I note your selective comments on the John Bell article, ahab.
I shall try to read some of what you suggest, but there is rather a lot. I suspect that there is very little in all those words that is new.
I think it boils down to whether you emphasise God's justice and requirement for us to be holy or whether you see Jesus coming to emphasise God's love and grace, and his understanding of the human condition.
I see Jesus willing to come alongside us
where ever we are, helping us to be more like God intended us to be and
leading us gently towards that goal. I see my role in that as supporting what Jesus is doing in the lives of the people I have any contact with. I certainly don't think I should use the internet to tell people I don't know, or hardly know, that they are sinners and should change the way they live.
I also consider that I should be concerned with my own personal morality, and do my best to improve in that department by buying Fairtrade products and getting involved in Trade Justice issues. I could boast that I have been married for 20 years bar a few days, and have never cheated on my husband, I don't drink to excess, in fact drink very little alcohol, and don't use strong language, but I think there is always room for improvement. I also think social morality (concern for the poor, disadvantaged and marginalised) is as improtant as private sexual morality, perhaps more so as it impacts on so many more people. So if two people of the same sex are living as a maried couple and care for the less advantaged members of their community and do their bit to improve conditions for workers in the developing world I cannot say that God will be more pleased with me because I have been married to a person of the opposite sex. I certainly don't think God is more pleased with the ruthless businessman or the head of global corporations who exploit third world workers if they have been faithfully married to someone of the opposite sex either.
Jesus had a lot more to say about how we treat the poor and the marginalised than he did about personal sexual morality.
We are all imperfect and are prone to different sins.
If it is a sin for two people of the same sex to live as married, why do we need to make more of a fuss about that than about the scandal of world trade rules that disadvantage developing nations, of rules in this country that make it legal for loan sharks to charge exhorbitant interest rates on loans to the poorest people? There are so many greater scandals that impact so many more people than the possibility that people of the same sex who live together may be committing a "sin". It seems to me that the people who shout the loudest about homosexual relations have precious little to say about far greater iniquities in this world, and seem quite unconcerned by them.
I am far more convinced than you by the arguments that sex between two people who are in a loving stable relationship is probably not a sin, but at the end of the day, I think it matters very little. Our focus should be elsewhere, not prying into the private lives of others.
This is my understanding of the gospel message. I am aware that you understand things very differently from me, ahab. Sometimes we can't see something until a "switch" of some kind has been turned on. You seem to have different switches turned on from me, but I am convinced that the Holy Spirit has been very much at work in helping me see things differently from the way I used to see things after years of teaching by conservative evangelical Christians.
Karin