What's wrong with my life?

[Highly Favoured]

My life had a major change for the past year. I've been through high and low. But things are getting out of hand lately and I myself don't even know what's the problem and I have kept to myself and shutting myself away from people.

Last year, I used to have a group of friends that gather together to share the love of God but due to some reason, the leader of the group dismiss it and didn't give the members a satisfied reason and left all the members puzzled and hurt!

From what I heard lately, the leader actually married one of the members.
One member when to a cult church, One is not attending Church anymore. And one of them is me. Seem like nobody is keeping in touch anymore.

From then onward, I felt cheated by what the leader did and even confronted him and not even once did he say out the reason and choose to hit away.

I can't deny that God is good and He has indeed blessed me last year. I won a Big prize, went oversea twice.

But then, from there onwards, things started to surface.

FAMILY – My family are non-believer. Recently, my Mom would get suspicion of my Dad and would say nasty thing, which really upset me. And they will always quarrel in front of me and this really breaks my heart. And I don’t really know how to approach them and solve the problem. On days that are goods, things are fine. If not, you can really feel the tension and this really make the family on the verge.

FRIENDS – I thank God for them especially my best friend who is also in Christ. But then, she so caught up in he life that sometime we don’t have the time to fellowship. All I need is a word of concern and her presence but all I receive is a mobile msg from her. We are now having cold war, previously we have talk out our differences but then things are still the same and even when we meet. She gave me this feeling that something is happening but she choose not to voice out and slowly I learnt to keep my mouth shut and say nothing at all. It’s not the pride that I don’t wanna sort things out but I’m so disappointed beyond hope.

WORK – I believe that as child of God when the world fight to climb the corporate ladder we only have to rest in the Lord and He will fight for me. But I facing problem with my boss when she’s pressured, she will always vent it on me and she will always use the kind of tome that I’m the one who did the wrong thing.

Help, what’s going on? I’ve been told that God won’t test me beyond my limits but then, I really breaking down and it’s so easy to give up.

 

[BlackRain]

cling to your last sentence! God will never make you go thru more than you can't handle with him. yeah it's easy to give up...i did it last night. but, anyway...if you give up, what will you learn? giving up is too easy...following Christ isn't meant for that road. he wants to see if you'll still love him, and talk to him even though your world is falling before you. i'm at fault for it also. i'm at fault for not allowing myself to embrace Christ at times when i need to. but remember the thorns come before the rose. he's shaping you and chisling at you so you can become who he wants you to be. it's a hard step to take...but i know it's worth it. you can do this! God doesn't say that you're life will be perfect and nothing will go wrong...but he does promise us a place to hide. hide in him!! take refuge under his wing.
the only christians in my family are my immediate family. it's really hard to go to family gatherings and such. love them. no matter what they say or what they do love them. i know it's hard and you feel retarted at times, but it's worth it. let them see Christ in you.
maybe your boss is under a lot of pressure. maybe she's stressing over stuff. love her unconditionally. pray for love. pray that God will give you his love to show people. that's how i love my family..with Christ's love because if i didn't have that, i'd have no love for them whatsoever. they're so mean and selfish. it's so annoying!! but God doesnt' just call us to minister to a world that knows him, he calls us to minister to those who are in the dark. he calls us to take up his cross and follow him. meaning: to sacrifice yourself daily for the cause of Christ. putting him first and you last. you can do this! feel free to pm me or talk online with me anytime. i'm so sorry you're going thru this. but know the Lord has a plan in all he does. he really cares for you right now and he loves you deeply!!...more than you'll ever know. you sound so stressed out so get some rest!! i think you need it. my heart goes out to you, girl!

 

[Johnnz]

People, even church leaders aren't God. Sometimes that let us down, but don't confuse that with God letting you down.

Boss problems are not easy. Sometimes it is best to find another job.

Feel fre to pm me if you want some moredetaled help with your work issue.

John
NZ

 

[Evie]

My life had a major change for the past year. I've been through high and low. But things are getting out of hand lately and I myself don't even know what's the problem and I have kept to myself and shutting myself away from people.

Last year, I used to have a group of friends that gather together to share the love of God but due to some reason, the leader of the group dismiss it and didn't give the members a satisfied reason and left all the members puzzled and hurt!

From what I heard lately, the leader actually married one of the members.
One member when to a cult church, One is not attending Church anymore. And one of them is me. Seem like nobody is keeping in touch anymore.

