Why are single moms wrong without knowing the situation?

[Alexandra S.]

I have noticed that when a Christian single mother asks how good Christian men feel about single mothers, often times it is assumed that the single mother made a "mistake" or was a "fornicator" in which conceived the child out of wedlock....this seems to be assumed almost always from Christian men as I have seen.

This is frustrating to me and I am sure to others in the same situation because I am a pregnant woman who is married and my husband committed adultery and then abandoned me and our unborn child. There was no "mistake" made by me, my child was planned and conceived within wedlock with no intention of being raised in a fatherless family. Unfortunately my husband chose lust over his marriage and child.

Will good, Christian men always see my son and I and assume that I have a bad past and made a "mistake"?

-abandonedchristianmommy

 

[thecolorsblend]

I have noticed that when a Christian single mother asks how good Christian men feel about single mothers, often times it is assumed that the single mother made a "mistake" or was a "fornicator" in which conceived the child out of wedlock....this seems to be assumed almost always from Christian men as I have seen.

It's often assumed because it is frequently true.

 

[Alexandra S.]

It's often assumed because it is frequently true.

That gives us not in that situation a big disadvantage for finding a GOOD husband it seems.

 

[thecolorsblend]

That gives us not in that situation a big disadvantage for finding a GOOD husband it seems.

It sucks, that's for sure. I'm sorry to hear about your misfortune. Certainly you have sympathies.

But your case is rather unique. Which makes it even sadder, in my opinion.

Either way, hope things turn out okay for you and your family.

 

[Humble me Lord]

Not if you find a good Christian man, my wife had 3 kids when we met, and married 17 years ago.
There is no shortage of self proclaimed Christians that judge others without knowing anything.
God does have a plan for your life, so keep a close relationship with Him, and let Him guide you.

 

[Alexandra S.]

Not if you find a good Christian man, my wife had 3 kids when we met, and married 17 years ago.
There is no shortage of self proclaimed Christians that judge others without knowing anything.
God does have a plan for your life, so keep a close relationship with Him, and let Him guide you.

Thank you so much for such an encouraging comment. I shouldn't worry about if or when I find the husband I am meant for, instead know God will bring him to me when the time is right.

 

[Humble me Lord]

Isaiah 40:31, one of my favorite verses.

 

[Caterpillar5]

I have noticed that when a Christian single mother asks how good Christian men feel about single mothers, often times it is assumed that the single mother made a "mistake" or was a "fornicator" in which conceived the child out of wedlock....this seems to be assumed almost always from Christian men as I have seen.

This is frustrating to me and I am sure to others in the same situation because I am a pregnant woman who is married and my husband committed adultery and then abandoned me and our unborn child. There was no "mistake" made by me, my child was planned and conceived within wedlock with no intention of being raised in a fatherless family. Unfortunately my husband chose lust over his marriage and child.

Will good, Christian men always see my son and I and assume that I have a bad past and made a "mistake"?

-abandonedchristianmommy

My heart goes out to you!

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

I shouldn't worry about if or when I find the husband I am meant for, instead know God will bring him to me when the time is right.

Realize the enemy will bring perhaps dozens BEFORE God says it is the right time.
Just as the enemy brought one already (that left).
The wrong ones far outnumber the "right ones".

 

[Kit Sigmon]

These days it's good to be firmly planted in the faith and keeping your eyes
on the Lord, cause the ol' devil be prowling around seeking to ensnare those
who be weak in the faith.
Do you have christian mentors and prayer warriors on this situation?

As for good christian men thoughts on single and or divorced moms that
be a subject for another day...it be enough for you to concentrate on having a healthy pregnancy and having things fixed up for the new arrival.
You going to be busy enough once the baby is born.