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In another thread, @Julian of Norwich asked me about how I came to be convinced that God was calling me to ordained ministry (particularly with reference to the question of the ordination of women). That's really a bigger question than just about me, so I suggested that I start a thread here and invite others to contribute.
I'd ask that this thread be a place where we can share stories of vocation and the journey towards and into ministry, and where others can comment and ask questions, but that it not become a debate thread where people cast doubt on others' experiences. There are plenty of other places on CF for that.
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All of that said, the following part of this is a first attempt at an answer to that question.
I wasn't raised going to church, so for me I think the experience of vocation actually starts when I was in my late teens, and I felt restless with my own spiritual life. I read the Bible by myself, I prayed by myself, and that was good; but I felt a deep longing for more. But I didn't really have any conception of what that "more" might be. I was talking about this with a friend of mine who suggested that it might be going to church, and so I gave it a try.
(I should say that coming into church from the outside was a very difficult and often painful process, so I look back and see my persistence in the face of that, my determination to find that "more" as definitely being Spirit-nudged!)
I didn't really have any well-thought-through ideas about the whole question of the ordination of women or gender roles or any of that, from a Christian point of view, because I was having to build a Christian understanding of everything from the ground up, as it were! I had a mild bias against women clergy that I think was mostly cultural baggage, but I had enough other issues to work through that it wasn't taking up a lot of headspace!
Anyway. Fast forward a few years and I was more settled in church, and having taken on various volunteer roles, on the music team, teaching Sunday school, and so on. And very clear that that was a level of involvement with which I was happy. I looked at my vicar and thought he had an incredibly difficult job I was happy not to have to contemplate. I had done my science degree and was working for a big pharmaceutical company, and if that wasn't entirely satisfying, my thoughts about what I might do about that ran more to further study in science.
But I had a day where I was praying, and basically at that point I was rather frustrated with it all, and I said to God something like, "Here I am; you know me completely, all of my gifts and strengths and weaknesses, even better than I do; here is all of it, just tell me what I'm supposed to do!" And that was the moment I had of vocation that turned my whole world upside down, because I very clearly felt that God's response was to accept me, the whole of me; and tell me that if I was really offering everything I was, then to come and serve Him.
I can't put into words what that moment really meant. I was someone who'd been abused for years as a kid, who'd fought to manage anxiety and depression and PTSD, who had never really believed in my own worth. And in that moment I felt God's total acceptance; more, the worth God saw in me, in accepting and loving me completely like that. To me, vocation is the moment when God said "yes" to me, and showed me that God had created me with something worth offering.
Anyway. While that day was a moment of radical acceptance, and I felt like my life had been turned around and I had a new sense of purpose, that didn't automatically mean that I felt that I should offer for ordination. There are lots of ways to serve God as a lay person. But I didn't have a clear sense of which way to go. Teaching? Counselling? Something else? My diocese has a programme called a "year of discernment" which is basically designed to help people sort through some of those questions, especially whether or not to offer for ordination. So I enquired about that, and found that the bishop who looked after that very firmly felt I should attend. ("Starting tomorrow!")
At the end of that, we had the opportunity to indicate whether we wanted to offer for ordination, (and if so, as a deacon or a priest). I still wasn't 100% sure, but had been encouraged enough through the process that I felt the way forward was to offer, and to say to God that if God didn't want me there, not to open the door. Well, the doors opened... and kept opening. All through the lengthy process of interviews and medical exams and psych exams and more interviews and all the rest, everybody was unanimous: God had called me to this and the Church should say yes.
So the rest was history. Six years of college, field placements, and all the rest, later, the church ordained me first a deacon and then a priest. My work since then has absolutely confirmed in my mind that this was what I was created, gifted and called to do. This is where I do the most good. This is where all that I am is able to be offered for the healing and flourishing of the people of God.
I don't know if that makes as much sense to people reading it, as it does inside my own head trying to share it; I'm happy to answer questions or say more about parts of that process or my own experiences. But I hope it's helpful to have some sort of sense of what this can be like.
