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Trigger Warning "This is why I don't talk to you"

Discussion in 'Trauma, PTSD & Dissociation' started by waves, May 2, 2019.

  1. waves

    waves not so new

    Jesus Christ came me a particular dream where I said something, my sister did not agree with what I said and then my significant other agreed with my sister over me and I started getting very upset. Then he transformed into one of my classmates and said "This is why I don't talk to you" and I began quarreling with this classmate explaining how bad people have treated me when I did absolutely nothing to deserve it.This is because my significant other as well as many people often sides with anyone that is against me in any way. So I am always facing opposition from everyone and it is affecting me.

    My Attitude

    From I was a child I have been easily controlled by others. An example of this is in prep school, where a classmate who did not like me threw food on the ground and told me to pick it up, which I did automatically.

    In high school some students enjoyed laughing at me and my hairstyles frequently. Because of this I ended up having Social Anxiety Disorder.

    I remember in one particular incident in high school, the music teacher put me in a group with other persons, and one of the girls in the group shouted loudly that she did not want me in her group. Embarrassed I immediately started crying but she did care, I was nothing to her.

    In college I remember walking one day, and there were a group of girls, and one of them shouted and pointed at me, talking loudly about my clothes, and started laughing at the clothes I was wearing, along with her friends.

    From I was a child, when people would trouble me I would ignore them, not quarreling with them etc I would internalize everything. People would walk all over me etc and I wouldn't say anything. But something changed a few years ago. This is where I could no longer ignore after all these years, the way people were treating because it was becoming much worst and I started getting angry at the way I have been treated, and ever since then have anger issues.

    Recently Jesus Christ gave me a dream showing me a group of girls were walking towards me and immediately I saw the word "sodomized" appear and I ended up having to move far away from these girls because I did not want to be sodomized by them. Jesus Christ has shown me in earlier dreams where girls have backed me up in a bathroom abusing me. So I try to avoid that from happening. This is how bad things are.

    Jesus Christ has also shown me girls threatening me, preventing me from walking where I want to, in a class when there are empty chairs, my former classmates suddenly grab these chairs preventing me from sitting down. When I am in a classroom a classmate tries to throw a big plastic bottle to hit me etc This is what my life is like. Always been attacked, always being bullied, always been threatened etc

    People who have not experienced what I have, will never understand what I am going through, and how these types of things can crush someone's spirit.

    So when a loved one treats me like how other people do, who do I have to talk to, who can I trust? The answer is no one. Not even my sister as she too like others have shouted at me many times, and in one instance telling me that I should not sit near her, with a former classmate commenting that not even my sister want to sit beside me, that nobody wants to sit beside me.

    When my loved ones treat me like others who hate me, it has become a situation where people who hate me, feel justified in ill treating me even more, that if my loved ones can't stand me, then I must be bad or something, and as such deserves to be ill treated. So I have no one at all who is my advocate. This is why anyone can treat me any way and my loved ones including my significant other do not have a problem with how I am treated, because honestly they feel the same way about me that other people who hate me too. That I am just a problem and it is okay for people to ill treat me because I am deserving of it and actually causing problems.

    The type of personality I have is this, I am quiet for the most part. I don't trouble people etc I keep to myself, so I have not done anything to deserve to be ill treated the way I have been. People hate me because I am different.
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  2. Mathetes66

    Mathetes66 Well-Known Member Supporter

    United States
    Simple things: those dreams are not from Christ. He builds you up, not tears you down or produces fear, hurt and confusion with lies. That is what the devil DOES. So renounce these dreams in the faith of Christ & ask Christ to remove them.

    I had a friend who wanted to quit smoking but was having a hard time. He finally came to me & we went and throw all his cigarettes away & he was on a job so he couldn't go get some more for about a week.

    He got through the normal withdrawal but then began having dreams of people offering him cigarettes and he was receiving them. I told him those were not from Christ but the devil to try & drag him back into bondage.

    We prayed to bind the devil in the power of Christ. Several days later he came up to me grinning. I asked him if he had any more dreams. He said he had one and in the dream he REFUSED the cigarettes. After that he never had any more dreams.

    So I will pray with you, if you are willing to bind the power of the enemy by the power & authority of Christ and stand against these dreams and lies that cause you to get down.

    Second, you may need to see a Christian counselor to work through things you have gone through in the past. However, one key thing needs to be done & you haven't done it--IN ORDER TO HEAL & GET BETTER.

    You need to forgive all those who have hurt you in the past and get them OUT OF YOUR HEAD. You are giving them rent space and its time you truly forgave them from the heart & ask the Lord to heal your memories and bring peace & joy--that you have let go & forgiven. These are in the past; they need to stay there and not bring them into the present.

    I had to do that with a number of people in my past. They no longer 'haunt' me. Christ's precious blood has cleansed them & made me whole again. Hallelujah! There is nothing like the FREEDOM Christ brings into our lives when we obey Him & see Him heal us.

    Thirdly, I want to CONGRATULATE you on standing up for yourself & no longer putting up with people putting you down! I'm proud of you!! Whoooooooo Hoooooooooo!

    Continue by God's wisdom & power to stand firm in your faith. I had to learn that when people did that to me (I was so shy I wouldn't even eat lunch in the school cafeteria!) But I finally learned to stand up for myself & ever since then I have never regretted it.

    But I learned a simple saying that I memorized.

    "Your criticism of me shows your lack of a technical background & your diminutive grasp of the profound principles involved here."

    Often people would go, 'Huh?' It would derail them of their criticism! And if they persisted I would just walk away from them and do something else. If they asked later, I would simply tell them they were acting like a fool & I didn't want to waste my time dealing with someone who was acting foolish. I have more important things to do.

    If a spouse does so, then you have to set clear boundaries that you will not tolerate & if so then consequences will occur. For example, if you are badmouthed, then they need to fend for themselves for dinner because you are not cooking it. Or they will have to wash their own clothes and fold them if they want clean ones to wear.

    It doesn't take but a day or two of this & the message comes across loud & clear. You are a smart lady. You can figure that out.

    But unless you deal with each past incident & forgive from the heart & pray for Christ to heal you, you will stay stuck & stay angry and you don't want that. I will be praying for you. Let us know how Christ is bringing healing in your life! Blessings, Sis in Christ!

    Ephesians 3:15-21 I pray that from His glorious, unlimited resources He will empower you with inner strength through His Spirit. so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. Then you, being rooted & grounded in love, WILL HAVE POWER, together with all the saints, to comprehend the length & width & height & depth of His love & to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do infinitely more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be the glory in the church & in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever & ever. Amen!
    Last edited: May 2, 2019
  3. Monk Brendan

    Monk Brendan Well-Known Member Supporter

    United States
    Melkite Catholic
    How did you think this was Jesus in your dream?
  4. Monk Brendan

    Monk Brendan Well-Known Member Supporter

    United States
    Melkite Catholic
    I don't think this initial dream was from Satan.

    Most dreams like this are simply wish fulfillment.
  5. SeventhFisherofMen

    SeventhFisherofMen Invisible Hero Supporter

    United States
    I’m sorry man that sounds really horrible. I really want you to know the way you have been treated is wrong.
    Jesus loves you and just ignore those people that are mean only Jesus knows your real value and those bullies are being peices of trash.