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What lesson is God trying to teach me?

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I don't know why I'm below average in almost everything. I don't know why I work hard at what I do but yet, still manage to yield the same, underwhelming results as others who don't put in as much effort. I don't know why my mastery of material doesn't translate to the kind of success people seem to get in courses so easily and on tests. I don't know why my ability to perform well on tests doesn't match up to those who don't care as much as I do, or who don't work as hard as I do. I don't know why. I just don't know why. There are many things in life that I just don't understand. And one of those things happen to be my comprehensive preparation for exams that I always think I do good on, but end up being either below average (which is usually the case) or not what I expect. I'm not angry at God for not answering my prayers and giving me the grade I wanted. I'm just unable to wrap my head around the idea that these experiences of mine seem to happen repeatedly, over and over again. Even when I submit myself to God in prayer and find hope in his divine plan for me and my future. I know God is in control, and I've given up all control to God, but I wonder if God is trying to teach me a different lesson. One I haven't quite learned yet or fully grasped. But what could it possibly be? What could it be? I've been overcoming sleep anxiety after having experienced a minor health scare a few months ago. But I don't think the lesson here is one of faith or humility. What is God trying to teach me?
 

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The whole school and test thing is all too familiar around here...we have kids on both sides of that issue but I myself fit your side. Anyway, what I had to learn and what some of our kids are struggling to learn so maybe what God wants you to learn (I don't know that is between you and God) is that we are designed for something difference. IOW's just because you aren't good at tests doesn't mean God didn't design you to be great as something else. Just a thought for what it's worth...maybe He wants you to discover what He created you for...the good works He designed for you specifically.
 
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Are you performing badly on all exams or just on certain subjects?
It's just one exam I got back today. I made a 74 on it when the average was an 81, but my buddies made a 76 and 78 on it, so it kinda hurts to be at the bottom when I know I prepared well for it. I'm probably being a bit dramatic, but it's a grad level course. I'm taking it with other classes that'll count towards my GPA for med school (when I apply) in the future.

I have a B/B+ in the class right now, and an A in the other two classes I'm taking. But this one class is not (and has never been) my strong suit. :/
 
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I know :/ I keep praying to God that he'll make me tap into my full potential in order to excel in the areas I want to in life. But things like this are a bit demoralizing.
 
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What do your pastors say?
 
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I know :/ I keep praying to God that he'll make me tap into my full potential in order to excel in the areas I want to in life. But things like this are a bit demoralizing.
But notice what you said..."I keep praying to God that He'll make me tap into my full potential in order to excel in the "areas I want to in life." Your words say it is about what you want not what He wants.

It's a very hard lesson. I myself had to learn that what I wanted was not what God wanted for me and I had to change my heart, mind, direction to fit His will for peace to reside. No matter how noble or right the choices you make are until those choices line up with what God wants for you there will be no peace.
 
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Learning to say: "Thy will be done" can be soul searching, right?
 
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I don't know, but this is the best I can do.
Jeremiah chapter 10 verse 23
LORD, I know that people's lives are not their own; it is not for them to direct their steps.
 
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You're right. I feel like there's a small part of me that wants to make the change I want to happen happen. It's hard and complicated at the same time. Because I know that even if I pray, I won't suddenly wake up the next day any smarter or competent than I was the previous day. So although I make less of an effort to make those things happen, I know I just can't be passive and not try at all at the same time.
 
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When our kids were young we made a poster of Ecclesiastes 9:10a whatever your hands find to do do it with all your might.

Working as unto the Lord is important but so is doing what God wants you to do....He is after all the one who orders your steps. Ps. 37:23
 
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What do you want to do; why do you want to do it?

It is possible that after you work so hard to get something, you might have made it in the tests, but then you find out how well you can use your education, plus if you have the skills and abilities you will need.

I did not know that my slow reading speed would mean I would take too much time to write down and recheck laboratory test results. Also, I was not reading laboratory slides fast enough to do my job. Plus, in my case, I was terrible in relating with people who were criticizing how I was wrong in my jobs; I was too fast to just feel criticized, and be defensive and in denial, or I was merely criticizing myself and getting frustrated. With prayer and kindness and appreciation of evaluation and caring about other workers instead of judging and criticizing them, I could have done much better.

Trust God for what He really wants, and be ready to discover what you do not know about it. And He will give you ability which you don't know about, now

Our ability to submit to Him is important. Also, we need how He has us learn how to relate.

What really works for you could turn out to be compassionate for certain people but it is not what you do on your job. And it is important to grow and mature in how to relate as family so you are getting ready for marriage and how to bring up children.