In another thread, @Julian of Norwich asked me about how I came to be convinced that God was calling me to ordained ministry (particularly with reference to the question of the ordination of women). That's really a bigger question than just about me, so I suggested that I start a thread here and invite others to contribute.
I'd ask that this thread be a place where we can share stories of vocation and the journey towards and into ministry, and where others can comment and ask questions, but that it not become a debate thread where people cast doubt on others' experiences. There are plenty of other places on CF for that.
____
All of that said, the following part of this is a first attempt at an answer to that question.
I wasn't raised going to church, so for me I think the experience of vocation actually starts when I was in my late teens, and I felt restless with my own spiritual life. I read the Bible by myself, I prayed by myself, and that was good; but I felt a deep longing for more. But I didn't really have any conception of what that "more" might be. I was talking about this with a friend of mine who suggested that it might be going to church, and so I gave it a try.
(I should say that coming into church from the outside was a very difficult and often painful process, so I look back and see my persistence in the face of that, my determination to find that "more" as definitely being Spirit-nudged!)
I didn't really have any well-thought-through ideas about the whole question of the ordination of women or gender roles or any of that, from a Christian point of view, because I was having to build a Christian understanding of everything from the ground up, as it were! I had a mild bias against women clergy that I think was mostly cultural baggage, but I had enough other issues to work through that it wasn't taking up a lot of headspace!
Anyway. Fast forward a few years and I was more settled in church, and having taken on various volunteer roles, on the music team, teaching Sunday school, and so on. And very clear that that was a level of involvement with which I was happy. I looked at my vicar and thought he had an incredibly difficult job I was happy not to have to contemplate. I had done my science degree and was working for a big pharmaceutical company, and if that wasn't entirely satisfying, my thoughts about what I might do about that ran more to further study in science.
But I had a day where I was praying, and basically at that point I was rather frustrated with it all, and I said to God something like, "Here I am; you know me completely, all of my gifts and strengths and weaknesses, even better than I do; here is all of it, just tell me what I'm supposed to do!" And that was the moment I had of vocation that turned my whole world upside down, because I very clearly felt that God's response was to accept me, the whole of me; and tell me that if I was really offering everything I was, then to come and serve Him.
I can't put into words what that moment really meant. I was someone who'd been abused for years as a kid, who'd fought to manage anxiety and depression and PTSD, who had never really believed in my own worth. And in that moment I felt God's total acceptance; more, the worth God saw in me, in accepting and loving me completely like that. To me, vocation is the moment when God said "yes" to me, and showed me that God had created me with something worth offering.
Anyway. While that day was a moment of radical acceptance, and I felt like my life had been turned around and I had a new sense of purpose, that didn't automatically mean that I felt that I should offer for ordination. There are lots of ways to serve God as a lay person. But I didn't have a clear sense of which way to go. Teaching? Counselling? Something else? My diocese has a programme called a "year of discernment" which is basically designed to help people sort through some of those questions, especially whether or not to offer for ordination. So I enquired about that, and found that the bishop who looked after that very firmly felt I should attend. ("Starting tomorrow!")
At the end of that, we had the opportunity to indicate whether we wanted to offer for ordination, (and if so, as a deacon or a priest). I still wasn't 100% sure, but had been encouraged enough through the process that I felt the way forward was to offer, and to say to God that if God didn't want me there, not to open the door. Well, the doors opened... and kept opening. All through the lengthy process of interviews and medical exams and psych exams and more interviews and all the rest, everybody was unanimous: God had called me to this and the Church should say yes.
So the rest was history. Six years of college, field placements, and all the rest, later, the church ordained me first a deacon and then a priest. My work since then has absolutely confirmed in my mind that this was what I was created, gifted and called to do. This is where I do the most good. This is where all that I am is able to be offered for the healing and flourishing of the people of God.
I don't know if that makes as much sense to people reading it, as it does inside my own head trying to share it; I'm happy to answer questions or say more about parts of that process or my own experiences. But I hope it's helpful to have some sort of sense of what this can be like.