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I don't know what it is about guys and faking friendship. But it really hurts. And I wish they would stop.
The last guy I had a crush on apparently also had a crush on me. And we both got over it after a while. But we used to IM each other often, and though I still tried to IM him for a while (just out of friendship, because I was completely over the crush), he never really responded in the same way as he used to respond when he had a crush on me. In fact, when I stopped trying to IM him regularly, he stopped IMing me entirely. No real friendship on his part.
After that came my former boyfriend. We had a great friendship, at least for nine months or so. Then over the summer he wanted to spend less and less time with me (I dismissed it then because his dad was recovering and home from work and he had responsibilities when he came home on the weekends). Then he suddenly dumped me, and it appears he is most likely not going to talk to me at all for the remaining month of summer. I thought he had relegated me to the sidelines so he could date other girls. But not talking to me for a month is completely cutting me out of his life. I can tell just how much he "really values my friendship."
Men, please stop doing this. It is SO hurtful. If you are going to be friends with a girl, please be sure that you actually care about her, and you aren't just trying to get a date. That is so cheap. That is so disrespectful. That is so sick.
The last guy I had a crush on apparently also had a crush on me. And we both got over it after a while. But we used to IM each other often, and though I still tried to IM him for a while (just out of friendship, because I was completely over the crush), he never really responded in the same way as he used to respond when he had a crush on me. In fact, when I stopped trying to IM him regularly, he stopped IMing me entirely. No real friendship on his part.
After that came my former boyfriend. We had a great friendship, at least for nine months or so. Then over the summer he wanted to spend less and less time with me (I dismissed it then because his dad was recovering and home from work and he had responsibilities when he came home on the weekends). Then he suddenly dumped me, and it appears he is most likely not going to talk to me at all for the remaining month of summer. I thought he had relegated me to the sidelines so he could date other girls. But not talking to me for a month is completely cutting me out of his life. I can tell just how much he "really values my friendship."
Men, please stop doing this. It is SO hurtful. If you are going to be friends with a girl, please be sure that you actually care about her, and you aren't just trying to get a date. That is so cheap. That is so disrespectful. That is so sick.