- Aug 4, 2020
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- Single
Dear brothers and sisters,
Thank you for your community and shared brotherhood in Christ! Social media tends to be so sin-saturated; it's refreshing and comforting to find Christian community during COVID online.
Lately I've been having trouble with temptation to lust. Fortunately, there are no specific behavioral stumbling blocks around me at the moment. However, it brings to mind 1 Corinthians 7:8-9: "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." I'm not entirely sure yet whether God calls me to singleness or to marriage, especially as this isn't a problem I normally have. However, if God does have it in his plan for me to be married, then eventually it would be good for me to meet single men who are marriage-minded and love Him.
One caution I've had against dating right now is that I'm a student (I'm 21), and don't know where I'll live or how long I'll be in school at the moment. For that matter, I'm not even sure if I'm meant to be married. As an Orthodox catechumen, I'm really curious about monastic life and vocation. This fall is the last year of my bachelor's degree; next summer, I'll hopefully start a 15-month master's degree, and be applying for jobs or PhD programs in two years. One of my dearest friends, who is also my academic advisor, strongly recommends that I look at PhD programs in Germany. It would be a huge joy to research, but I'm in the humanities and full-time academic jobs are close to nonexistent; getting a tenure-track job would involve years of relocating, searching, and sacrificing.
Given that I don't know what the future holds, should I entirely put off dating until I'm done with my last degree? How about until I have a full-time job? Although God says through Paul that it's better to marry than to burn with passion—and also, the idea of having a lifelong partner sounds wonderful—God also says that it is good to stay unmarried. There is still so much sin in my heart that can be conquered.
How do you pray when you're looking for direction?
Thank you for your community and shared brotherhood in Christ! Social media tends to be so sin-saturated; it's refreshing and comforting to find Christian community during COVID online.
Lately I've been having trouble with temptation to lust. Fortunately, there are no specific behavioral stumbling blocks around me at the moment. However, it brings to mind 1 Corinthians 7:8-9: "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." I'm not entirely sure yet whether God calls me to singleness or to marriage, especially as this isn't a problem I normally have. However, if God does have it in his plan for me to be married, then eventually it would be good for me to meet single men who are marriage-minded and love Him.
One caution I've had against dating right now is that I'm a student (I'm 21), and don't know where I'll live or how long I'll be in school at the moment. For that matter, I'm not even sure if I'm meant to be married. As an Orthodox catechumen, I'm really curious about monastic life and vocation. This fall is the last year of my bachelor's degree; next summer, I'll hopefully start a 15-month master's degree, and be applying for jobs or PhD programs in two years. One of my dearest friends, who is also my academic advisor, strongly recommends that I look at PhD programs in Germany. It would be a huge joy to research, but I'm in the humanities and full-time academic jobs are close to nonexistent; getting a tenure-track job would involve years of relocating, searching, and sacrificing.
Given that I don't know what the future holds, should I entirely put off dating until I'm done with my last degree? How about until I have a full-time job? Although God says through Paul that it's better to marry than to burn with passion—and also, the idea of having a lifelong partner sounds wonderful—God also says that it is good to stay unmarried. There is still so much sin in my heart that can be conquered.
How do you pray when you're looking for direction?