Greetings All,
I would like to know when and how the marriage covenant is broken. My ex-husband and I have been legally divorced for 10 years. He filed for divorce. In that time frame we both dated other people. I know for sure that he has been intimate with other women. I have met a wonderful Christian man that I would like to marry and I would like to know if the covenant I had with my first husband is broken by our legal divorce or even by his being intimate with another person.
The whole marriage system is really nonsense, because it is God who joins and man and a wife. You can be married to someone without even going through a ceremony, and you can be not married to someone even though you go through a ceremony.
If you were genuinely married and the divorce was not right before God, which it would not have been if God joined you body and soul -- something only God can do... then he has been committing adultery and forcing you to commit adultery.
There are a lot of caveats. While polygamy may be illegal in the eyes of some nations, that was largely to persecute religions, primarily the Mormon religion. The patriarchs had multiple wives.
I do not think that is wise, but it is not unlawful.
Another caveat is if the divorce happened because of outside pressure, such a cult that engages in arranged marriages... or when another woman uses her spiritual strength and powers to cause the divorce.
It is all by conscience.
When Jesus returns (the dead rise first), then the resurrection of the dead happens, and the Kingdom of God is set up. In the Kingdom of God the entire marriage and divorce system is null and void. Unless you are part of the resurrection of the dead and there is some gigantic behemoth of a secret society out there just preparing to take over the world... then this is not the case.
Otherwise, in the Kingdom of God all people are family, so it is a moot point. You are joined to all people. Not sexually of course, that would be sick.
In such a case, people would not have any conscience problem at all, because they would all be one flesh and one spirit anyway.