Allot of people question why I stay with and be so submissive my husband despite the immaturity, the infidelity, and our often opposing views on ethics. I know why I do, but it is very difficult to articulate to others how they don't know him like I do. Then every now and then he does something to really help me illustrate my point to others.
Last weekend was the 10th birthday of my nephew from my second brother. My family was going to have a party for him but seriously nothing went the way it should have. My father or me in charge of securing the entertainment (magician) and getting my nephew's grand gift (NES classic mini console). The week before the party, I found out that there was a miscommunication so the magician was out. Understandably my family was rather frustrated and much of that frustration was directed at me. I became a target of my sister in laws who complained that I sit around and do nothing all day and still managed to screw this up.
Concerning the grand gift, the NES classic mini is an extremely hard to find item especially since Nintendo made them in limited numbers and stopped production recently. My dad initially gave me enough money to buy it off of eBay from a scalper. I refuse to do business with those vultures so I just monitored istock daily for local Walmarts, Targets, and Gamestops for stock. I began to panic when it got to last Friday and I didn't see any stock. Then Friday afternoon I saw that a Walmart in a town 2 hrs away had just received 3. I called and confirmed they were in stock and let my parents know. I would have gone my self to pick it up but that day I was doing receptionist work at my husband's job. My mom and dad drove the two hours to that Walmart in order to buy it. However, when they got there it was close to 7pm and the people in the electronics department gave them the run around. When my parents told them they wanted to buy one of the consoles they were told that although the item was "in inventory" it was still on the truck and needed to be "checked in" by the manager before they could sell it. They told my parents that they plan to unload the truck and "check in"the item later that evening. My parents then went to dinner and returned at 9pm and they were told that the unload still hasn't happened yet and that they cannot sell it to them yet. My parents asked if they could pay in advance and have one reserved for them and they were told no because it was against "policy". They were told that other people have called about those things and they were told the same thing, first come first serve when they are brought up front. My parents then asked at what time will they be checked in and they were told the unload most likely will be between midnight and 5 am but the item won't be avaliable until the electronics manager arrives at 8am the next day . My parents were miffed and left the store in a huff. They called me and they nagged me the whole drive back. My dad blamed me for not just buying it from the scalpers on eBay.
I was finally allowed to sleep at around midnight, I was dead tired from being nagged. Apparently my husband got up when I fell asleep and he drove to the Walmart and camped out there in their video game section until they sold him the unit. I didn't realize it until he was back at 6am the next morning. Later I found out that he arrived at the Walmart wearing only his pyjamas, he pulled a cot and sleeping bag from the sporting goods section to the Nintendo display, cuffed himself to the handle of the display case then laid down on the cot and shut his eyes. He said it took about 20 minutes before the night manager came to hassle him and try to get him to leave. So, after what I am told was a spirited discussion concerning trespassing, public accommodation, the definition of "in inventory " and the nature of acceptable public decorum the night manager went and retrieved one of the consoles and sold it to my husband on the understanding he leave immediately. He made it back to the house at 6 in the morning with my nephew's gift in hand. I then called my parents to let them know the good news but they were still grumpy at me and were still holding me responsible for the lack of entertainment. That's when my husband took the phone and told my dad to relax and that everything will be fine. He told then to just change the location of the party to our house, and just make sure everyone is ready to party after church on Sunday. He then told me he was going to spend the day with his Companions and left. He was out all day and when he returned him and his Companions loaded a bunch of stuff into our garage. When he went to bed I asked him what he was doing and if he was serious about moving the party to our house he just told me to relax, we were intimate then went to sleep. In the morning wren I woke up, my husband was already out of bed, there was smoke pouring out of our BBQ pit and his Companions "Eurydice" and "Philotas" were just chatting in my kitchen. I said hi to both of them and told then that they don't always need to do my husband's bidding especially off of work hours. My husband then came in and told me just to go to church with my family and that the party starts at 1. By this time I know it is not my place to argue or question so I get dressed and leave.
After church myself and the party guests return to my house and the is this big castle gate facade in front of our backyard gate. We walk through it and we see this long table set up on our veranda with place settings for all the children and adults, a side table covered with paper crowns, my husband's Companions plus another young lady and young man from his job were all dressed in faux medieval costumes, and a "Kings box" with my nephew's name on a large banner.
Every body including myself was shocked upon seeing our yard. My husband then stepped out of the bedroom balcony dressed like a Herald and announced a "Feast to celebrate the 10 th year of the reign or my nephew". He then instructed the servants (the parents) to escort the little lords and ladies to their seats so to "beginneth the festivities". After ever one was seated his Companions brought out roasted Cornish game hens for all the guests and family style sides were brought out to the long tables.
