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Trapped with an abuser for over a month of lockdown

Discussion in 'Prayer Wall' started by Battleweary, Dec 5, 2020.

  1. Battleweary

    Battleweary New Member

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    In a relationship where the true nature of the marriage partner has gradually revealed itself and I have battled spiritually for years, in the belief that things would change (as indeed they have for periods of time), and in a second lockdown in a country not my own, where I have no friends or family, I find myself trapped with someone who exercises no restraint in his anger, verbal abuse, threats, and exploitation. I realise that I have to leave, but currently can't, due to travel restrictions. I am praying constantly, declaring God's word and singing praise songs to myself, but the abuse intensifies, as is typical of a bully I guess, as I've been cut off and cut down. I need an intervention and to be kept safe. It's traumatic. Thank you for your prayers.
     
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  2. Lost4words

    Lost4words Jesus I Trust In You Supporter

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    Waw! So sorry to hear of your situation.

    I pray that God will guide you to safety and peace very soon.

    Trust in Jesus my friend.
     
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  3. Battleweary

    Battleweary New Member

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    Thank you so much, I am trusting in Jesus, but feel less alone for sharing my troubles with a wider community. It's a dangerous situation, because I am at the mercy of a bully, with no one to turn to here.
     
  4. Lost4words

    Lost4words Jesus I Trust In You Supporter

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    You need to find a way out. As soon as possible.

    I take it you are not married?
     
  5. Battleweary

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    I have a legal partnership, a civil union. I can't leave until the COVID restrictions, as I have to travel to another country, my home country.
     
  6. Lost4words

    Lost4words Jesus I Trust In You Supporter

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    Oh, i see, another female. She is a real bully etc?
     
  7. Lost4words

    Lost4words Jesus I Trust In You Supporter

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    In the UK we have organisations that one can turn to when in an abusive relationship. Are there none available to you in France? You need to seek help and shelter until you can plan your future.
     
  8. Battleweary

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    No, a man. I am a woman trapped with an abusive man, who isn't working right now. I am, but from home. I have no colleagues. I am in a country where a civil union can be entered into by a heterosexual couple. It has many of the features of a marriage, except for inheritance laws, but I don't have kids.
     
  9. Lost4words

    Lost4words Jesus I Trust In You Supporter

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    I see. Thanks for the clarification. Sorry i presumed wrongly.
     
  10. Hazelelponi

    Hazelelponi Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Hello sister. I've been through a physically abusive relationship and got out of it.

    Your in France which is a western nation, and these kinds of countries are very good about protecting women from abuse.

    You'll be wanting to call a battered women's shelter for women needing to escape domestic violence... if you need to go and can't find the number on your own, the police will be able to give you the number to call... and the police can get you out of the house also if you need them to.

    I'll keep you in my prayers.
     
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  11. Battleweary

    Battleweary New Member

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    I would know what to do in Britain. The problem here is that unless I'm beaten up physically, and get a medical report to take to the police, nothing will be done. I am being menaced and traumatised in other ways and every day is a minefield.
     
  12. Lost4words

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    Then you need to get out and find somewhere else to live. Be it in the same country for now.

    Surely there must be some help available from specialised organisations?
     
  13. Tone

    Tone "Whenever Thou humblest me, Thou makest me great." Supporter

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    Abba Yah please Breathe Your Holy Breath into this Body and raise us up in Yahshua ha Mashiach, far above all the pain and suffering of this passing world, and protect us from the evil one, that we may serve you without oppression and fear. Amen.

    I'm really sorry to hear about your situation sister. Is there no way to override the stay at home order since this bully is capable of hurting you more than any potential covid infection?

    You have no brothers or other family members that can help?

    Yah bless you and shalom my friend.
     
  14. coffee4u

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    I am very sorry to hear that you are trapped with an abusive man. I would see if there isn't some agency, even the police that you could call for domestic abuse.

    1 Corinthians 10:23

    "I have the right to do anything," you say--but not everything is beneficial. "I have the right to do anything"--but not everything is constructive.

    You have the right in that country to enter into this joined union but that does not make it a good thing to do or make it beneficial for you. I pray that you will not only find away to get away from this man but to break this union and understand why God does not want that for you.

     
  15. Battleweary

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    Thank you Hazelelponi. I'm very happy for you that you got out of that relationship. Unfortunately, where I am, things have to be drastic before there's any help available. Some activists are trying to change that, especially during this lockdown, when domestic violence has escalated. It will take time though. For myself, I could normally just leave by travelling. It's the travel restrictions that have me trapped. I know that in January, things are likely to change, so I have to hang on in for these next few weeks. If my partner finds work, he will go away during the week, or maybe God will perform a miracle. I know that's hardly a guarantee, but it's all I have right now. Thank you so much for your prayers.
     
  16. Battleweary

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    Helplines, but there's still the procedure if you want to get any practical help. It has to be a crime with evidence. Moreover, everything's restricted at the moment, and services are already strapped. This is why bullies do what they do and when - they know they've got you trapped.
     
  17. Battleweary

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    Thank you for your prayers and encouragement. I have no one here. I believe that after the New Year, I'll be able to travel again, but this is such a problematic time. It's not just about how I could suffer due to COVID, but also the perceived risk that I could be a carrier. I am in the lions' den.
     
  18. Battleweary

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    Thank you for your prayers. It's very difficult to even just get through each minute. The other stuff is something I'll have to deal with in the long term.
     
  19. Battleweary

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    It's a reasonable assumption, as this type of heterosexual union doesn't exist in every country.
     
  20. alllivesmatter

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    A neighbor or someone in another country that you know that you can ask to save you? Do you know anyone in the US that will come to your rescue. Anyone, that you know anywhere that you can tell them what is happening? There has to be someone that can offer a place for you to go? If I knew you you could come here. There must be someone you know that would offer a room?
     
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