If the guy you were contacting was a good-looking, well adjusted socially, and had everything together, you would have ZERO problems with his advancements.
However he isn't, so he is delegated to "creepy perv".
It's just my observation. You can disagree.
I love effeminate, gentle men. My type is actually scrawny, soft spoken, nerdy looking guys. I don't care about money or affluence, or social status, or muscles. I am at the bottom of the totem pole so I know I don't have much going for myself anyway, and I know more about life to know you can't judge a book by its cover.
The problem I have with this dude is, he constantly expects me to bring him up when he is down. That is not my responsibility. When we message it is pretty one-sided. It's always about his feelings and his problems--I never get a chance to seek comfort from him, it's always me giving comfort to him. I validate him, tell him he is funny, tell him he is okay and loved yet he never believes it. He is a leech to my spirit that is bringing me down and confusing my heart. He is nice and matches my personality, but some of the stuff he has said to me worries me. He has said how easy it would be to kill himself, he knows all kinds of ways to die. It freaks me out. I don't want to get caught up with a would-be serial killer. The guy has issues, and I don't want to be entangled in it.
I have let my loneliness get the best of me and allow me to stoop low to accept and seek attention from vulnerable men online and I am kicking myself in the foot for it. I wish I would have never started a conversation with this guy. This guy does not care about me, he only messages me because I give his ego a boost and make him feel better about himself. He is using me.
BTW I believe people, both men and women, should only enter romantic relationships when they are secure in themselves and in their relationship with God before entering one with someone else. Insecurity while entering a relationship will only led to co-dependency and sin.
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