I really don't get it 
Please, anyone got any theories other than the 'opposites attract' one?
Please, anyone got any theories other than the 'opposites attract' one?
Why do shy guys go after loud, dominant women?
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i would say thats just a generalization and thats not always the case, at least from my experiences. ive seen shy guys go after the wildest girls and at the same time some other ones go after the quiet ones also.
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I really don't get it
Please, anyone got any theories other than the 'opposites attract' one?
because they are physically attracted to them and it probably helps their ego that their a failure of being so shy they get someone to "compliment" them by being the opposite.
that's my theory.
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i apologize. after re-looking at my statement, i worded that wrong. so i'm sorry for wording it wrong.
in my opinion, someone who is shy/or maybe more on a specific level unhealthy shyness, has failed in being a sociable person. it's part of survival in this world and there is no real reason to be that way.
so for someone like that to find someone of the complete opposite, outside of physical attraction, in my opinion, seems to be them finding something that either one compliments their weakness/failure or makes them feel better about themselves becauase they can't be like that, which in turn makes their ego better for a time.
i hope that explains what i meant with the first post and i apologize if i worded it wrong.
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I think it's kind of immature for guys to do that. It's like the easy way out or something. I like those types of women, but I also know that there is a big possibility of conflict.
I've realized lately the type of lady I prefer. One who's a little compassionate, maybe a little smarter than I am, is able to teach me things about dealing with life. She has also matured. She has a strong kindness to her, but is not a pushover.
I know someone like this, unfortunately she is married. But she verges on flirting with me, or at least I know she likes me, but it's not serious. It's more like a common understanding on how we approach the world. But she is strong spiritually and knows that I am a believer also. I know that she helps in her church a lot. But I'm glad I've discovered her so that I would know what type of person I like.
I've realized lately the type of lady I prefer. One who's a little compassionate, maybe a little smarter than I am, is able to teach me things about dealing with life. She has also matured. She has a strong kindness to her, but is not a pushover.
I know someone like this, unfortunately she is married. But she verges on flirting with me, or at least I know she likes me, but it's not serious. It's more like a common understanding on how we approach the world. But she is strong spiritually and knows that I am a believer also. I know that she helps in her church a lot. But I'm glad I've discovered her so that I would know what type of person I like.
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Hmmm...I don't get the logic behind your first comment.
Immature?
A 'way out'?
Care to elaborate? Maybe my brain frequency is on the decline as it's really late at night, but I would appreciate it if you could also use some analogies for me. Thank you
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radhead
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Hmmm...I don't get the logic behind your first comment.
Immature?
A 'way out'?
Care to elaborate? Maybe my brain frequency is on the decline as it's really late at night, but I would appreciate it if you could also use some analogies for me. Thank you
Sorry, I was referring to my own experiences. If it's easier for a shy guy to attract a woman who is more forward, then that's like taking the easy way out. He doesn't have to worry about trying to talk to a shy woman, who is naturally more of a challenge.
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But then you seem to be missing the 'dominant' aspect of the kind of woman I am describing.
Shouldn't men, in general, be frightened of such women?
I know I would!
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I kind of enjoy loud free-spirited women, but I clash with dominant types. Though I'm introverted, I have always had a strong personality. When people try to boss me around (unless they're an actual boss at work), I simply write them off and keep doing my own thing.
Dominating others, or being dominated by them, are equally unappealing to me. Unless, of course, 'dominating' is used to describe excelling at a particular skill or field of interest. But in a case like that, I'm not actually dominating the other person, I'm just doing the task better than them. Conversely, I won't take it personally if they do it better than me, because they're simply quite good at something... and not trying to dominate my person.
Dominating others, or being dominated by them, are equally unappealing to me. Unless, of course, 'dominating' is used to describe excelling at a particular skill or field of interest. But in a case like that, I'm not actually dominating the other person, I'm just doing the task better than them. Conversely, I won't take it personally if they do it better than me, because they're simply quite good at something... and not trying to dominate my person.
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I like your answer Listening Ears, but it does not answer the question at hand....
does it?
does it?
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In any event, what makes you think the loud dominant woman is any different from the shy woman when it comes to responding to the shy guys advances?Too stupid, more like!
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I don't think this is always the case, I think submissive men are attracted to dominent women. But not shy men, frequently submissive men are shy, but this is not always the case. I am extremely shy, but I am also a type A personality in a fairly extreme sense, I am simply not attracted to loud domineering women. I think it's more that we look for the puzzle peice that matches our personality style, two submissive people is ineffective, as would be to domininent.
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