Already at this point I and the rest of my family was super surprised at my husband. We could see it in my nephew's face that this was the coolest thing ever. His eyes really lit up when his grand gift was brought out (even the presentation was cool as hell, my husband placed it in a wooden treasure chest, had his Companion "Eurydice" and the other young lady bring it out and present it to my nephew and then "Eurydice" gave my nephew a kiss on the cheek). Every one was having a lot of fun when all of a sudden my husband gets up from his spot, addressed the guests and announced that it was time for the games to begin. That's when his Companions plus the other two assembled in the lawn facing the guests seated at the long table. My husband went into a lengthy monolog about what it means to be a Companion, what it means to become a Companion and what it means to fall out of the ranks of the Companions (it is an open secret that at my husband's work being one of his "Companions" there are certain privileges when it comes to work hours and insulation from layoffs, it's corrupt but we live in a right to work state). He then passed out wooden Kung Fu weapons (swords, staffs, nunchucks, and spears ) and declared that "the time has come for old Companions to defend their privilege and for prospective Companions to win theirs".
So for the next hour my husband's subordinates/coworkers fought each other one on one as entertainment for my nephew and his friends. It was really cute how my nephew got to give the thumbs up or thumbs down to determine the winner of each duel.
After having a little too much to drink my husband challenged all his subordinates to take him on all at once. He put on quite a show for everyone as he was able to soundly defeat and disarm all of his assailants without hurting any of then. He then declared all 6 of them "Companions all" naming the other young lady "Cassandra" and the other young man "Antipitar".
So the party was huge pleasant surprise to all the children. With the adults it was a bit of a mixed bag. Of course they were happy that their children were happy but needless to say the was allot of shock over the level of influence my husband has over his subordinates. One could go as far too argue that corruption and favoritism is common currency for my husband. One can criticize that my husband is corrupt (having a group of favored subordinates), immature (camping out at Walmart and being a pain until he is catered to), and quite possibly crazy (challenging 6 armed assailants to fight in a pitched Kung Fu battle). I am not blind to these, let's say, quirks of his personality. And it is true I am frequently exasperated by these quirks especially when they draw the ire of my friends and family. But when I see situations like this party I can plainly see that there is a lot of love there. Sure almost everything he did was either immature, corrupt or crazy but none of it was done with any selfish intent.
So what is the point of my story? Why do I believe it should be shared in a Christian marriage forum? Well I just wanted to tell you ladies and gentlemen that we may all find certain irritations in our mates. And it is very natural to stay believing that these irritating behaviors are due to them loving themselves more than they love us, and in some cases that may be the truth. However, before you decide that to be the case look a little deeper to see if these little foibles are really the result of selfish desire or just a quirk of personality. If selfish desire is the case, forgive them cause none of us are perfect ourselves. In the case of a quirk of personality, you never know when they would blow your mind by doing something incredibly sweet that you never thought possible.
Last weekend was the 10th birthday of my nephew from my second brother. My family was going to have a party for him but seriously nothing went the way it should have. My father or me in charge of securing the entertainment (magician) and getting my nephew's grand gift (NES classic mini console). The week before the party, I found out that there was a miscommunication so the magician was out. Understandably my family was rather frustrated and much of that frustration was directed at me. I became a target of my sister in laws who complained that I sit around and do nothing all day and still managed to screw this up.
Concerning the grand gift, the NES classic mini is an extremely hard to find item especially since Nintendo made them in limited numbers and stopped production recently. My dad initially gave me enough money to buy it off of eBay from a scalper. I refuse to do business with those vultures so I just monitored istock daily for local Walmarts, Targets, and Gamestops for stock. I began to panic when it got to last Friday and I didn't see any stock. Then Friday afternoon I saw that a Walmart in a town 2 hrs away had just received 3. I called and confirmed they were in stock and let my parents know. I would have gone my self to pick it up but that day I was doing receptionist work at my husband's job. My mom and dad drove the two hours to that Walmart in order to buy it. However, when they got there it was close to 7pm and the people in the electronics department gave them the run around. When my parents told them they wanted to buy one of the consoles they were told that although the item was "in inventory" it was still on the truck and needed to be "checked in" by the manager before they could sell it. They told my parents that they plan to unload the truck and "check in"the item later that evening. My parents then went to dinner and returned at 9pm and they were told that the unload still hasn't happened yet and that they cannot sell it to them yet. My parents asked if they could pay in advance and have one reserved for them and they were told no because it was against "policy". They were told that other people have called about those things and they were told the same thing, first come first serve when they are brought up front. My parents then asked at what time will they be checked in and they were told the unload most likely will be between midnight and 5 am but the item won't be avaliable until the electronics manager arrives at 8am the next day . My parents were miffed and left the store in a huff. They called me and they nagged me the whole drive back. My dad blamed me for not just buying it from the scalpers on eBay.
