Ive been waiting for many years to get a bf/husband and its been rough! Anyways this morning when i was resting, I saw a stop sign at my apartments in a vision that had the name of the guy i am talking to/like and the stop sign was GREEN. I didnt understand it at first and thought maybe i needed to 'slow down' since it was a stop sign and it was green....but then the revelation came to me later. The green color is 'go' for my direction to [insert guys name] for a relationship and the shape of the sign; a stop sign means my trial of lonliness is coming to an END. Any ways I dont get ever get visions so this is new to me. Hopfully i am acurate with all that is happening right now but I dont want to second guess or doubt what God has been doing. Ive been struggling with doubt for a while, but the vision was true and the revelation seems right, prayers for guidance would be apreciated. Thankyou!
I'm a little sceptical of instant solutions but I'll give my (very personal) experience first, and then hopefully give you a bit of advice.
My wife and I have been married now for 27 years, but in the years before I met my wife, I was single for about nine years, following an earlier marriage breakdown. Like you I was starting to get a bit restive about meeting a suitable companion (female in my case), particularly in view of the rather limited playing ground in our local church, due to its small size. At that stage I didn't have much in the way of outside interests - it was work and church (mind you the church had a very engaging set of young people, and they had even a gym under the church, which meant I was reasonably fit back then - fast forward nearly 30 years and I'd rather watch others work out, but I digress).
I forgot who it was who said it, but he quipped, "I love work! I could watch it for hours!"
So I went running off to the pastor, to seek his wise advice. He gave a couple of options, of which advertising in the local news paper was one, saying he'd seen several good marriages come of that (but you also need to be very careful). Then he added, "But maybe you'll got to a conference or something and meet someone there."
I wasn't keen on advertising, so I started going to all these conferences - you name it, I was there - meetings about cults, creationism, specific ministry needs and all the rest. The reality was that I didn't give two hoots about the conferences - all I was interested in was meeting someone. So I'd sit there just checking out the rest of the participants.
No go! Back to the pastor, tail between my legs. I think he was a bit irritated, but replied "That's not quite what I meant. I was talking about a group like 'Christians without Partners'. That way you know you're in a group where they're looking for the same thing".
But precisely as he said "... Christians without Partners ... ", this sense of bubbling joy hit me - very brief (about five seconds at most),
but also very noticeable. I knew then that I'd meet someone if I went there. The group no longer exists, and hasn't for a long time, but it did then.
So I went along, and sure enough on the second occasion I went, I met my future wife, and we were married the better part of a year later.
So my advice to you is to seek the advice of your pastor and others with experience in Christian matters. Secondly to
look for places where there are other Christians who might also be looking for suitable partners.
I would not put too much faith in one-off "visions" if I were you, or you could set yourself up for a lot of heartbreak, and disillusionment with God. He knows if there is someone He's got in mind, but you might need to take some steps in a logical direction to cooperate with Him.
It's a bit like the bloke complaining to God that His promise of a lot of money due to a future lottery win never seemed to eventuate. After hearing this bloke whinge for a few years, God finally answered.
"Mate", He said, "meet me half way.
Buy a ticket first!"
You might have to buy an allegorical ticket - put yourself in a place where there are likely to be other lonely Christians, looking for partners. And if you do meet someone, don't rush, whatever you do. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, and you need to make sure it's going to last.
