- Jul 22, 2018
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Okay, so I've seen a few posts on here as well as other areas of the internet. But I still have not been unable to come up with an answer. I see a lot of arguments both for and against State marriages. But here are my facts:
- We both want to be married and committed to one another. We are sure of this.
- We need our marriage to be valid in the eyes of God.
- A legal marriage would bring with it a few complicated issues; mostly regarding things like health insurance.
- We do not have any friends (not an exaggeration).
- We do not have much money.
- We do not want a party. We do not have people in our lives that we would like to celebrate with.
- We want wedding vows and wedding rings.
- We would prefer a pastor to oversee our wedding.
- We don't need our marriage to be a secret. We would be proud to be known as husband and wife.
I am getting so many mixed signals and messages about what would be a valid marriage in the eyes of God. I have it being said it's important to have a public declaration. I've read a celebration is necessary. I've read that we must follow the government laws for it to be valid in the eyes of God. Government marriages are also not always Christian, so we'd be sharing the same type of "validation" as someone who is atheist or anti-God. Weddings these days are some of the furthest things removed from Christianity, even if they take place in a CHURCH.
Ideally, this is what I want: I want to bring my fiance' to a beautiful place. I want to say our wedding vows, preferably in the presence of a pastor. If there are other witnesses, that would be great as well. I want to be surrounded by nature and I want to commit myself to my wife in the way that Christ commits Himself to the Church. I want to remain with my wife for the rest of my natural life. I want to meet her again at the gates of Heaven. I know that to ME, I view a marriage as valid (on earth, not sure about how God feels) if I commit in these ways.
I'm asking for advice. I'm not sure exactly what to do. I know people won't be able to give me an exact answer. But any additional perspectives may help.
If at the end of the day, it needs to be a legal, state marriage, validated by a pastor and in the presence of a large amount of people...then I suppose I'll have to wait until I can have all of that in place. But I'm tired of not being married anymore. I don't want anything to hold us back. I want us to be husband and wife.
EDIT: Also, I would like answers that are backed up by scripture. If you do have something to say, please show me where the Bible mentions something.
- We both want to be married and committed to one another. We are sure of this.
- We need our marriage to be valid in the eyes of God.
- A legal marriage would bring with it a few complicated issues; mostly regarding things like health insurance.
- We do not have any friends (not an exaggeration).
- We do not have much money.
- We do not want a party. We do not have people in our lives that we would like to celebrate with.
- We want wedding vows and wedding rings.
- We would prefer a pastor to oversee our wedding.
- We don't need our marriage to be a secret. We would be proud to be known as husband and wife.
I am getting so many mixed signals and messages about what would be a valid marriage in the eyes of God. I have it being said it's important to have a public declaration. I've read a celebration is necessary. I've read that we must follow the government laws for it to be valid in the eyes of God. Government marriages are also not always Christian, so we'd be sharing the same type of "validation" as someone who is atheist or anti-God. Weddings these days are some of the furthest things removed from Christianity, even if they take place in a CHURCH.
Ideally, this is what I want: I want to bring my fiance' to a beautiful place. I want to say our wedding vows, preferably in the presence of a pastor. If there are other witnesses, that would be great as well. I want to be surrounded by nature and I want to commit myself to my wife in the way that Christ commits Himself to the Church. I want to remain with my wife for the rest of my natural life. I want to meet her again at the gates of Heaven. I know that to ME, I view a marriage as valid (on earth, not sure about how God feels) if I commit in these ways.
I'm asking for advice. I'm not sure exactly what to do. I know people won't be able to give me an exact answer. But any additional perspectives may help.
If at the end of the day, it needs to be a legal, state marriage, validated by a pastor and in the presence of a large amount of people...then I suppose I'll have to wait until I can have all of that in place. But I'm tired of not being married anymore. I don't want anything to hold us back. I want us to be husband and wife.
EDIT: Also, I would like answers that are backed up by scripture. If you do have something to say, please show me where the Bible mentions something.
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