Recently, my wife came into contact with a college-aged young man who is not a Christian as far as we know. My wife, being the friendly person she is, spoke kindly to him and upon learning that he needed some help with elderly care resources, offered me to help him with it.
However, over the past few months, this young man keeps messaging my wife privately and asking to meet up for a meal. He knows that she is married and suggested that the three of us can meet up together. Neither of us particularly want to meet up with this youngster as we are very busy with ministries in and around the church. Time is a resource that we don't have at the moment. Furthermore, my wife feels extremely uncomfortable with him messaging her.
Based on what I've read of their conversation, he seems genuinely harmless and simply wants a form of connection and some help for his grandmother.
Which leads me to my question: as Christians, how do we decide certain boundaries? My wife and I both acknowledge passages such as:
and
But at the same time, we don't have time for him nor do we want his intrusive messages at periodic times asking to meet up.
So, how do we decide what to do in this case? We want to be "good Christians" but don't want to do something just because we have to do it.
Would it be right to message this young man and be up front with what we can and cannot do and ask him to stop messaging my wife?
However, over the past few months, this young man keeps messaging my wife privately and asking to meet up for a meal. He knows that she is married and suggested that the three of us can meet up together. Neither of us particularly want to meet up with this youngster as we are very busy with ministries in and around the church. Time is a resource that we don't have at the moment. Furthermore, my wife feels extremely uncomfortable with him messaging her.
Based on what I've read of their conversation, he seems genuinely harmless and simply wants a form of connection and some help for his grandmother.
Which leads me to my question: as Christians, how do we decide certain boundaries? My wife and I both acknowledge passages such as:
Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it. -Hebrews 13:2
and
But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. -Matthew 5:39
But at the same time, we don't have time for him nor do we want his intrusive messages at periodic times asking to meet up.
So, how do we decide what to do in this case? We want to be "good Christians" but don't want to do something just because we have to do it.
Would it be right to message this young man and be up front with what we can and cannot do and ask him to stop messaging my wife?