So totally new here and don't really know the ins and out of it all... but I'm going to give it a crack.
So long story short I have been with my fiancee for 4 and a half years i love her more than life itself we were like 2 peas in a pod, however 12 months ago she starting reading the bible to learn more about Jesus and god and skip forward to this present day she has found him.
This is causing friction between us and in my head i know it shouldn't be, but i cant help that when on Sundays when she goes to church i get so angry and its a unexplained anger, her finding god shouldn't anger me the way it does, I don't know why i have such a hate for it.
So a couple of nights ago I started writing a letter to my fiancee because physically i was struggling to express my emotions so i thought maybe writing might be better, and after writing that letter I have found my problem so here is what i wrote straight from my letter.
(warning it is a bit crass and unedited)
Speaking of diseases, the women I loved the most in the whole world, my mother, was diagnosed with lung cancer.
From the start the diagnostics wasn’t good she was given 6 months to live and yet she managed to go nearly 2 years past initial life expectancy some would say that’s a blessing but if you had seen what I seen my mother go through with all the treatments, you would be saying otherwise.
So, for 2 and a half years every silent moment I had whether it be just driving, laying in bed or just even having a shower, I would be praying, praying and hoping there was a big fella up there, many of times struggling to contain tears rolling down my cheeks, but we both know what happened in the end.
Now I ask why if there is an almighty god would he allow a woman so loved, that had nothing but love for her family and friends be taken away from us, what sort of god allows such a lovely women’s children to have to continue the majority of there lives without there mother? Kylie and I were in or 20’s but Jodie had only just turned 18 she was still a child herself, I ask again what god would allow this to happen?
It was at that point I said to myself if there is a god he is [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ing [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], I then become less tolerant of religion and the people that believe in it.
So I have found why this is hurting me so much i guess after 10 years i haven't really stopped grieving, so my question to the community is... as far as i know my mother was not a religious person she did spend a lot of time in chapel before she passed away but i don't know if she died with Jesus in her heart or not.
What happens to someone that dies that was not as far as i know a believer ?
So long story short I have been with my fiancee for 4 and a half years i love her more than life itself we were like 2 peas in a pod, however 12 months ago she starting reading the bible to learn more about Jesus and god and skip forward to this present day she has found him.
This is causing friction between us and in my head i know it shouldn't be, but i cant help that when on Sundays when she goes to church i get so angry and its a unexplained anger, her finding god shouldn't anger me the way it does, I don't know why i have such a hate for it.
So a couple of nights ago I started writing a letter to my fiancee because physically i was struggling to express my emotions so i thought maybe writing might be better, and after writing that letter I have found my problem so here is what i wrote straight from my letter.
(warning it is a bit crass and unedited)
Speaking of diseases, the women I loved the most in the whole world, my mother, was diagnosed with lung cancer.
From the start the diagnostics wasn’t good she was given 6 months to live and yet she managed to go nearly 2 years past initial life expectancy some would say that’s a blessing but if you had seen what I seen my mother go through with all the treatments, you would be saying otherwise.
So, for 2 and a half years every silent moment I had whether it be just driving, laying in bed or just even having a shower, I would be praying, praying and hoping there was a big fella up there, many of times struggling to contain tears rolling down my cheeks, but we both know what happened in the end.
Now I ask why if there is an almighty god would he allow a woman so loved, that had nothing but love for her family and friends be taken away from us, what sort of god allows such a lovely women’s children to have to continue the majority of there lives without there mother? Kylie and I were in or 20’s but Jodie had only just turned 18 she was still a child herself, I ask again what god would allow this to happen?
It was at that point I said to myself if there is a god he is [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ing [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], I then become less tolerant of religion and the people that believe in it.
So I have found why this is hurting me so much i guess after 10 years i haven't really stopped grieving, so my question to the community is... as far as i know my mother was not a religious person she did spend a lot of time in chapel before she passed away but i don't know if she died with Jesus in her heart or not.
What happens to someone that dies that was not as far as i know a believer ?