From then onward, I felt cheated by what the leader did and even confronted him and not even once did he say out the reason and choose to hit away.

I can't deny that God is good and He has indeed blessed me last year. I won a Big prize, went oversea twice.

But then, from there onwards, things started to surface.

FAMILY – My family are non-believer. Recently, my Mom would get suspicion of my Dad and would say nasty thing, which really upset me. And they will always quarrel in front of me and this really breaks my heart. And I don’t really know how to approach them and solve the problem. On days that are goods, things are fine. If not, you can really feel the tension and this really make the family on the verge.

FRIENDS – I thank God for them especially my best friend who is also in Christ. But then, she so caught up in he life that sometime we don’t have the time to fellowship. All I need is a word of concern and her presence but all I receive is a mobile msg from her. We are now having cold war, previously we have talk out our differences but then things are still the same and even when we meet. She gave me this feeling that something is happening but she choose not to voice out and slowly I learnt to keep my mouth shut and say nothing at all. It’s not the pride that I don’t wanna sort things out but I’m so disappointed beyond hope.

WORK – I believe that as child of God when the world fight to climb the corporate ladder we only have to rest in the Lord and He will fight for me. But I facing problem with my boss when she’s pressured, she will always vent it on me and she will always use the kind of tome that I’m the one who did the wrong thing.

Help, what’s going on? I’ve been told that God won’t test me beyond my limits but then, I really breaking down and it’s so easy to give up.

yep, we will have our trials that's for sure. I liked what the other post stated about clingy to your last sentence. Christ is what we do need to reach towards. Just keep pressing on,He will always be faithful. I know of anyone, life can be difficult and hard and believe me I went through the whole leaving my church because of of strange things that occurred their that were not bibical,but we just gotta keep pushing towards the prize. Let Him be your goal sweetie. Praying for a better year ahead for you.

 

[soyness]

Goodness gracious. My testimony is similar to one. I left a cultic church and my leader acts like i'm worthless and ****! She refuses to communicate and I am the most hurt from her because I had "disappointed her". I am still dealing with it, although my friends are about to throw me out the window whenever i talk about this church/ this leader. I know how it feels. This leader was my best friend and she became otherwise when I had something against the church/ministry.

It's so painful. I have another similar thing where my best friend and I are far away (we haven't seen each other in months) and i try to connect with her from time to time, but she's so irresponsive! I get so discouraged. I mean she's busy with school since she's an art student and I don't blame her or anything. But i know, it hurts when people don't respond. But thank God for Jesus who is always responds like Isaiah 53 who carried our infirmities and sorrows.

But I think God is planning for bigger plans. So don't fret or fear. That's the whole deal of hoping in Him who gives us the Light we need. Let's persevere.

 

[Bain_Adaneth]

Highly Favoured,
I'm sorry that you're having such a bad time..... Yeah, life is not always want we want it to be....I've had my fair share of being beaten down alrready...I know that churches are not perfect, and we have to understand that it's really because people who make up the church are NOT perfect....that's why there is no such thing as the "right" church....have you ever thought about that leader, and if he was sorry about what he did? Just curious....In the past I have gotten mad at people who did something truely wrong, and then I feel so guilty because I never noticed that they've already ask God for forgiveness and was moving on to become a better person....and guilt is there because I find that I haven't forgiven them yet......now I try to look at it from the other's prospective....Highly Favoured, just PM me if you want to talk....I can't believe what I'm hearing about your parents, you know....that would totally make me feel sick if my parents were talking like that in front of me too.....if you don't want to approach them, one thing you can do to avoid it is to go to your room, I guess that's like a "silent sign" saying, "I don't want to hear this!" I, personally would be bawling if my boss does that to me, I don't work good under pressure....(esp. because I'm working with people lives)....is there any good way you can tell your boss not to get in your face (in a good way)?

 

[perfection]

I can put it in one sentence what is wrong in your life " lack of love " , these people you all know are just putting up 'masks' , they are such lovers of god, (erm yeah right) , these people you know are just plain selfish, and ego-trippers jesus warned about. They are like the people who walked passed by the dying person on the ground(unlike the Samitarian who helped him). You see this is essential, to be like the samitarian and show your love for others. Only by putting droplets of love and light into their lives, they will get to be more loving persons themselves. There's just a lot of darkness in your life that you aren't aware about.

Let me give you a quick tutorial what you have to do.

