Try not to be an attention hog

[IAMABELIEVER1979]

I have a lot of problems in my life. A lot of depression and loneliness. I have decided that I want to attend Fellowship. But at the same time I don't want to attend Fellowship, for fear of rejection.

I feel like writing letters to a lot of the churches in town explaining my situation. I am disabled who struggles with anxiety and phobia. If I attend church all they will get is my problems. I don't have any spiritual gifts to offer anybody. I am also developmentally delayed. And I am extremely depressed. But I don't want to share this with anybody because I don't want somebody to think that all I'm just trying to do is get attention. But at the same time I want to cry on somebody's shoulders. I just want to tell somebody that I feel so unloved. I also don't want to put that on their shoulders either.

Loving me and caring about me is the hardest thing for anybody to do. I'm not that interesting or smart.

I don't want people to think that all I'm just trying to do is get attention. I am so sad. I want to talk to someone. Christian forums are great. But I need human contact. If I go to church they would have to drive me. And several churches we're willing to do that. I've reached out a couple of times. But I don't want to be a burden.

It would make somebody uncomfortable to listen to a 37 year old man pouring his heart and soul out to them.

I don't know what kind of advice I am looking for. But if you have any advice. Please let me know.

I used to tell myself that I didn't need people. But I realize that this is a lie. I was actually very depressed trying to make myself happy.

 

[Another Lazarus]

Are you using wheel chair ?

 

[mukk_in]

I have a lot of problems in my life. A lot of depression and loneliness. I have decided that I want to attend Fellowship. But at the same time I don't want to attend Fellowship, for fear of rejection.

I feel like writing letters to a lot of the churches in town explaining my situation. I am disabled who struggles with anxiety and phobia. If I attend church all they will get is my problems. I don't have any spiritual gifts to offer anybody. I am also developmentally delayed. And I am extremely depressed. But I don't want to share this with anybody because I don't want somebody to think that all I'm just trying to do is get attention. But at the same time I want to cry on somebody's shoulders. I just want to tell somebody that I feel so unloved. I also don't want to put that on their shoulders either.

Loving me and caring about me is the hardest thing for anybody to do. I'm not that interesting or smart.

I don't want people to think that all I'm just trying to do is get attention. I am so sad. I want to talk to someone. Christian forums are great. But I need human contact. If I go to church they would have to drive me. And several churches we're willing to do that. I've reached out a couple of times. But I don't want to be a burden.

It would make somebody uncomfortable to listen to a 37 year old man pouring his heart and soul out to them.

I don't know what kind of advice I am looking for. But if you have any advice. Please let me know.

I used to tell myself that I didn't need people. But I realize that this is a lie. I was actually very depressed trying to make myself happy.

Church is a community meant for people with problems. If you find the right church, you won't be hogging attention because you'll need it. An internet search (or referral) should help you find churches for people with special needs. God bless .

 

[IAMABELIEVER1979]

Are you using wheel chair ?

That is funny that you asked me that. I just bought one yesterday and it's on its way.

I can walk. But I am very off balance when I walk. I use a walking stick and I have a hard time crossing the street. Actually it's almost impossible it seems. I have an extreme fear of Wide Open Spaces. I'm trying to overcome it but it seems almost impossible. So I am going to try a wheelchair. I also have extreme vertigo.

So yeah I did buy a wheelchair. It just hasn't showed up yet.

 

[IAMABELIEVER1979]

Church is a community meant for people with problems. If you find the right church, you won't be hogging attention because you'll need it. An internet search (or referral) should help you find churches for people with special needs. God bless .

Thank you and God bless you too.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I used to tell myself that I didn't need people. But I realize that this is a lie. I was actually very depressed trying to make myself happy.

Humans are social creatures by nature. And socializing has a positive impact on our mental health and a negative one if we do without it.
I would say just go anyway, being isolated is such a terrible feeling.

 

[DeerGlow]

I have a lot of problems in my life. A lot of depression and loneliness. I have decided that I want to attend Fellowship. But at the same time I don't want to attend Fellowship, for fear of rejection.

I feel like writing letters to a lot of the churches in town explaining my situation. I am disabled who struggles with anxiety and phobia. If I attend church all they will get is my problems. I don't have any spiritual gifts to offer anybody. I am also developmentally delayed. And I am extremely depressed. But I don't want to share this with anybody because I don't want somebody to think that all I'm just trying to do is get attention. But at the same time I want to cry on somebody's shoulders. I just want to tell somebody that I feel so unloved. I also don't want to put that on their shoulders either.

Loving me and caring about me is the hardest thing for anybody to do. I'm not that interesting or smart.

