My girlfriend of 10 months is dead set on us getting married. She is in her mid 30's where as I am in my upper 20's. She never had a boyfriend before me and thinks I am the one. I'm not trying to brag or be mean but I am probably a little bit out of her league (I really don't care about that, I'm just trying to paint the picture).
At first I enjoyed our relationship. I enjoyed spending time with her. But things changed in the first few months. She wanted to spend all her time with me. I felt like I could never get any time to myself. I finally had to explain that to her and that I needed more time to myself. She got mad but did give me some time.
I knew I felt like she was investing too much into me but I thought it would get better over time. However, we are 10 months in and I don't know if I feel the same way anymore. She still will ask me to hang out more than we were planning and sometimes gets upset when I push back and say no. She is also very emotionally attached to me. I wish she wasn't and I've told her not to be so attached to me.
I told her at the beginning of the relationship that there are no guarantees. I told her things might not work out in the end. She understood but said she was hopeful. And it was cool.
However, I don't know if this is what I want anymore. I feel like I don't get much freedom. I know someone who has gotten married to someone who depends on them a lot emotionally. I don't want that. I don't know if I want this relationship anymore.
If I'm being honest: if someone asked me if I could go back to when we first started dating and choose not to date. I would probably choose not to date.
I think I want to break up. But I just don't know how and I am scared about what she will think or do. I do care about her feelings and I want her to be happy. I don't think her happiness should depend on being with me anyways, but it (feels like it) does.
Does anyone have any advice on this? Has anyone been in this situation? Should I stay with her and hope things get better? Should I break up with her? Thanks for the input.
At first I enjoyed our relationship. I enjoyed spending time with her. But things changed in the first few months. She wanted to spend all her time with me. I felt like I could never get any time to myself. I finally had to explain that to her and that I needed more time to myself. She got mad but did give me some time.
I knew I felt like she was investing too much into me but I thought it would get better over time. However, we are 10 months in and I don't know if I feel the same way anymore. She still will ask me to hang out more than we were planning and sometimes gets upset when I push back and say no. She is also very emotionally attached to me. I wish she wasn't and I've told her not to be so attached to me.
I told her at the beginning of the relationship that there are no guarantees. I told her things might not work out in the end. She understood but said she was hopeful. And it was cool.
However, I don't know if this is what I want anymore. I feel like I don't get much freedom. I know someone who has gotten married to someone who depends on them a lot emotionally. I don't want that. I don't know if I want this relationship anymore.
If I'm being honest: if someone asked me if I could go back to when we first started dating and choose not to date. I would probably choose not to date.
I think I want to break up. But I just don't know how and I am scared about what she will think or do. I do care about her feelings and I want her to be happy. I don't think her happiness should depend on being with me anyways, but it (feels like it) does.
Does anyone have any advice on this? Has anyone been in this situation? Should I stay with her and hope things get better? Should I break up with her? Thanks for the input.