I was finally allowed to sleep at around midnight, I was dead tired from being nagged. Apparently my husband got up when I fell asleep and he drove to the Walmart and camped out there in their video game section until they sold him the unit. I didn't realize it until he was back at 6am the next morning. Later I found out that he arrived at the Walmart wearing only his pyjamas, he pulled a cot and sleeping bag from the sporting goods section to the Nintendo display, cuffed himself to the handle of the display case then laid down on the cot and shut his eyes. He said it took about 20 minutes before the night manager came to hassle him and try to get him to leave. So, after what I am told was a spirited discussion concerning trespassing, public accommodation, the definition of "in inventory " and the nature of acceptable public decorum the night manager went and retrieved one of the consoles and sold it to my husband on the understanding he leave immediately. He made it back to the house at 6 in the morning with my nephew's gift in hand. I then called my parents to let them know the good news but they were still grumpy at me and were still holding me responsible for the lack of entertainment. That's when my husband took the phone and told my dad to relax and that everything will be fine. He told then to just change the location of the party to our house, and just make sure everyone is ready to party after church on Sunday. He then told me he was going to spend the day with his Companions and left. He was out all day and when he returned him and his Companions loaded a bunch of stuff into our garage. When he went to bed I asked him what he was doing and if he was serious about moving the party to our house he just told me to relax, we were intimate then went to sleep. In the morning wren I woke up, my husband was already out of bed, there was smoke pouring out of our BBQ pit and his Companions "Eurydice" and "Philotas" were just chatting in my kitchen. I said hi to both of them and told then that they don't always need to do my husband's bidding especially off of work hours. My husband then came in and told me just to go to church with my family and that the party starts at 1. By this time I know it is not my place to argue or question so I get dressed and leave.
After church myself and the party guests return to my house and the is this big castle gate facade in front of our backyard gate. We walk through it and we see this long table set up on our veranda with place settings for all the children and adults, a side table covered with paper crowns, my husband's Companions plus another young lady and young man from his job were all dressed in faux medieval costumes, and a "Kings box" with my nephew's name on a large banner.
Every body including myself was shocked upon seeing our yard. My husband then stepped out of the bedroom balcony dressed like a Herald and announced a "Feast to celebrate the 10 th year of the reign or my nephew". He then instructed the servants (the parents) to escort the little lords and ladies to their seats so to "beginneth the festivities". After ever one was seated his Companions brought out roasted Cornish game hens for all the guests and family style sides were brought out to the long tables.
Already at this point I and the rest of my family was super surprised at my husband. We could see it in my nephew's face that this was the coolest thing ever. His eyes really lit up when his grand gift was brought out (even the presentation was cool as hell, my husband placed it in a wooden treasure chest, had his Companion "Eurydice" and the other young lady bring it out and present it to my nephew and then "Eurydice" gave my nephew a kiss on the cheek). Every one was having a lot of fun when all of a sudden my husband gets up from his spot, addressed the guests and announced that it was time for the games to begin. That's when his Companions plus the other two assembled in the lawn facing the guests seated at the long table. My husband went into a lengthy monolog about what it means to be a Companion, what it means to become a Companion and what it means to fall out of the ranks of the Companions (it is an open secret that at my husband's work being one of his "Companions" there are certain privileges when it comes to work hours and insulation from layoffs, it's corrupt but we live in a right to work state). He then passed out wooden Kung Fu weapons (swords, staffs, nunchucks, and spears ) and declared that "the time has come for old Companions to defend their privilege and for prospective Companions to win theirs".
So for the next hour my husband's subordinates/coworkers fought each other one on one as entertainment for my nephew and his friends. It was really cute how my nephew got to give the thumbs up or thumbs down to determine the winner of each duel.
After having a little too much to drink my husband challenged all his subordinates to take him on all at once. He put on quite a show for everyone as he was able to soundly defeat and disarm all of his assailants without hurting any of then. He then declared all 6 of them "Companions all" naming the other young lady "Cassandra" and the other young man "Antipitar".
So the party was huge pleasant surprise to all the children. With the adults it was a bit of a mixed bag. Of course they were happy that their children were happy but needless to say the was allot of shock over the level of influence my husband has over his subordinates. One could go as far too argue that corruption and favoritism is common currency for my husband. One can criticize that my husband is corrupt (having a group of favored subordinates), immature (camping out at Walmart and being a pain until he is catered to), and quite possibly crazy (challenging 6 armed assailants to fight in a pitched Kung Fu battle). I am not blind to these, let's say, quirks of his personality. And it is true I am frequently exasperated by these quirks especially when they draw the ire of my friends and family. But when I see situations like this party I can plainly see that there is a lot of love there. Sure almost everything he did was either immature, corrupt or crazy but none of it was done with any selfish intent.
So what is the point of my story? Why do I believe it should be shared in a Christian marriage forum? Well I just wanted to tell you ladies and gentlemen that we may all find certain irritations in our mates. And it is very natural to stay believing that these irritating behaviors are due to them loving themselves more than they love us, and in some cases that may be the truth. However, before you decide that to be the case look a little deeper to see if these little foibles are really the result of selfish desire or just a quirk of personality. If selfish desire is the case, forgive them cause none of us are perfect ourselves. In the case of a quirk of personality, you never know when they would blow your mind by doing something incredibly sweet that you never thought possible.