I don't want people to think that all I'm just trying to do is get attention. I am so sad. I want to talk to someone. Christian forums are great. But I need human contact. If I go to church they would have to drive me. And several churches we're willing to do that. I've reached out a couple of times. But I don't want to be a burden.

It would make somebody uncomfortable to listen to a 37 year old man pouring his heart and soul out to them.

I don't know what kind of advice I am looking for. But if you have any advice. Please let me know.

I used to tell myself that I didn't need people. But I realize that this is a lie. I was actually very depressed trying to make myself happy.

Sorry. I have trouble clicking the right little button.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Sorry. I have trouble clicking the right little button.

Hey how are you feeling?

 

[rockytopva]

Sometimes helping others is a way out.

 

[IAMABELIEVER1979]

Sometimes helping others is a way out.

I thought about doing some volunteer work. It's very difficult, though, for me. I have vertigo.

 

[IAMABELIEVER1979]

Humans are social creatures by nature. And socializing has a positive impact on our mental health and a negative one if we do without it.
I would say just go anyway, being isolated is such a terrible feeling.

I'm starting to realize this. I don't know how (I forgot the name for it) but those who isolate themselves and have no human contact whatsoever, do it.

 

[timewerx]

It would make somebody uncomfortable to listen to a 37 year old man pouring his heart and soul out to them.

I don't know what kind of advice I am looking for. But if you have any advice. Please let me know.

I used to tell myself that I didn't need people. But I realize that this is a lie. I was actually very depressed trying to make myself happy.

I never thought you'd be in your 30's, I thought you are only twenty something years old!

Sadly, most people are just like robots. They only respond to a specific set of conditions, can't break the programming.

Probably not worth the company. You got to learn to be happy even if just by yourself. Take a hobby if there's anything that interests you. Try "papercraft" if you google it. You might find it quite entertaining and the best thing about that hobby is that it is very cheap. Only needs paper and a printer.

If you manage to get out a bit of depression, try fixing the other parts of your life too. It's hard work bro but it could be worth it.

I know how you feel man, I was very depressed too, jobless for over a year, parents getting old and no pension and I'm 35 still single and we have mortgage we might soon give up. If our luck don't change, we may lose our home in a couple of years.

Thank God I got a job now only it doesn't pay well at the moment, still won't be enough for our mortgage and it's not permanent.

I'm still not out of depression so I have to work very hard in this new job, including weekends, late at night while still fighting depression and anxiety towards our bleak future.

What I'm saying is that if I can do it, maybe you can too. That is work very hard at something in spite of depression and anxiety, real problems. For you, you can work at something to improve yourself.

It's just life man and people are cold just like Bible prophesied, people will be cold in the last days. Don't expect Christians to be warm. Jesus will actually turn away many Christians in the day of Judgement.

 

[IAMABELIEVER1979]

I never thought you'd be in your 30's, I thought you are only twenty something years old!

Sadly, most people are just like robots. They only respond to a specific set of conditions, can't break the programming.

Probably not worth the company. You got to learn to be happy even if just by yourself. Take a hobby if there's anything that interests you. Try "papercraft" if you google it. You might find it quite entertaining and the best thing about that hobby is that it is very cheap. Only needs paper and a printer.

If you manage to get out a bit of depression, try fixing the other parts of your life too. It's hard work bro but it could be worth it.

I know how you feel man, I was very depressed too, jobless for over a year, parents getting old and no pension and I'm 35 still single and we have mortgage we might soon give up. If our luck don't change, we may lose our home in a couple of years.

Thank God I got a job now only it doesn't pay well at the moment, still won't be enough for our mortgage and it's not permanent.

I'm still not out of depression so I have to work very hard in this new job, including weekends, late at night while still fighting depression and anxiety towards our bleak future.

What I'm saying is that if I can do it, maybe you can too. That is work very hard at something in spite of depression and anxiety, real problems. For you, you can work at something to improve yourself.

It's just life man and people are cold just like Bible prophesied, people will be cold in the last days. Don't expect Christians to be warm. Jesus will actually turn away many Christians in the day of Judgement.

This was very helpful. Thank you very much.

You are probably right I shouldn't depend on people to make me happy.

 

[timewerx]

This was very helpful. Thank you very much.

You are probably right I shouldn't depend on people to make me happy.

We still need socialisation if that is possible.

It's just sad that people can be picky so we got no choice but to adapt.

 

[IAMABELIEVER1979]

We still need socialisation if that is possible.

It's just sad that people can be picky so we got no choice but to adapt.

This I do know

 

[7climber]

I have a lot of problems in my life. A lot of depression and loneliness. I have decided that I want to attend Fellowship. But at the same time I don't want to attend Fellowship, for fear of rejection.

