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Hello everyone,
I have never heard of a therapist or medical provider doing this before. What is it that I can do in situations like this or if it happens again?
I'm not sure where to even start when it comes to navigating a mental health clinic's system. They are my only option for a medical provider due to insurance and my family is paying for any other cost of my medical while in school which I'm temporarily having to take a break from due to having to improve my mental health.
Here is some background on my situation:
My therapist has acted very odd in the past. I started seeing her over my winter break. My dad had accompanied me to the first few sessions to talk about how to deal with my school in the midst of trying to get help for my mental/physical health issues, since I was experiencing severe and frequent panic attacks that were debilitating. I remember that when I started seeing my new therapist that it was to talk about past parental abuse, trauma, anxiety, and my other disabilities, but after experiencing the panic attacks and going too hard for too long with school I had to also take a break. I also am having to change course with my therapy some in order to go back to school which my parents are paying for everything including my room and board off campus. My therapist advised me to get a job, so that I can become independent of my parents. At first I said yes, but then I remembered that I was taking a break from school, work, and everything, because my mind needs to rest. So, the next time that we talked I expressed that to her and she totally disagreed. She kept pushing me to go with her method and get a job and she didn't want to change course with my therapy in the time being until my mind got the rest and rejuvenation that it needs and to work through my disabilities. I told her that I may need to get a different therapist to work with me. She said that she thought that wasn't what I needed, but I knew that the choice was up to me. She expressed that she was very concerned about me, my situation, and my suicidal/self-harm thoughts. Though, I was and still am having thoughts I haven't acted on them. She also told me that I was not ready.
Soon after this, I tried going to the pharmacy to pick up my prescription. They told me that they were unable to give it to me, since my file said that "I wasn't ready." When I asked them what that meant the pharmacist told me that she didn't know and that I would have to talk to my therapist about it. I also asked if there was more on my file and they said that they weren't allowed to share that with me. I left without getting my prescription. I told my therapist what happened and that she needed to take "I'm not ready" off of my file on the computer system, so that I could get my medication. She did, but later I ended up having more issues with her. I had told my family what was going on and my dad started showing up at my appointments again when I clearly expressed to him and to my therapist that I didn't want him coming to anymore of my sessions. When he forced himself in on me on coming and I told my therapist that I didn't want him coming in with us, she still let him in! I tried stalling by talking about other subjects other than the abuse. I had taken up most of the time during the session with filler, but my therapist said that I still had ten minutes. I expressed that I wanted to end the session early then, and I tried to leave. My dad pulled me down into my seat and my therapist saw and began writing notes. They both were pushing me to start talking. I told about some of the abuse in front of my dad due to high anxiety levels and wanting to solve conflict. He denied everything which made even more angry with him, since he showed that he wanted no resolve and wasn't being at all understanding. I brought up during one of our therapy sessions that I thought that I had a worry addiction. Sometime after we left, I called my medical provider to ask some questions and every time I did they all started asking me if I was worrying and that if I was I needed to stop worrying. They eventually told me that I had an addiction to worry that was on my file in their computer system and that was why they kept asking. I told my therapist and she told me that I had said it and that she told me that I didn't have a worry addiction. Then I asked why she put it in my file which she said that she didn't. Then I told her that it is in the computer system and that whatever she put as a worry addiction that she needed to take it off, since I can't even ask questions to my medical provider when I call. She took it off and told me that she was very concerned about me. The representatives, pharmacists, on the phone stopped asking if I was worrying and stopped talking to me about having an addiction. When I tried to go to one of the wellness classes that she enrolled me in the receptionist acted angry at me, asked what happened to my arm which I had injured months ago while exercising, handed me my paper work and told me that the classes aren't going to help me anyway. She also charged me which she wasn't supposed to for the classes, since I'm covered by insurance. I admit that I did yell at her. I was angry, anxious, and not in my right mind at the time due to high levels of stress and anxiety. When I told them that all my previous classes were free and that the other respectionist didn't charge me the other receptionist denied it. I was furious. I was suspecting that my therapist put something on my file about abuse which caused the receptionist to act this way. When I asked my therapist why she had done all of this, she explained that it was a part of her job and that it has to be taken very seriously upon me wanting to kill myself. I told her that I have been having suicidal thoughts, but as you can see I haven't attempted. You just made my path to recovery much more difficult. I tried getting a new therapist with the same medical provider. I called their mental health department to find out how to start that process and they told me that I didn't need a new therapist and refused to help me get a new one.
Long story short:
I have started over with the same therapist and she is telling me that I need to get a job again to become independent of my abusive/controlling parents, while I'm still in the midst of having my mind rest and dealing with my disabilities/mental health. I'm afraid that what happened last time with her and my medical provider is going to happen again. I won't be able to get my family, boyfriend, or his family involved like last time, because it didn't work out with that well either other than his family recommending their private therapist.
