I know its probably not wise to make a hard and fast rule about this, however I have been looking for a local church or even a fellowship group for a number of years (I live in N Ireland) , and i am somewhat reserved by disposition. I refuse labels like introvert, extrovert. All the same with Gods help I often make a move, be it to people beside, or in front when I sit down to say hello, or comment on the weather at least. I don't find the same from many who seem to be regular attenders at some of these churches I go toward me, and to be honest I don't see why it has to be me making the first move. I am a fairly private person, don't share much personal stuff except with people I know well. I just don't seem to be good at small talk. I go through periods of depression and unbelief. The last church the minister has shown himself friendly, in that he goes round the pews and greets people before the service. Other churches I went to I joined up to house groups but those really were at times an almost intolerable stress. As I find some people almost impossible to approach, I suppose its not inconceivable that some find me the same? I don't see why attendance at every service , or house meeting is necessary, and I detest being pressed to join one on my first few times to a church. Anyway my life is a mess, and I little want to share the details with people in churches I don't know that well, or who won't understand. Seems like a double bind.
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