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What did your dad teach you?

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Seeking - I'm sorry your father let you down.

My father let me down for a time and then worked hard to make it right. For a time, he did not give us his best, then for a time he did. I love my Dad and I am grateful to him for working so hard to try to make it better. I am the man I am today because of his effort to turn things around. I forgive him for his flaws, because unforgiveness would only hurt me.

I have made it my mission in this world to do everything I can to be a World Class Dad for my two daughters. I fail often, but I will not stop trying. I consider fatherhood to be my most important job.

Take heart. You can look at the story of Joshua in Exodus. What has been done in evil intent, God can use it for good.
 
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I had a very, very good relationship with my Dad. He was far from perfect, but nobody is. He was a World War II veteran who was left with a lifelong hatred of the Japanese and made no bones about it....a good portion of him never quite made it all the way back from the Pacific. He was exquisitely profane, had little use for organized religion although he was a deep believer in God, and was fond of political debate.

He was a reformed alcoholic, who quit drinking when I was very young; I remember him keeping a whiskey bottle under the front seat of the car when I was about three, maybe four years old, but he went cold turkey shortly after that and never touched the stuff again. He was faithful to my mother for 51 years and never cheated once. My sisters and I never lacked for clothes to wear or food to eat or a roof over our heads.

Dad could be strict, but he was never abusive. He didn't tolerate fools well, and clashed with the administration of my school on a fairly regular basis. As I grew older, I grew more attached to my Dad; we enjoyed the same movies, the same TV shows, even the same music. I was always looking for cool stuff to share with him. He was tremendously supportive of me when I came home from the service with a lot of trauma, anger, and isolation issues. All in all, he was one of the finest men I've ever known or had in my life, and I miss him every day. When he died, I went into a state of shock for a month afterwards. I hope to be reunited with him some day.
 
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My father was a pedophile, assassin, and a serial killer. What he taught me I couldn't write here. I'd have to sensor every word. He committed criminal acts on me and others and I witnessed them.

As a child my stepdad called me his son. I was a girl. My father also treated me as if I was a boy. I grew up confused about my sexuality. It took me years to straighten myself out with much talking to God, going to therapy, and writing about it.

A therapist taught me to find healthier memories of father figures in my life. I have fond memories of my fifth grade teacher who knew something was wrong and helped me to feel better about myself.
 
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My dad literally taught me, as he was my math teacher. ^_^

Aside from school... I learned to leave your home a little messy when your wife is gone for a week so she feels needed, that a man's stature actually has very little to do with his height, and how to imitate bird calls and get birds to land near you.
 
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Both my mom and dad sucked. The way I could tell them apart is my dad hit harder than my mom. Family is just another F word. I learned to hate and distrust all of humanity. This includes women and Christian women especially, for they are a bunch of man hating feminist nuns who live to only harm men. I am most of all angry at God because his word speaks of love yet he withholds it from me!
 
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my father was/is a good man, much respected by everyone who knows him. if he ever drank, it was very little. did not cheat, didn't gamble. and we went to church most of the time. my dad is what you might call a "man's man": unbelievably tough and strong. he worked a public job all week and farmed on the weekends. i loved my dad, but i didn't love that farm and i got away from it as soon as i could. i grew up hunting and fishing and driving tractors and trucks and riding horses. i missed the horses.

the thing about my family was the anger between my parents. they got into some of the most horrendous fights you could ever imagine. but they stayed together.
 
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My parents separated and divorced when I was nearly nine. Two months later my mother remarried. My dad was career military and the 3 of us kids barely saw him. The next time we saw him, he had remarried. The only thing I remember about him before the divorce was that he liked doing things most especially with my sister who had a photographic memory. After their divorce, I learned that he liked picnics/excursions and restaurants.

As the years went by my mother was always causing us to change locations and attend different schools --- sometimes in different states. We had no friends. We rarely saw Dad but he tried to see us if he wasn't stationed too far away; so it was like once every few years. By the time I was 17, I couldn't please him because my mother had not raised us the sophisticated way he liked. And my stepmother dressed to kill and just tolerated me. When I got engaged at age 22 and 1/2, my dad told me I was too young! He was authoritarian and always insisted his opinions on every subject were right.

Dad (an atheist, btw) told my kids that people who didn't have college degrees are losers. He wouldn't help me financially to attend college unless I moved in with him and his wife. That was in the sixties. So I'm a loser. My mother never liked Christianity or religion. OOPS!

That's probably more than you wanted to know.
 
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