People talk about "healing" but what does that mean?
If I have wound, it is 'healed' when it no longer bleeds, hurts, or affects my daily life...so basically, I don't have any reason to think about it anymore. Does anyone really believe we actually get to that point when our spouses died?
If I have something removed...like an arm, the wound might heal but the missing part will be missed everyday even if I learn to compensate around its absence. Would someone every look at an amputee struggling to do something one handed and say something like "it's gone, so just get on with your life and stop thinking about it"? Or "look on the bright side...."? Or "quit milking the sob story, it has been ___ years now..."?
I want the respect of the amputee...part of my heart and life was cut off forever. I may not be actively bleeding but I notice the absence every single day of my life.
It also doesn't mean that I didn't really care about or need my arm if I consider looking into a prosthetic when I realize that it might help me live life a little more normal. However, desiring a prosthetic doesn't mean it will just show....and only the right prosthetic will make a difference anyway.
If I have wound, it is 'healed' when it no longer bleeds, hurts, or affects my daily life...so basically, I don't have any reason to think about it anymore. Does anyone really believe we actually get to that point when our spouses died?
If I have something removed...like an arm, the wound might heal but the missing part will be missed everyday even if I learn to compensate around its absence. Would someone every look at an amputee struggling to do something one handed and say something like "it's gone, so just get on with your life and stop thinking about it"? Or "look on the bright side...."? Or "quit milking the sob story, it has been ___ years now..."?
I want the respect of the amputee...part of my heart and life was cut off forever. I may not be actively bleeding but I notice the absence every single day of my life.
It also doesn't mean that I didn't really care about or need my arm if I consider looking into a prosthetic when I realize that it might help me live life a little more normal. However, desiring a prosthetic doesn't mean it will just show....and only the right prosthetic will make a difference anyway.