- Apr 15, 2019
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- Christian
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- Single
Hello all again! I know I keep posting about my issue with others always labeling me as "quiet" but I just want input on if you all think I handled a recent situation appropriately. Okay, yesterday was me and my mother's birthday (yaay!) and at work there were two women telling me I need to loosen up more. Now the one who actually started the whole thing actually got the other woman to chime in by asking the woman what she thought about me. She then told me that I all I do is smile and then continue working when they try to include me in conversations. Of course, I became internally upset and even told them that I felt like I was being called abnormal and that I felt insulted. I definitely did not want to hear those comments on my birthday, just as I was enjoying it then I hear those comments. And as I mentioned in previous posts, people do not realize that when they tell me such things it only makes me withdraw from them even more because they have already labeled and judged me. And the one who asked the lady what she thought about me always wonder why I am always short on words with her. It is because she is always constantly pointing out to others that she thinks I am quiet and even sarcastically always says to me,"You make so much noise." Sometimes I just ignore her or just be short on words with her and just communicate with her when something is work related.She also mentioned that she does not like gospel music and sometimes calls herself a "devil". I realize the devil comes in many forms but this particular co-worker just irks me because I never know what she may say or do. She has a lot of negative energy as well, which other co-workers seem to not be aware of as well. She along with the other co-workers constantly chatter and are playful all day with another. I just do not get it. It is like I am being condemned for not acting and behaving the way they do. I only speak when spoken to or when I have something meaningful to say, not just speak just to speak. Neither do I feel I should act like others just to fit in. I struggle to remain confident in myself because of such words by others. How should I deal with this issue at work and do you all think I handled this situation correctly? I would appreciate your comments again. Thanks in advance.