when it is hardest to be alone

[blackribbon]

waiting for test results...especially when the wait will be longer than a week

....that is too much time to live in your own head

 

[JAM2b]

I have gone through this so many times. I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. The worst part about being single is walking through things alone.

It's also hard to be alone when your kids are going through a medical or psychological situation. And it's hard when they have serious life struggles, and you are the only adult in their life.

These situations make me feel isolated, on my own, and I get this panic that comes over me.

 

[Take Heart]

This may or may not be helpful..but I've found that distracting myself with things like spending time with God, cooking, treating myself to a restaurant, shoppng, watching movies helps me personally. I also feel better and I try to make the most of things during that waiting period and remind myself that God is faithful no matter the outcome. That He is sovereign and He's got me no matter what.

 

[blackribbon]

Distraction techniques are great unless you are confined to home recovering.

 

[Revived]

Speaking of walking through things alone, I'm reminded of the Casting Crowns song that is often played of late on Christian radio ("Oh My Soul"). The lyrics are apropos and uplifting. Sending prayers!

 

[exitstageright]

waiting for test results...especially when the wait will be longer than a week

....that is too much time to live in your own head

On a cold,and/or rainy night,when I need,and/or want someone to cuddle with.

 

[blackribbon]

FYI: Path results are back. Not nothing but a diagnosis that I can live with. I have a kind doctor who didn't make me wait until next week's appointment.

 

[Evie1980]

Oh that is good. It is great to have a doctor who cares for you. I am glad that it is something you can handle.
For myself, I have a few tests and a minor surgery to go through soon. I am ever thankful for my parents to help me through it as, being single, I wouldn't know what to do if I didn't have them (especially as I need someone to take care of me after the surgery).
Yes, there are many times it is hard being alone. The times when I have to make a big decision and I am not sure what to do or whose advice to take... that is when I feel it the most.

 

[blackribbon]

To have surgery, I have to find someone to sit up at the hospital for the whole time. I wonder if I can just designate a fellow nurse on my unit who is working that day.... <sigh> The doctor already said I will have to spend the night so this person isn't even there to get me home safely.

 

[JAM2b]

I'm so sorry

 

[Evie1980]

To have surgery, I have to find someone to sit up at the hospital for the whole time. I wonder if I can just designate a fellow nurse on my unit who is working that day.... <sigh> The doctor already said I will have to spend the night so this person isn't even there to get me home safely.

That is hard. I do hope and pray that you will find someone. It is even harder that you have to stay a night. I hope it all goes well and you have a speedy recovery.

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

I am so sorry, just prayed for you

 

[Sir Robbins]

anytime my MS acts up. I'm confined to my bed with no one living with me. I can be there for hours and even have to crawl to the bathroom.... I'm certain my medical issues keep me single too and that just makes it worse

 

[blackribbon]

anytime my MS acts up. I'm confined to my bed with no one living with me. I can be there for hours and even have to crawl to the bathroom.... I'm certain my medical issues keep me single too and that just makes it worse

Maybe consider getting a bedside commode for these flares. Not the same as having someone but the practical side is to find a way to make it on our own.

On the plus side, my kids are stepping up and going to be there physically. However, I can't share my worries and concerns with them, especially those related to cancer. They can't worry about losing both parents to cancer.

 

[Servant68]

So sorry you're going through this.

 

[blackribbon]

Thx. I am hopeful that this might be the end of most my pains and I will feel like living again.

 

[Servant68]

Thx. I am hopeful that this might be the end of most my pains and I will feel like living again.

I had no idea that you were in such dire straits. I'm sorry for your struggles and will pray for you.

 

[Sir Robbins]

Maybe consider getting a bedside commode for these flares. Not the same as having someone but the practical side is to find a way to make it on our own.

On the plus side, my kids are stepping up and going to be there physically. However, I can't share my worries and concerns with them, especially those related to cancer. They can't worry about losing both parents to cancer.

fortunately, the bathroom is in my bedroom and is maybe 6 feet from the edge of the bed. It's very rare it gets this bad but it does. Most of the time is balancing issues or having the strength to walk without leaning on things. Weakness and tiredness are my big ones.

 

[blackribbon]

fortunately, the bathroom is in my bedroom and is maybe 6 feet from the edge of the bed. It's very rare it gets this bad but it does. Most of the time is balancing issues or having the strength to walk without leaning on things. Weakness and tiredness are my big ones.

Get a walker for those days. And I know that MS sucks. I'm sorry. Take care of yourself, resting when you need to.

 

[blackribbon]

I know I am really lucky because my surgery is expected to end all my pain issues. Too many people like you don't have that even as a possibility.