Imagine everything like a big pond, When something falls into the pond it's ripple effect spreads everywhere and affects everything.

When a droplet of love is put into the situation it's love will spread around the entire pond. (is achieved by doing small acts of love)

When a droplet of darkness is put into the situation it's hatred will spread around the entire pond.

It's the sum total of these droplets which makes a situation pure evil darknes, or love and light effecting everyone and everything.

For instance when your mom yelled against your dad it effected you , instead of yelling if she would give him a hug or kiss, it would be considered as a droplet of light effecting you in a good manner.

 

[mmreed]

Do not put your faith in man. No pastor, minister, whomever, can instruct you on what God wants your life to be. Only you, through direct prayer and talk with God can come to that conclusion.

A friend of mine told me the following:

Here is how we hear from God:

1. We have a desire to hear from Him.

2. We ask for His help.

3. We find a place that is free from distractions and quiet.

4. We go to this place daily and spend at least 30 minutes there.

5. We sit quietly not thinking or doing anything.

6. For most they will fall asleep since the body is trained to go to sleep if they are still, and quiet for a few mins. So what you have to do is retrain the body not to fall asleep at this time.
7. We do this daily for as long as it takes until we hear. For most it is 6 months, but there have been a few that took only a few weeks, and a few that took longer. It depends on how many walls there are in you.

8. When you hear you ask one question, "Did Jesus Christ come in the flesh?" If you hear, "no" tell Satan to go to Hell. If you hear, "yes" you listen, and in time ask questions.

9. You allow this to grow in you, from 30 mins a day, to hours a day until you are hearing constantly.

 

[TheMainException]

Do not put your faith in man. No pastor, minister, whomever, can instruct you on what God wants your life to be. Only you, through direct prayer and talk with God can come to that conclusion.

A friend of mine told me the following:

Here is how we hear from God:

1. We have a desire to hear from Him.

2. We ask for His help.

3. We find a place that is free from distractions and quiet.

4. We go to this place daily and spend at least 30 minutes there.

5. We sit quietly not thinking or doing anything.

6. For most they will fall asleep since the body is trained to go to sleep if they are still, and quiet for a few mins. So what you have to do is retrain the body not to fall asleep at this time.
7. We do this daily for as long as it takes until we hear. For most it is 6 months, but there have been a few that took only a few weeks, and a few that took longer. It depends on how many walls there are in you.

8. When you hear you ask one question, "Did Jesus Christ come in the flesh?" If you hear, "no" tell Satan to go to Hell. If you hear, "yes" you listen, and in time ask questions.

9. You allow this to grow in you, from 30 mins a day, to hours a day until you are hearing constantly.

wow.....this clicks with me.........

 

[mikeforjesus]

so how do u apply that to those with narcolepsy who sleep at the drop of a hat where it is impossible I think to sit for thirty minutes? dont we get answers if we just are serious when we read the bible constantly and suddenly u know what to do one day. And ofcourse prayer and we can always ask advice from other christians.

 

[Highly Favoured]

Hi all,

thanx for the encouragement. As you see I've not been coming to the forum for sometime.

Really tired of facing all these people. I'm trying my best to keep my peace. It's tough but I'm learning to hear from God.

Basically, that's wat my mom and dad are doing! Yelling at each other but more of complaining to me about the other's fault! I have told God I won't let myself be troubled by them.

Other than than, new problems would arise! Like in my working. I really like my job but then I dread facing my boss! She gave me a feeling that she's striving for the top mgt and would do anything to reach there. As for me, I just wanna do my job and I'm satfised with it. I hate to left the work I like but if got have other plans. I'm sure he will put me in a better place with better pay too.

Then recently, I sort of dreading to meet my groups of galfriends. But I've have to coz we are attending a language course together. Other than that, we just go shopping and nothing else. And at the end of that, I'm totally drained out. So I came to a point that I rather forgo the course and the fee and stop going. I'm sure it will upset them but rather I feel much better after that.

I'm sure and near the end of all this problem and God is bringing me out to something better.

Other thing that came to me is I felt I'm ready for baptism. But the main obstacle is my Dad, did mention to him abt it but he strongly disagree with it.

 

[trust_faith]

sometimes God put things in your life but you don't like it. Sometimes is a test of your trust and faith towards God. You might think that your life is like very rubbish now.. ups and downs for you. But God might have better plans for you in the future.
Do whatever things, Thank Him. He is the only one that will know what is going to happen in your future in your life.