Where do you draw the line when you and some family members feel you are being walked all over and used by another family member?
This is the situation. My sister is legally blind. She has always been catered to all her life, especially when my mom was alive. After she passed away she went down hill. We tried to get her out of the house, but she would always back out. She recently moved to Austin to attend Chris Cole Rehabiltation, and the point of this is to build her confindence. She has to do everything during the day with a blindfold, which includes walking to bus stops, crossing streets, ect. We by all means want to help her in everyway we can, but we are beginning to feel a little burned out. She hardly ever calls unless she needs something. She has made us feel bad by stating she didn't feel that she belonged while she was her, and that my other sister and I left her out. I know this is not true, we ALWAYS asked her to go anywhere we went, she was the one who always backed out.
Secondly, both of our husbands can see it too. It frustrates them. Like this last weekend when she was coming down. She never called me and said she was going to come and stay with us and assumed that we would take her to the bus stop. Again, we have no problem with this, but a little respect would be nice. I tried to call her to get the info. about everything and she put me on hold and never came back. She just comes down to get her hair done, and then goes back home.
She has a lot of negative feelings inside her. She holds everything in and holds grudges in a bad way. My feeling is that the last thing she needs is anymore negative, but a lot of love. Which leads me to should we still continue to cater to her or should we put our foot down on some things. There are many, many more instances that I could bring up, but it would take a lot of typing. As a Christian, I want to do what is right and set a good example, especially for the rest of my non christian family. I don't want to turn her away, and give her the wrong impression. I try to ask myself WWJD, and I think he would obviously help her, but would he draw the line?
Any advice would be great!
This is the situation. My sister is legally blind. She has always been catered to all her life, especially when my mom was alive. After she passed away she went down hill. We tried to get her out of the house, but she would always back out. She recently moved to Austin to attend Chris Cole Rehabiltation, and the point of this is to build her confindence. She has to do everything during the day with a blindfold, which includes walking to bus stops, crossing streets, ect. We by all means want to help her in everyway we can, but we are beginning to feel a little burned out. She hardly ever calls unless she needs something. She has made us feel bad by stating she didn't feel that she belonged while she was her, and that my other sister and I left her out. I know this is not true, we ALWAYS asked her to go anywhere we went, she was the one who always backed out.
Secondly, both of our husbands can see it too. It frustrates them. Like this last weekend when she was coming down. She never called me and said she was going to come and stay with us and assumed that we would take her to the bus stop. Again, we have no problem with this, but a little respect would be nice. I tried to call her to get the info. about everything and she put me on hold and never came back. She just comes down to get her hair done, and then goes back home.
She has a lot of negative feelings inside her. She holds everything in and holds grudges in a bad way. My feeling is that the last thing she needs is anymore negative, but a lot of love. Which leads me to should we still continue to cater to her or should we put our foot down on some things. There are many, many more instances that I could bring up, but it would take a lot of typing. As a Christian, I want to do what is right and set a good example, especially for the rest of my non christian family. I don't want to turn her away, and give her the wrong impression. I try to ask myself WWJD, and I think he would obviously help her, but would he draw the line?
Any advice would be great!
It is so hard sometimes to let a person you love with all your heart to let them do things on their own and learn. Your sister is really struggling to find herself after being waited on all her life. It's something that takes time. It's like when a person moves out of the house and is on their own for the first time. It's struggle to get out in the real world and fend for yourself. I can't imagine how scared your sister must be. Not only blind but on her own. And she might be still trying to deal with her grief over losing mom. And sometimes we just don't know where to direct our anger and sometimes we take it out on the wrong person. I think I can totally understand her anger and fustration. It's got to be so hard. It's going to take a lot of prayer and patience. But God will do his work in her and it will be okay. I will continue to lift you and your family up in prayer. I hope what I have felt lead to type here will help, and I always give my favorite verse for when people are struggling, I hope this lifts your spirits. 
