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LoveDivine

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I heard some shallow comments from the single ladies today in regards to the single men. Oh well, it is what is.

It makes me wonder if things changed or it's always been this way. It has to have always been this way.

It's all just predetermined. Glory to God anyways.
It's really a mistake to have a fatalistic mindset. Don't "overspiritualize" marriage. Yes, God will help provide for us in all areas of life including marriage, but whether or not you meet a spouse is not predetermined. Do you also believe that about the jobs you apply for ? Would you stop applying for jobs ( if you were unemployed ) because it was already predetermined ? Of course no one thinks that way. We apply for jobs and put in effort to make connections and we ask God to bless those efforts and guide us.

Marriage is no different. Marriage is practical. There are some examples in Scripture of unions that were predestined by God because the individuals were called to do important things for God. There were specific purposes for those marriages and those being called couldn't just marry anyone. However, those are exceptions and not the case for most of us.

The guideline and instruction we have to follow is to seek someone who is also a believer. We need to be equally yoked. It's necessary to make sure you and your partner are spiritually compatible. You have freedom to be with someone so long as they are in Christ. That means you could potentially have multiple options that you could be happy with. The difficulty in today's society and culture is that there are fewer Christians. We also have a very polarized society and it makes it difficult to find common ground with others. It is often a logistical issue. You may live in a state, region, or country where the majority do not share your religious views, political views, or values. Your options are going to be far more limited than someone else who lives in a different area. It's not accurate to state that your limited options equate to predetermination. That's illogical. It also robs you of any hope that you may meet someone in the future who does match.
 
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