, the abuse I lived through did not happen in a Christian environment, so I really don't know too much about how any church organisation handles (real) abuse but I think I should say a few things anyway..
My current husband, a Christian man, would never raise his voice to me let alone abuse me in any way. He treats me as a queen, and spoils me rotten.
So I do know how a true Christian man treats his wife, and it's not like a dog. He loves her as Christ does, and is ever forgiving, overlooking her many flaws in love.
A man who is beating his wife isn't following Christ, and a case can be made to treat such a man as an unbeliever.
The churches job is to teach scripture, and certainly there are some areas that aren't spoken of, or addressed because Christians are expected to act like Christians or be removed from the church.
Christians aren't supposed to marry non-Christians so many of these issues arise that the church is trying to deal with because they aren't removing people from church due to sin, and Christians are marrying non Christians.. or non Christians are marrying non Christians and asking the church to deal with the fall out from their unsaved behavior to one another.
This is causing a good measure of problems, from appearances, because the Biblical counselling people are seeking is for two saved Spirit filled Christians.
If my husband and I had to go for Christian counselling it would be a far different outlook and outcome than it would be for two unsaved people...
in short, what works for Christians doesn't work for those who aren't..
I think if a woman who is Christian has a truly abusive husband, she will have to consider prayerfully what to do. But if she decides to get counselling according to her faith, then she should expect to hear what's in the Book she professes to believe in and follow.
I don't think any woman should sit and take abuse - but I don't think every woman who says she's abused is actually abused either.
I think if a man raises his hand to his wife, her first move should be to find a domestic abuse shelter - and then she should pray for guidance from there on what she should do next.
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