I have actually been the one guilty of bringing in unwanted guests. Well we agreed in the beginning but because I dont set limits very well, they stayed way TOO long.
I agree...the one who should be tiptoeing around should be THEM. People who stay longer than a couple of days become family members not guests. It would be time for them to assume responsibilities like anyone else in the house. Your husband could probably use the help and put the right way, he might see that its not fair that he has to work so hard to support extra people who don't appreciate him like you do. I would suggest figuring out whats most annoying about this situation (besides the fact they are THERE....since thats the reality...they moved in). Then pick your fights, pray about it and God will give you the right thought or idea to make this situation change. In the meantime, its really important that you don't become the source of the problem....thats what I tend to do...I tend to get so overly involved that I become the focus....the real problem is your unwanted guests. Why aren't they an inconvenience to your husband? If its because he is at work you might ask him if you could come spend the day, with the kids with him,since the house is so full.....it would make the point. I mean this with love and would say it nicely---he may not realize how much you need your space and how much work you have to do in the course of the day..... I would make sure I have a clear idea of what I think "House rules" need to be before I started this conversation. I would keep it all positive.....approach it like they are staying and these are the things that will make it all better....