What wisdom is there in using violence to stop violence?
It only breeds more violence.
Is that what Jesus says we're supposed to do?
Breed violence?
When did Jesus hit anybody?
Tough love means not enabling someone.
Wow, that just breaks my heart, that you would abandon your own child. I see now you are celibate, so I assume there is an issue in your relationship with your husband now. And there is likely still an issue with your daughter, having been rejected by the one person in the world who is supposed to love her more than anyone. Your relationships appear to be a little messy. Any regrets?When my teenage daughter ran away from home, she called and told me I needed to choose between her and my husband (her stepfather). I chose him. That infuriated her.
It is possible to have strong authority without physical punishment. It's not about personality. It's about relationship. Your children are more likely to be obedient when they are motivated by love and respect for their parental authority rather than by fear of being caught and spanked. If you had no respect for your parental caregiver, then I can see why you might think that spankings were a good deterrent, but you mention how much violence is in the world.... the reason is not lack of physical punishment; the reason is lack of relational connection, attunement that leads to secure attachment. Study after study supports what I'm saying. And the Bible supports it too. The Bible says that if you know someone has something against you, go and repair the relationship. Same with if you have something against someone - we are called to forgive and to mend our relationships.But anyone who teaches that there are never instances or particular children who need a swift kick in the pants should take a moment to consider how much violence there is in this world, and how much of it could have been prevented had there been a strong authority figure in their lives as a child.
Okay. When did God hit anybody?
Wow, that just breaks my heart, that you would abandon your own child. I see now you are celibate, so I assume there is an issue in your relationship with your husband now. And there is likely still an issue with your daughter, having been rejected by the one person in the world who is supposed to love her more than anyone. Your relationships appear to be a little messy. Any regrets?
I admitted that it was an assumption. So that's fine. If there are other reasons for celibacy, great. Still, it breaks my heart that you would abandon your own child in favor of a man who came along after she did.You are very quick to make an incorrect assumption, Valleygal. You will never know how wrong you are because I don't intend to go into detail about my personal life, especially with you.
Have you considered that a person can be celibate due to the death or illness of a spouse?
Regrets? Definitely. I shouldn't have joined in this discussion. Too many confused people here.
I believe that those who are adopted as sons and daughters of Father God are disciplined through teaching through the Word, guided by the Word and by the Spirit. I do not believe God punishes those who he adopts. Rather, punishment is left for those who choose not to be adopted as sons and daughters - and that punishment is eternal separation from him.
I admitted that it was an assumption. So that's fine. If there are other reasons for celibacy, great. Still, it breaks my heart that you would abandon your own child in favor of a man who came along after she did.
I have no idea and have no time for a study right now. I gave my advice in this thread. I think I will bow out before it becomes a bible study. Suffice it to say that whoever was speaking was simply not praising... positive reinforcement for ill behaviour is not "tough love" nor is it punitive. It is simply not praising ill behaviour.Ok, then who is being referred to in 1 Corinthians 11:20-32, especially verse 30?
I think if you spank a two year old when he has a tantrum, you wont need to do it again. Just they need to learn that they cant get their own way in life all the time. Problem is, once I say something like this, the PC brigade will jump on me for suggesting such "unnecessary violence."But anyone who teaches that there are never instances or particular children who need a swift kick in the pants should take a moment to consider how much violence there is in this world, and how much of it could have been prevented had there been a strong authority figure in their lives as a child.
Glad you didn't give in to such an ultimatum.When my teenage daughter ran away from home, she called and told me I needed to choose between her and my husband (her stepfather). I chose him. That infuriated her.
Problem is, once I say something like this, the PC brigade will jump on me for suggesting such "unnecessary violence."