I have never heard of a therapist or medical provider doing this before. What is it that I can do in situations like this or if it happens again?
I'm not sure where to even start when it comes to navigating a mental health clinic's system. They are my only option for a medical provider due to insurance and my family is paying for any other cost of my medical while in school which I'm temporarily having to take a break from due to having to improve my mental health.
Here is some background on my situation:
My therapist has acted very odd in the past. I started seeing her over my winter break. My dad had accompanied me to the first few sessions to talk about how to deal with my school in the midst of trying to get help for my mental/physical health issues, since I was experiencing severe and frequent panic attacks that were debilitating. I remember that when I started seeing my new therapist that it was to talk about past parental abuse, trauma, anxiety, and my other disabilities, but after experiencing the panic attacks and going too hard for too long with school I had to also take a break. I also am having to change course with my therapy some in order to go back to school which my parents are paying for everything including my room and board off campus. My therapist advised me to get a job, so that I can become independent of my parents. At first I said yes, but then I remembered that I was taking a break from school, work, and everything, because my mind needs to rest. So, the next time that we talked I expressed that to her and she totally disagreed. She kept pushing me to go with her method and get a job and she didn't want to change course with my therapy in the time being until my mind got the rest and rejuvenation that it needs and to work through my disabilities. I told her that I may need to get a different therapist to work with me. She said that she thought that wasn't what I needed, but I knew that the choice was up to me. She expressed that she was very concerned about me, my situation, and my suicidal/self-harm thoughts. Though, I was and still am having thoughts I haven't acted on them. She also told me that I was not ready.
Soon after this, I tried going to the pharmacy to pick up my prescription. They told me that they were unable to give it to me, since my file said that "I wasn't ready." When I asked them what that meant the pharmacist told me that she didn't know and that I would have to talk to my therapist about it. I also asked if there was more on my file and they said that they weren't allowed to share that with me. I left without getting my prescription. I told my therapist what happened and that she needed to take "I'm not ready" off of my file on the computer system, so that I could get my medication. She did, but later I ended up having more issues with her. I had told my family what was going on and my dad started showing up at my appointments again when I clearly expressed to him and to my therapist that I didn't want him coming to anymore of my sessions. When he forced himself in on me on coming and I told my therapist that I didn't want him coming in with us, she still let him in! I tried stalling by talking about other subjects other than the abuse. I had taken up most of the time during the session with filler, but my therapist said that I still had ten minutes. I expressed that I wanted to end the session early then, and I tried to leave. My dad pulled me down into my seat and my therapist saw and began writing notes. They both were pushing me to start talking. I told about some of the abuse in front of my dad due to high anxiety levels and wanting to solve conflict. He denied everything which made even more angry with him, since he showed that he wanted no resolve and wasn't being at all understanding. I brought up during one of our therapy sessions that I thought that I had a worry addiction. Sometime after we left, I called my medical provider to ask some questions and every time I did they all started asking me if I was worrying and that if I was I needed to stop worrying. They eventually told me that I had an addiction to worry that was on my file in their computer system and that was why they kept asking. I told my therapist and she told me that I had said it and that she told me that I didn't have a worry addiction. Then I asked why she put it in my file which she said that she didn't. Then I told her that it is in the computer system and that whatever she put as a worry addiction that she needed to take it off, since I can't even ask questions to my medical provider when I call. She took it off and told me that she was very concerned about me. The representatives, pharmacists, on the phone stopped asking if I was worrying and stopped talking to me about having an addiction. When I tried to go to one of the wellness classes that she enrolled me in the receptionist acted angry at me, asked what happened to my arm which I had injured months ago while exercising, handed me my paper work and told me that the classes aren't going to help me anyway. She also charged me which she wasn't supposed to for the classes, since I'm covered by insurance. I admit that I did yell at her. I was angry, anxious, and not in my right mind at the time due to high levels of stress and anxiety. When I told them that all my previous classes were free and that the other respectionist didn't charge me the other receptionist denied it. I was furious. I was suspecting that my therapist put something on my file about abuse which caused the receptionist to act this way. When I asked my therapist why she had done all of this, she explained that it was a part of her job and that it has to be taken very seriously upon me wanting to kill myself. I told her that I have been having suicidal thoughts, but as you can see I haven't attempted. You just made my path to recovery much more difficult. I tried getting a new therapist with the same medical provider. I called their mental health department to find out how to start that process and they told me that I didn't need a new therapist and refused to help me get a new one.
Long story short:
I have started over with the same therapist and she is telling me that I need to get a job again to become independent of my abusive/controlling parents, while I'm still in the midst of having my mind rest and dealing with my disabilities/mental health. I'm afraid that what happened last time with her and my medical provider is going to happen again. I won't be able to get my family, boyfriend, or his family involved like last time, because it didn't work out with that well either other than his family recommending their private therapist.
