Hello friends,
I closed my previous account (username SeraTaru) as I didn't feel like posting any more...the lure of the man cave was more than I could resist but I feel I want to update you kind folk on our situation.
Andrea came through her operation on 20th December and we had a really nice Christmas - all things considered.
We got the post op results last Friday and they've been fairly devastating. The cancer has spread to the third node and so Andrea has to go back in for another operation on 17th January - it's a more extensive 2-3 hour operation to remove a number of nodes. In layman's terms this means the cancer has spread into the lymph system and the consultant can give no guarantees that other organs are not being affected. It's now classed as a "stage 3 invasive" - isn't it wonderful the buzzwords you can learn going through all of this.
There's been a lot of tears in our house over the past couple of weeks.
After the operation and starting in Feb she's going to be going through 6-9 months of chemo, followed by radiotherapy.
I feel punch drunk...it's all I can do to put one foot in front of the other. I was meant to go back to work last Tuesday and couldn't face it and took the rest of the week off. Today I went into the office and lasted 30 minutes. I called my boss and had a long chat and basically told him that my head is not in a place to look at work...so he is seeing if my job can be suspended for a few months to give me time to spend with Andrea as we face some hard times. Essentially it's unpaid leave, so money will be really....scarce on the ground. (The consultant told Andrea to forget about her job for all of 2018).
Through all of this I'd like to say I've drawn closer to God and I'm experiencing His peace. Truth be told I've no idea what to think. My daily prayer as I fall asleep has been "Jesus if I die and won't go to hell then please let me die in my sleep". So far sadly that prayer hasn't been answered.
I'm 50 this year, directionless, purposeless, my life to this point has been a complete waste of space and I can't see any future any more. I feel a zillion miles from God and don't even know if He cares. I hear that He cares, but I never get any indication that He does. It's been 20 years since I felt "a touch". No relationship survives a lack of love.
Daft as it seems I've missed posting here, and missed having interaction with some of you. Even dafter you've been the closest I've had to "Christian friends". So my apologies that I disappeared without a word, just doing that dumb male "running and hiding" thing.
Thanks for reading, no prayers needed or expected but just wanted to update you as I know some of you were praying for Andrea.
PS she has been blogging and I'd like to share the link to her blog - she sure does take encouragement when she gets a follower so maybe a couple of you would like to read about her journey.
https://www.caringbridge.org/visit/andreasjourneyofhope
Thanks
David
I closed my previous account (username SeraTaru) as I didn't feel like posting any more...the lure of the man cave was more than I could resist but I feel I want to update you kind folk on our situation.
Andrea came through her operation on 20th December and we had a really nice Christmas - all things considered.
We got the post op results last Friday and they've been fairly devastating. The cancer has spread to the third node and so Andrea has to go back in for another operation on 17th January - it's a more extensive 2-3 hour operation to remove a number of nodes. In layman's terms this means the cancer has spread into the lymph system and the consultant can give no guarantees that other organs are not being affected. It's now classed as a "stage 3 invasive" - isn't it wonderful the buzzwords you can learn going through all of this.
There's been a lot of tears in our house over the past couple of weeks.
After the operation and starting in Feb she's going to be going through 6-9 months of chemo, followed by radiotherapy.
I feel punch drunk...it's all I can do to put one foot in front of the other. I was meant to go back to work last Tuesday and couldn't face it and took the rest of the week off. Today I went into the office and lasted 30 minutes. I called my boss and had a long chat and basically told him that my head is not in a place to look at work...so he is seeing if my job can be suspended for a few months to give me time to spend with Andrea as we face some hard times. Essentially it's unpaid leave, so money will be really....scarce on the ground. (The consultant told Andrea to forget about her job for all of 2018).
Through all of this I'd like to say I've drawn closer to God and I'm experiencing His peace. Truth be told I've no idea what to think. My daily prayer as I fall asleep has been "Jesus if I die and won't go to hell then please let me die in my sleep". So far sadly that prayer hasn't been answered.
I'm 50 this year, directionless, purposeless, my life to this point has been a complete waste of space and I can't see any future any more. I feel a zillion miles from God and don't even know if He cares. I hear that He cares, but I never get any indication that He does. It's been 20 years since I felt "a touch". No relationship survives a lack of love.
Daft as it seems I've missed posting here, and missed having interaction with some of you. Even dafter you've been the closest I've had to "Christian friends". So my apologies that I disappeared without a word, just doing that dumb male "running and hiding" thing.
Thanks for reading, no prayers needed or expected but just wanted to update you as I know some of you were praying for Andrea.
PS she has been blogging and I'd like to share the link to her blog - she sure does take encouragement when she gets a follower so maybe a couple of you would like to read about her journey.
https://www.caringbridge.org/visit/andreasjourneyofhope
Thanks
David