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What's On Your Mind?

Discussion in 'Married Couples' started by NerdGirl, Oct 26, 2020.

  1. NerdGirl

    NerdGirl The untamed daughter

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    I'm trying to process the fact that I'm not sad, stressed, worried, hurt, and frustrated constantly anymore.

    I must have gotten very used to feeling that way. I suppose it's not surprising, when that was my reality for years on end.

    Things that used to make me feel depressed or downcast or melancholy...don't seem so dire anymore.

    I'm not used to feeling happy about going home after work. I'm not used to looking forward to weekends.

    It feels strange to be comfortable in my own home.

    Strange and...good.

    And I don't know how to feel about feeling that way.
     
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    Apparently this thread somehow posted twice. And the one that had an actual conversation in it got deleted instead of this one :)
     
  3. Tolworth John

    Tolworth John Well-Known Member Supporter

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    May I suggest that you simple enjoy not being stressed, sad, worried etc and plan some simple things to enjoy.

    I enjoy pottering about on Saturday, doing what needs to be done, meals are basic, but part of the pottering is preparing fora family meal together after church on Sunday.
    Often there is nothing worth watching on TV so we will play a game, dominoes or someother group tabletop game.
     
  4. NerdGirl

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    Thank you! I am trying :) It's hard to describe. I find myself enjoying these simple little things, but then there's this sort of bewilderment overshadowing it. Is it okay to feel this way? Should I feel guilty for tiny bits of happiness? Shouldn't I be miserable and broken and prostrate on my face?

    I'm very much enjoying the same types of things. The simplest, most basic things. Making meals. Tidying up and doing little household chores. Running errands. Even paying bills! Sitting and looking out the window. Going to bed.

    It's just a confusing transition for me to process. To actually enjoy a day. For the past several years, anytime someone asked me "How are you?" my answer was never better than an "I'm okay". It was never "I'm good" or "I'm great".
     
  5. Tolworth John

    Tolworth John Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Follow the advice in that old, old hymn, Count your blessings, name them one by one etc etc
    You have the right to be happy in the strangest circumstances.

    You can also turn that into a prayer of praise, now that requires concentrating as it's so easy to own and complain, tell God what is making you glad.
     
  6. NerdGirl

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    I used to love that hymn!

    You're right. I need to do that. James 1:17 - Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. I shouldn't be doubting blessings, but enjoying them, and openly being thankful for them. It's hard to do so, or to give ourselves permission to feel such things, in the midst of hurtful or sad circumstances.

    Thank you for your sage and sensible advice. I need it :)
     
  7. NerdGirl

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    I discovered "Netflix & Chill'd" ice cream today. It is divine.
     
  8. NerdGirl

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    Farewell, perfect post count!
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  9. NerdGirl

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    I was looking back over my very old posts here on CF from 2012 and found this in a "3 Things From Your Bucket List" thread.

    See the American west (including the desert and Rockies).

    Explore a castle un-guided (I HATE guided tours), even if I have to pay out the wazoo for the privilege.

    Own a horse :)


    I am sad that I have done none of these in the past 8 years.
     
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