In case you have a real pastor, he is an example to help you grow to be how you need to be as a person, and how to relate in marriage and how to bring up children > 1 Timothy 3:1-10 < so it is important to get to know a pastor who is a real Biblical example, and spend time with mature senior Christians so you can learn from them.
 
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Two pieces of advice and experience here. The first is about life in general, the second is about study habits.

When I was in college, my plans were to be a university professor. God had other plans for my life. In hindsight, I'm glad He steered me in a different direction than academia. During grad school, I picked up awards for teaching excellence and as a brief stint as a temporary professor, got above average ratings. I'd probably have been very good at it, but I ended up seeing a lot more of life and learning a lot more about being excellent at what I do than if I'd stayed in (what I now see as) an artificial bubble of life of academia.

Stepping back to look at the big picture of life, I truly believe that God has made you (and each one of us) to be a unique person meant to reflect His glory in some way that no one else can. Life is not about finding a niche where we can excel, it is about being the person He created us to be and walking with Him. I spent decades of my life trying to excel as a husband, father, Christian, in my career, and trying to be a good steward of my gifts and talents. For the most part, I was probably a good example of what a Christian was supposed to be. In doing this however, I made my identity into those things; I measured myself by how well I did those things. I was in my mid 40s when God finally pulled me out of my self-imposed rat-race and helped me realize life was more about being than doing. He took me on a couple year journey where He started showing me who He had made me to be. I found that life became easier and it was like things just started naturally flowing out from me. My gifts and talents became tools to use rather than a reason for living. Life feels so much easier now and I am accomplishing much more than I used to. It's like stuff just flows naturally now rather than being work.

Since then, I've facilitated a number of small groups which were about finding out who God made us to be. I found that most people have gotten so used to putting on masks to fit in (with family, church, school, jobs, peers, various social circles, etc.), that we forget what our own face looks like. I found many people who are dissatisfied with parts of their life were unaware of who God made them to be and were striving to accomplish things that were obligations, duties, expectations, and going with the flow rather than living life as the person God created.

Onto the second topic, everyone has different ways of learning and studying that are more effective for them. Sometimes frustrations in learning speed in particular subjects are due to inappropriate and ineffective methods rather than being "less gifted".

I was always interested in foreign languages, but frankly sucked. I got 2 years of As in college German but about the only thing I could do after that was ask where the bathroom was. I tried to learn Greek for reading the NT, but in 25 years of on and off efforts, the best I could do was work through a sentence or two in an hour or two of work. A ton of work at German, and I could use it for simple e-mails with colleagues in Europe, but that was it. God brought me across a number of online language learners and I studied their study habits. I realized that my problem was that I was using the one method I learned in school which was rote memorization and brute force study (which is what got me As). Successful language learners mostly practiced real skills using a wide variety of study methods. When I started doing that, my language accomplishments skyrocketed. I'm now on my 4th time through the Greek OT (LXX), probably my 10th or so time through the Greek NT, I started learning Spanish about 2 years ago, am on my second time through reading the Bible in Spanish and can comfortably watch Spanish subtitled shows on Netflix. Just learning how to learn took me from banging my head against the wall in languages to actually being able to use them a fun part of my life.

Depending on the subjects you are struggling with, this might be primarily due to using ineffective methods of study.
 
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I haven't spoken to my pastor about this. To be honest, I've never taken the time to develop a relationship with him. :/
Well, you haven’t developed any here, either.

Now would be a good time since he’s the one God put over you as a shepherd.
 
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Your grades are good and you be thankful for that and for the
fact that you're able to go to college, many of us can't.
School and life can be challenging but keep your eyes on the Lord
and do the tasks set before you as best as you can.

The Lord be with you and you have the Word of God to keep you
on the right path.
Press on!
 
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I see someone hard working and determined. Still you want to do better. I would ask around of kids who get better grades, for tips on test taking. I remember my first semester in grad school taking what seemed like a very hard test, to me. And I studied a lot. The wrong way. I studied from the books we were told to read. Some people got it right away that the test would come only from the notes we took in class. If I had asked around...
 
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I just don't know why.
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In US colleges and UK universities, students need to consult their seniors and professors in order to know what the professors are looking for from students in their tests or exams = can get good exam results. Rote learning by ownself will not work well.
....... Similarly, consulting successful executives and social networking are essential for working professionals. Those who reject this often end up in lower-paid menial jobs.
 
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I had heard that Gen. Eisenhower was only an average student in the military academy, friend, but he became a great general and even a president. Academic grades don't always indicate potential in practical applications. As some have said, trust God and honor Him for leading in life; and make the Lord Jesus your best Friend, savior and lord of your life for blessings. You will be happy and spiritually successful, if not by the world's standards.
 
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