Daniel Marsh
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Miamited, I appreciate your response. I spoke with my ex-husband yesterday. I do not want to be in a husband/wife relationship with him and will not remarry, but I am considering not leaving him. He does not want to be alone and says he still has feelings for me. My son will be happier to have us together in one house. Nobody is guaranteed the next day. He has treated me better since I filed for divorce. It is too bad it took something drastic to make him understand that I will not be berated any longer. I can find happiness in my church group, art, petting animals at the humane society, etc. There are so many places to involve myself. I can find happiness and contribute to society. I do not want to hurt my ex-husband or son. I just have to have some relief from his and my mother's verbal abuse. God knows my heart and mind. I don't know how much experience you have had with verbally abusive people. I have had a lifetime. It makes you want to run, dig a hole and hide for a time. P.S. My brother manages my mother's finances. My sister chooses to not be around my mother. My mother berates her. My father asked me to care for her before he died. My father was gone quite a bit as we were growing up and after we left home he visited us for long periods of time when mother had episodes. Maybe I shouldn't feel responsibility toward her, but I do. I sometimes resent that my sister doesn't help, but try to remember how my mom makes her feel. My sister probably has a healthier attitude toward my mother because she never sees her. You made a good point. My expectations ARE too high of others and myself. This is why I like this forum. Other people can point out things about you that your jumbled-up mind won't allow you to see. Thank you so much! I will focus on this and consider talking with my siblings about how to help Mom without feeling bitter. I have much growing to do; even at my age.
But not in the new.
The scripture talks more about remarriage and the adultery that occurs. Is adultery forgivable?
The scripture talks more about remarriage and the adultery that occurs. Is adultery forgivable?
I was unhappily married for 28 years. I finally divorced my husband in December. He refuses to leave the house. It took over a year to get divorced because he would not work with me. Now he is fighting me every step of the way. My husband was mean when I married him, but I wanted a baby before I was too old and thought it would work out. I made a terrible mistake. He has a terrible temper. He yells at me if there is not a hand towel available when he needs one. I have stayed to please God. I have not committed adultery, but have met someone who is very kind to me. I have known him for a time as a good friend. My good friend wants to marry me.I feel that God would rather I just stay with my ex-husband in a roommate situation. I am unhappy, but my ex-husband does not want me to leave. My son is 27 but a very young 27 with a learning disability. I have asked God for clarity, but He has not answered. I look forward to death. We quit going on vacation together years ago because his temper made it impossible to have fun. He raised his fists to me because I could not read directions, causing us to get lost. I want to put God first. Right now, I welcome death. Any advice? We are both Christians. The church we attend is so strict. Of course he is being supported by the church members. They do not seem to see women as equals. Counseling didn't help because this has gone on so long I have no feelings left. My option now is to sell the house (my son and I were supposed to have it for 2 years) or have my husband evicted. I am sure I could stay in this situation. Look how long I have so far. I feel very confused about what to do. I believe I could have a much better life with my friend, but don't want to displease God. I take this very seriously.
only with repentance.The scripture talks more about remarriage and the adultery that occurs. Is adultery forgivable?
Yes. Many find themselves in this situation. Can you still rob banks when you get out if you got saved in prison?Isn't that true of all sins?
Also, what if someone IS remarried and then becomes a Christian? What are they to do? Divorce the new spouse?
Isn't that true of all sins?
Also, what if someone IS remarried and then becomes a Christian? What are they to do? Divorce the new spouse?
Yes. Many find themselves in this situation. Can you still rob banks when you get out if you got saved in prison?
Yes. Many find themselves in this situation. Can you still rob banks when you get out if you got saved in prison?
No, they don't, at least from my experience. My mom thought she could say whatever and as long as she said it in a regular tone of voice she was being "nice". She thought yelling was mean and that the words said and actions didn't matter.This is probably off topic, but don't mentally ill people know they are being hateful?
Any advice? We are both Christians. The church we attend is so strict. Of course he is being supported by the church members. They do not seem to see women as equals. Counseling didn't help because this has gone on so long I have no feelings left. My option now is to sell the house (my son and I were supposed to have it for 2 years) or have my husband evicted. I am sure I could stay in this situation. Look how long I have so far. I feel very confused about what to do. I believe I could have a much better life with my friend, but don't want to displease God. I take this very seriously.
Probably. Probably not. If you are getting hurt, does it matter?This is probably off topic, but don't mentally ill people know they are being hateful?
Move away, but do not marry another. Live a single life. It may be a happy and peaceful life.I was unhappily married for 28 years. I finally divorced my husband in December. He refuses to leave the house. It took over a year to get divorced because he would not work with me. Now he is fighting me every step of the way. My husband was mean when I married him, but I wanted a baby before I was too old and thought it would work out. I made a terrible mistake. He has a terrible temper. He yells at me if there is not a hand towel available when he needs one. I have stayed to please God. I have not committed adultery, but have met someone who is very kind to me. I have known him for a time as a good friend. My good friend wants to marry me.I feel that God would rather I just stay with my ex-husband in a roommate situation. I am unhappy, but my ex-husband does not want me to leave. My son is 27 but a very young 27 with a learning disability. I have asked God for clarity, but He has not answered. I look forward to death. We quit going on vacation together years ago because his temper made it impossible to have fun. He raised his fists to me because I could not read directions, causing us to get lost. I want to put God first. Right now, I welcome death. Any advice? We are both Christians. The church we attend is so strict. Of course he is being supported by the church members. They do not seem to see women as equals. Counseling didn't help because this has gone on so long I have no feelings left. My option now is to sell the house (my son and I were supposed to have it for 2 years) or have my husband evicted. I am sure I could stay in this situation. Look how long I have so far. I feel very confused about what to do. I believe I could have a much better life with my friend, but don't want to displease God. I take this very seriously.
We must also repent of adultery to be forgiven.You are not supposed to still rob banks. God hates divorce and He does not approve of stealing. Try not to do it again.