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Is this related to the previous post about your best friend?
We all feel that we're ignored and that no one really cares about us, including the people that we have opened up to and have invested so much energy into. If you feel like a specific person is floating away I'd like to remind you that you can't force anyone to be your friend, relationship is something consensual and keep in mind that life is change, we all change which proves that we are alive. If someone changes in the opposite direction from you and they no longer desire to be with you the wisest thing to do is to be calm and let them go, don't force them to consent to something they don't want to.
Now if you feel that everyone is drifting away you need to remind yourself that you can't always trust your feelings, they lie as much as they tell the truth. Look around you and I'm pretty sure there are people that want to connect with you but you are so deep in your melancholy that you don't really realise you're actually ignoring them.
I pray that God will give you wisdom dealing with the everyday drama that unfortunately all humans have to deal with .
 
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Today we remember how Jesus rose from the dead. Greatest battle in history successfully completed.

What a comfort we may have, even death can't beat us now, Heaven is assured for those who love Him and have put their faith in Him.

A day to celebrate:bow:
 
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Feeling a bit ashamed over how slow I am. I feel like my attention span is slipping, and I'm so darn lazy. I can't focus on anything anymore unless it's a video game or something. People send me PMs and emails, and then I go off and do something else and forget all about them and it takes me OVER 3 HOURS to get back to them. It wasn't important, so I didn't need to answer at a specific point in time, but I could have kept the conversation going if I wasn't so freaking slow.

I WAS going to write today, but nowadays there's no telling I'll be able to do that. I could just get caught up in some bizarre or anxious thought and then just do that.

I can't go outside because it's rainy and wet all the time. I can't go for a walk because then people outside see me and my awkward gait in public and then I have to do nothing but think about my thoughts, usually by getting anxious about them or something. All I can do is sit around inside, even though it's SUPPOSED to be my "spring break". Not that it matters, they've already given me tons of stuff to do for when I get back. Too much to think about, and I'm constantly procrastinating. :(
 
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Very anxious. I would rather go anywhere but there. The sick part of me wants to do some pretty bad things.

I hate that place.
What place? Care to elaborate? Just trying to help if I can.:hug:
 
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Feeling a bit ashamed over how slow I am. I feel like my attention span is slipping, and I'm so darn lazy. I can't focus on anything anymore unless it's a video game or something. People send me PMs and emails, and then I go off and do something else and forget all about them and it takes me OVER 3 HOURS to get back to them. It wasn't important, so I didn't need to answer at a specific point in time, but I could have kept the conversation going if I wasn't so freaking slow.

I WAS going to write today, but nowadays there's no telling I'll be able to do that. I could just get caught up in some bizarre or anxious thought and then just do that.

I can't go outside because it's rainy and wet all the time. I can't go for a walk because then people outside see me and my awkward gait in public and then I have to do nothing but think about my thoughts, usually by getting anxious about them or something. All I can do is sit around inside, even though it's SUPPOSED to be my "spring break". Not that it matters, they've already given me tons of stuff to do for when I get back. Too much to think about, and I'm constantly procrastinating. :(
Maybe you can make a list of things you want to do. Try not being so hard on yourself. It will only make you more anxious. Can you do something you really like and try to relax doing that? Just trying to help. Not sure what to say.
 
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Thank you, Ruth. I think I handled it well. I took that "I'm lazy" energy and decided to start writing like I said I was going to. Sure, it was only like 2,000 words and one chapter of something that was already technically written years ago, but it was something. That made me feel better :)
 
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I'm supposed to be meeting a girl for coffee tomorrow, and I'm really anxious for two reasons. The first is that while she had originally wanted to meet me purely to be real life friends as opposed to knowing each other solely through a dating site and FB, I'm not sure if her intent is still totally platonic. Secondly, I don't know what she has planned, and would feel really strange saying when my family got home "I was hanging around with some girl I've never met before all afternoon", especially if I ended up getting home later than they do.
 
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I'm supposed to be meeting a girl for coffee tomorrow, and I'm really anxious for two reasons. The first is that while she had originally wanted to meet me purely to be real life friends as opposed to knowing each other solely through a dating site and FB, I'm not sure if her intent is still totally platonic. Secondly, I don't know what she has planned, and would feel really strange saying when my family got home "I was hanging around with some girl I've never met before all afternoon", especially if I ended up getting home later than they do.

Play it by ear! Go in with friendly intentions. Who knows, you two might might hit it off and it may develop. Better to have tried. Even if you two don't hit it off romantically, at least you made a friend.

Where you go is none of their business. Divulge whatever information you feel most comfortable with. "Oh, I met up with someone today" and keep it at that.

Good luck tomorrow! Be friendly, open, honest. Etc.
 
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Play it by ear! Go in with friendly intentions. Who knows, you two might might hit it off and it may develop. Better to have tried. Even if you two don't hit it off romantically, at least you made a friend.

Where you go is none of their business. Divulge whatever information you feel most comfortable with. "Oh, I met up with someone today" and keep it at that.

Good luck tomorrow! Be friendly, open, honest. Etc.

Super good advice, Mikha'el! She wrote exactly what I would have. Also, be a good listener and ask questions about her & be genuinely be interested in her thoughts, feelings, opinions, ect. Then share yours. Surely you'll find some common ground. Put romantic possibilities aside for now. I think you will be more relaxed. I also agree that you owe no explanation to your family; it's a personal matter.

I dated a woman once & saw her only twice. I'll never forget that she said: "You're the only man who ever treated me like a lady". This statement blew me away and I felt this rather sad coming from a 35 yr. old never married woman. I was 30. She suffered a lot of abuse from guys because she was a looker w/ a killer figure & before I came along none of her prospects cared about her feelings, opinions, ect. She talked and talked and talked. I was like her psychologist or something but what she needed was somebody just to listen. Long story short, we lived in different states so eventually went our separate was but remained friends.

I'll answer your PM soon, Mikha'el. Right now I'm majorly stressed and in a huge depression funk. I am confident your meeting with this woman will be a positive one.
 
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I'm supposed to be meeting a girl for coffee tomorrow, and I'm really anxious for two reasons. The first is that while she had originally wanted to meet me purely to be real life friends as opposed to knowing each other solely through a dating site and FB, I'm not sure if her intent is still totally platonic. Secondly, I don't know what she has planned, and would feel really strange saying when my family got home "I was hanging around with some girl I've never met before all afternoon", especially if I ended up getting home later than they do.

I thin it is great that you are meeting someone. Just have fun and enjoy getting to know her. You never know.
As far as the family, your not 14, so who cares what they think
 
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Confident and happy and inspired. I got a raise at work, and was told by quite a few customers they're glad I work where I work because I make their experience so much more pleasent.

Next pay check, I'll be signing up for SATs! I can do this.
 
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Confident and happy and inspired. I got a raise at work, and was told by quite a few customers they're glad I work where I work because I make their experience so much more pleasent.

Next pay check, I'll be signing up for SATs! I can do this.

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I'm happy to see that so many of you are having a good time now :D

It says somewhere in the bible that the strong will carry the weak, but then they will reverse the roles.
I'm really depressed because I just realised how stuphid I am, I have made a lot of unwise decisions that I have to take responsibility for now, why am I so freaking blind?
 
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