So, I'm kind of in a situation where the pastor said he's teaching his family boundaries. I'm kind of confused on this, because from my perspective, it seems more like a tactic to use so that they don't have to talk to people they don't want to talk to. In some regards, i can understand this...there are some situations that can be really threatening, but then I also see unconditional love, where no matter the sin, you forgive that person, and I'm really confused. I feel like the boundaries are being put in place so that they don't have to talk with me about what's going on. The only reasoning I got from the pastor was that I have to take responsibility for myself, which is really confusing. To some degree it's true, but he won't be specific with me, he just speaks in terms that leave me more confused. From my perspective, since they won't talk with me, it just seems like his family thinks I'm annoying so they don't want to talk to me anymore. I could be making that in my mind, but without explanation...I haven't been to that church in about a month and a half, and they haven't reached out to me...I feel really hurt by how things ended and their refusal to communicate what the issue is. I also feel hurt that they refuse to forgive me
Well..... There is obviously more to this story, possibly a lot more to it, than what is written here.
There is no unconditional love. Not in the Bible. In fact, pretty much everything in the Bible is conditional.
G-d says over and over, if you do X, then I will reward you. If you refuse to do X, then I will punish you.
There is always conditions with love. If you marry a woman, you don't have unconditional love for her, because if she runs away and starts living and sleeping with another man, you'll have a problem with that.
So there is always conditions.
Now as for forgiveness, that means to release someone from a debt. Someone does you wrong, and they owe you. They owe you for the harm they did to you. You release them from that.
Forgiveness does not mean, that you have to let them back into your life, to continue harming you.
If I ask to borrow $100, and you agree, and then I refuse to pay you back. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you must forgive me, and then I'll ask to borrow $100 again, and you must lend it to me, because that's forgiveness.
No. You can forgive me for taking your money and refusing to pay you back. That doesn't mean you are required to allow me the opportunity to steal your money again.
Again, I have no idea what the deal is between you and the pastor. But him forgiving you, does not mean he must allow you back into his family again.
It sounds to me like there is some on-going problems, and the pastor is protecting his family.
I still have no idea what all is going on, but that's just what it sounds like. You would need to give more details to have a more accurate answer to your questions.