Concerning almost all your posts in this thread are complaints about Black people, I figured you would know.I have no idea why person with a Black Lives Matter avatar.
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Concerning almost all your posts in this thread are complaints about Black people, I figured you would know.I have no idea why person with a Black Lives Matter avatar.
Concerning almost all your posts in this thread are complaints about Black people, I figured you would know.
Ahhh...ok.
It's the empathy thing. Self-righteousness through a sort of performative compassion?
First off....really thoughtful answer. I gotta give you credit for saying things that I imagine sre difficult for a white male to say just out of the responses you can expect in return.
I have suspected for awhile that I might be stunted in my emotional development in some way. I can remember feeling guilt when I was much younger but I haven't in a long time. I don't even really feel embarrassed anymore when I do or say something foolish in front other people and get laughed at for it.
My in laws came to visit once...for the first time since I had married and my wife was understandably nervous about it. I was making dinner and tried to be on my best behavior.
Her father had missed the highway exit he needed, tried to call her and began arguing with her even though she had given him the correct directions and gave him the correct directions to fix his error. When he arrived his tone was slightly angry and he was trying to blame her for his mistake.
I love my wife and even though I knew she wanted me to stay quiet...I couldn't. I knew if I did I would hate myself later for it. I took a pretty harsh tone with him, told him it was all his fault and he was wrong to blame my wife, and it was petty and disgraceful for him to do so. I told him if he was going to continue, it would be better for him to leave right then instead of staying for dinner.
To his credit, he did shut up even if he didn't apologize. It was a rather quiet and tense visit after that. I don't think he or my mother in law said another word to me even though they were happy to see their daughter. My wife was happy that I stood up for her later, but I know that in all honesty it was more about how I would feel about myself than whatever was going to make her happy. She would have been happy if I had let it slide so we could have had a less tense visit.
I think shame may promote social conformity and I can certainly see why that helps the group from an evolutionary perspective. As an atheist from a very young age I lost a lot of respect for the group and in a way, began to admire those willing to risk the disdain of the group for not conforming. As I've grown older though, I've learned to see more value in conformity and group respect.
I don't think this is entirely their fault either. If no one challenges bad ideas, racist or otherwise, people can rarely see any need to challenge them all on their own. Few people, of any race including black people, seem willing to challenge or confront racism in the black community. Racists always seem to think their racist beliefs are justified .
I've noticed that the less one is attached to their racial identity, less racist they are towards others. I think that the condition of the black community in general, not all of them obviously, has been a struggle for a sense of identity because of being stripped of a culture so long ago. I noticed when I was young that many black people I knew...friend or not...had an idea of "white America" and "black America" as if we both lived in two very different countries. It didn't matter that we had very similar experiences....in their eyes we were not in the same boat, so to speak.
I don't think I can reasonably or morally suggest that the positive sense of identity of black people is something i6could influence or even have a right to influence as a white person. Heroic struggle and righteous struggle are things easy to believe in. Individual achievement and individual responsibility are not as satisfying emotionally I think. They are a harder road to walk in my opinion...and as such, hard to encourage.
Values and perceptions are influenced by environment.
Sicilians in history had long given up on respect for governmental authority because of how often Sicily had been invaded and conquered. It's not a surprise how this led to a mistrust of government and eventually a lack of respect for those who acquiesced to its authority.
Again, I'm not saying that this is the same thing as what you're describing and I certainly wouldn't suggest that it is a racial issue....it's a cultural one. Anyone outside a culture looking in will inevitably be wrong about many things. I do think the examination of culture and cultural attitudes, beliefs, prejudices, and the like is beneficial...even if it's ugly for awhile. I don't pretend to have any expertise on black culture, it's subcultures, or the results of such things.
I don't see how anyone does....it's extremely difficult to have such conversations in our nation. We would rather stay quiet out of the idea of politeness or something.
Again, in hopes to avoid the many reports from other posters....I don't attribute any of my opinions to race. I've speculated about some aspects of culture. I don't think it's a monolithic culture either. It's as varied and diverse as any other culture.
No offense was intended if any offense was taken.
I have heard of that professor. I think he sensationalizes and exaggerates the evidence, and ignores other evidence that empathy is associated with well-being.
Empathy is not "lauded in our culture". In the age of Trump, how could that even be taken seriously? There has been a marked decrease in empathy in the last few decades, as noted by sociologists.
Speaking of Psychology: The decline of empathy and the rise of narcissism