Yeal, the statistics aren't a bit good for abusive spouses ever improving, though they frequently get worse. I personally think that a Church could only help someone who was not a chronic and serious abuser at all who, as you indicate, takes the Word seriously - not just a phony Christian who twists Scriptures to justify demonic ends. And even then, it would probably help if the staff was very trained on the topic. In any case, if there is any physical sign of abuse, yes, it needs to be reported, and recorded, with the police.These women should be talking to police and getting restraining orders.
It’s ludacris to take such unGodly marriages full of such sin and problems and think that there is going to be a Godly solution.
Biblical solutions are for those who obey and fear God.
If we have to before it’s too late or do you think God will allow it forever?Should we go to the court to correct this as well?
If we have to before it’s too late or do you think God will allow it forever?
My comment was sarcastic. Church affairs should be handled by the church. Church and state was separated many many years ago.
So were men and women separated into roles of good and evil according to an inaccurate reading of the bible. Should we shut down churches that continue to do that?My comment was sarcastic. Church affairs should be handled by the church. Church and state was separated many many years ago.
Perhaps learn to read more carefully. We can often tend to rush in our reading and responses, though. You are reading things between the lines that are not there in my actual words. I never even hinted that the Church should fix unrighteous people. Guess what? I don't even go to Church! Nothing in the Bible tells us to do that. The word "Church", from the Bible, is just a Greek translation form the word "ecclesia" which simply means a gathering of believers at any time and any place.The problem is just as related to people who do not live Godly lives and seek intervention at an early point when an issue presents itself.
Your bringing up worse case scenarios, which seems like you feel the church should ‘fix’ ungodly people who don’t obey God at all anyways.
Lots of Christians have this starry eyed view of helping "sinners." Yes, the worst of them can sometimes be saved. The truth is, that scenario is not common. In fact, it's not common for people to be saved in general! Messiah said that "few" would enter the Kingdom of Heaven. If there were 100 people in a room and you were asked to take a few out, how many would you get?lol the progression of the conversation brings it to, throw the sinner out, excommunicate
nvmnd beauty in the eyes of the beholder
There should be a good balance of safety for those also who are unloved by unlovely people. Respect for person’s best isn’t ever forthcoming in God’s mode of operation. It shouldn’t be given to the worst. :replaces rose coloured glasses: Have a great day ya'allLots of Christians have this starry eyed view of helping "sinners." Yes, the worst of them can sometimes be saved. The truth is, that scenario is not common. In fact, it's not common for people to be saved in general! Messiah said that "few" would enter the Kingdom of Heaven. If there were 100 people in a room and you were asked to take a few out, how many would you get?
Further He said that some people are demon seed, children of the devil, who will end up in the fiery pit. He also told us NOT to give what is holy to the dogs or cast our pearls before the swine. How do we know the dogs and swine? We don't. Some that seem righteous are not really so, underneath. Some that seem hopeless will be saved. The Holy Spirit is the One Who knows what is which.
Anyone deserves a chance. But to just assume that people always even would want to be saved is naive and anti Biblical. We can pray for anyone. But if the realities - like statistics - are staring us in the face, I think it is best to turn our attention and help where it is actually going to produce some fruit. If the Holy Spirit leads otherwise, great, go for it. Again, He knows who can be saved. But, again, most, sadly, will not be whether they are Church goers or atheistic psychopaths.
We are told to treat all people with respect. We are told to love our enemies. We aren't told to trust everyone though.There should be a good balance of safety for those also who are unloved by unlovely people. Respect for person’s best isn’t ever forthcoming in God’s mode of operation. It shouldn’t be given to the worst. :replaces rose coloured glasses: Have a great day ya'all
The issue is safety in churches and it isn’t forthcoming from a particular teaching.We are told to treat all people with respect. We are told to love our enemies. We aren't told to trust everyone though.
Safety in Churches no way always correlates to safety in homes. For just one of countless reasons, there are all kinds of Churches, with all kinds of frequently completely contradictory beliefs. The topic of domestic abuse is certainly something they commonly disagree on.The issue is safety in churches and it isn’t forthcoming from a particular teaching.
And it correlates exactly with safety in homes.
There are no women in this thread that resemble that remark. It’s not like we’re sitting in a beauty parlour gossiping about the lack of any help at the church. This is a christian forum SMHWe aren't even mourning over the fact that some churches do nothing about it. We just want to make jokes now about pastors teaching martial arts? My goodness 1 Corinthians couldn't be any more louder. The focus is not, the church can't fix this so I am going to fight for this change within the church.
The reason why I brought up the situation in 1 Corinthians 5 was not to bring up a direct related situation. We are acting in this thread the way the church in Corinth was acting. And Paul was literally correcting this all throughout 1 Corinthians.
It is clear that people believe the church isn't doing what it should be doing in handling situations like abuse. That is an obvious problem. So the advice given is to not go to the church anymore for these situations? That's not how you fix a problem. Do we encourage every church everywhere to now tell people in abusive relationships, "sorry there is nothing I can do for you, go to the police. It's the new status quo." We have now become just like the church in Corinth.
We aren't even mourning over the fact that some churches do nothing about it. We just want to make jokes now about pastors teaching martial arts? My goodness 1 Corinthians couldn't be any more louder. The focus is not, the church can't fix this so I am going to fight for this change within the church. Instead it is, the church can't fix this so I am going to court. Literally the direct opposite way to fix this problem from what is given to us in Scripture (1 Corinthians 6).
If we decide to go to the court before the church, it is to our shame. Not because we make the better decision.
As I have said before in this thread...if the spouse abusing his wife is a believer, you go to the church. If the spouse abusing his wife is not a believer, you go to the court. If 1 Corinthians is not enough to convince you of this, then there's nothing I can say to change your mind. Our answer is already in the Bible. A thread about convincing others to do the direct opposite is not the answer I will align myself to.
There are no women in this thread that resemble that remark. It’s not like we’re sitting in a beauty parlour gossiping about the lack of any help at the church. This is a christian forum SMH
Can you offer any testimonies or statistics to show that even one serious domestic abuser, say someone sexually assaulting his kids and threatening to murder his wife, plus using her for a punching bag, has been turned around by Church intervention? I see you have faith that they could be helped by the Church, but do you have facts to support that faith?Shake your head all you want. It is exactly like advice is being given that doesn't reflect Scripture on a Christian forum. Part of the OP I can agree with under very specific circumstances. But this "give up on the church, church can't help you" idea, not a fan of.
Can you offer any testimonies or statistics to show that even one serious domestic abuser, say someone sexually assaulting his kids and threatening to murder his wife, plus using her for a punching bag, has been turned around by Church intervention? I see you have faith that they could be helped by the Church, but do you have facts to support that faith?