I feel like writing letters to a lot of the churches in town explaining my situation. I am disabled who struggles with anxiety and phobia. If I attend church all they will get is my problems. I don't have any spiritual gifts to offer anybody. I am also developmentally delayed. And I am extremely depressed. But I don't want to share this with anybody because I don't want somebody to think that all I'm just trying to do is get attention. But at the same time I want to cry on somebody's shoulders. I just want to tell somebody that I feel so unloved. I also don't want to put that on their shoulders either.

Loving me and caring about me is the hardest thing for anybody to do. I'm not that interesting or smart.

I don't want people to think that all I'm just trying to do is get attention. I am so sad. I want to talk to someone. Christian forums are great. But I need human contact. If I go to church they would have to drive me. And several churches we're willing to do that. I've reached out a couple of times. But I don't want to be a burden.

It would make somebody uncomfortable to listen to a 37-year-old man pouring his heart and soul out to them.

I don't know what kind of advice I am looking for. But if you have any advice. Please let me know.

I used to tell myself that I didn't need people. But I realize that this is a lie. I was actually very depressed trying to make myself happy.

You know brother, writing to the different Pastors around where you live and being completely honest with them...perhaps even printing out what you shared with us and sending it....might be a good idea.And when you get back all the responses...just pray about it and step out in faith and begin attending one of those fellowships (where the Bible is still being taught) Quit worrying about what others may think about you.You're not wasted space but a child of the most High God if you've given your life the best you can to Jesus Christ and asked Him to be your Saviour, Lord, and Friend.What happen's when we start isolating ourselves is that the devil begin's using our mind for his playground.He'll put all kinds of stuff running around in our minds about how worthless we are, we're never going to change, God can't possibly love you as much as everybody else after everything you've done...blah, blah, blah..it just goes on and on.It might take awhile but that stuff will eventually clear up as you commit to attending a fellowship, singing songs of worship to the Lord, listening to His Word being taught and sharing with others.You are just as valuable as every brother and sister in the body of Christ is.And try to keep in mind that you may not run into those who care to hear you share right off the bat. It may take some time but God is all powerful and He will eventually lead you to the right person or people to make friends with and to share with etc.Just don't get discouraged and give up.OK?
And remember also, there's nothing wrong with getting some meds if you really need them...that is if you've been diagnosed with clinical depression by a Doctor and he prescribes them for you...on a temporary or even long time basis..while you're waiting for the Lord to heal you.And until the Lord takes us to that wonderful place where ... He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away...we're still living in a fallen world.
God doesn't make mistakes.He has a purpose for your life and even though you may not see it or be experiencing it right now....God has gifted you in some way and you'll eventually see this.So you hang in there and quit beating yourself up.God loves you and so do your brothers and sisters in Christ.God bless you, my brother.

 

[IAMABELIEVER1979]

You know brother, writing to the different Pastors around where you live and being completely honest with them...perhaps even printing out what you shared with us and sending it....might be a good idea.And when you get back all the responses...just pray about it and step out in faith and begin attending one of those fellowships (where the Bible is still being taught) Quit worrying about what others may think about you.You're not wasted space but a child of the most High God if you've given your life the best you can to Jesus Christ and asked Him to be your Saviour, Lord, and Friend.What happen's when we start isolating ourselves is that the devil begin's using our mind for his playground.He'll put all kinds of stuff running around in our minds about how worthless we are, we're never going to change, God can't possibly love you as much as everybody else after everything you've done...blah, blah, blah..it just goes on and on.It might take awhile but that stuff will eventually clear up as you commit to attending a fellowship, singing songs of worship to the Lord, listening to His Word being taught and sharing with others.You are just as valuable as every brother and sister in the body of Christ is.And try to keep in mind that you may not run into those who care to hear you share right off the bat. It may take some time but God is all powerful and He will eventually lead you to the right person or people to make friends with and to share with etc.Just don't get discouraged and give up.OK?
And remember also, there's nothing wrong with getting some meds if you really need them...that is if you've been diagnosed with clinical depression by a Doctor and he prescribes them for you...on a temporary or even long time basis..while you're waiting for the Lord to heal you.And until the Lord takes us to that wonderful place where ... He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away...we're still living in a fallen world.
God doesn't make mistakes.He has a purpose for your life and even though you may not see it or be experiencing it right now....God has gifted you in some way and you'll eventually see this.So you hang in there and quit beating yourself up.God loves you and so do your brothers and sisters in Christ.God bless you, my brother.

Thank you and God bless you too.

 

[brinny]

bless yer heart, praying for you, brother (((hug)))

 

[IAMABELIEVER1979]

bless yer heart, praying for you, brother (((hug)))

Thank you very much. God bless

 

[brinny]

Thank you very much. God bless

You are most welcome, continuing to pray (((hug)))