My son in law is a deacon at the church I go to. It's a Pentecostal church. The pastor doesn't know him at all. He drinks alot, smokes pot and cigarettes. He won't hold a steady job. Quits job after job. Lazy. Treats his wife (my daughter) horrible! Curses and screams at her and their 2 children. This man is one of the top deacons. He's in charge of money etc. I'm at a loss of what to do. Hard to sit in church and see him sitting upfront beside podium beside the pastor every church service. I don't want to cause my daughter and grandkids problems but this is appalling. I've prayed about it and figured that's all I can do besides telling the pastor. I have refrained from going to pastor. Any suggestions? Should I tell the pastor in confidence?