Proceed however you like. I am interested in instances in which I apparently dismissed your points for no good reason. However, if we find that I've done nothing wrong, then I would hope you also refrain from dismissing my points.
Wow, this is very generous of you! Yes, so today as I asked Him how to begin the day, He told me to read Deuteronomy 4-18, and as I did this, I got a really good idea of why it is that you and I are looking at these things in such different light. I made quite a few notes of various verses in that passage that I would like to make use of with you, but in order to do this and achieve an effective result, I remain mindful that you aren't really looking to be brought into having my view. Rather, you are wanting assurance that your view is correct. There is a very subtle difference in those expressions, that probably you could understand better than I could describe anyway.
So I reckon, probably it is best to leave the old conversation dormant, and we may choose to refer to it as what has already been discussed, but to remove the energy that is present in that conversation and to begin the conversation again, we would need to ensure the main issues are addressed.
As I see of the main issues that have come to surface in our conversation, that the issues you face go beyond scriptural inerrancy, and particularly when slavery, rape, homosexuality, Sabbath and ethnic cleansing all being raised as the most major cause of your distrusts, it certainly demonstrates that your real struggle is with the viewing of the scriptures according to what you expect a good, holy, loving God would support - and this is due to your having viewed the commandments in the bible as being prone to support an immoral society.
I am pretty certain you would agree that this is the real major contention for you at this time, and in fact that it is more important to you than the inerrancy of the bible. SO I would like to go ahead with our conversation to address those, with your permission of course seeing as it is your thread, and this is a clear divergence from the OP. I think the forum rules will permit it, if you and I will find it agreeable.
So being conscious I have written lots already here, and before the post gets wearisome, I think my priority should be to try and explain to you why I can see the purpose of the law is given to produce a holy society, since if we can agree whether the society inherrently [desired to be, or became, or was instructed to be, or any combination of these] holy, then we will be able to assess whether the laws really were given appropriately to achieve that effect.
Mainly I would like to use this opportunity to draw your attention to the following verses, with the contexts I have attached, so that you can observe the meaning that I see, that implies a holy intention:
Deuteronomy 6:18 "You must do what is
good and right in Jehovah's eyes"
Deuteronomy 5:14 "The seventh day is a sabbath to Jehovah your God. You must not do any work, neither you nor your son nor your daughter nor your slave man nor your slave girl nor your bull nor your donkey nor any of your domestic animals nor your foreign resident who is inside your cities,
in order that your slave man and your slave girl may rest the same as you.
Deuteronomy 10:12 "Now, O Israel, what is Jehovah your God asking of you? Only this: to fear Jehovah your God,
to walk in all his ways, to love him, to serve Jehovah your God with all your heart and all your soul, and to keep the commandments and statutes of Jehovah that I am commanding you today for your own good.
Deuteronomy 10:17 For Jehovah your God is God of gods, Lord of lords, the God great, mighty and awe-inspiring, who
treats none with partiality and does not accept a bribe.
He executes justice for the fatherless child and the widow and loves the foreign resident, giving him food and clothing. You too must love the foreign resident, for you too became foreign residents in the land of Egypt.
Proverbs 12:10 "
The righteous one takes care of his domestic animals, but even the mercy of the wicked one is cruel".
You should appoint judges and officers for each tribe in all the cities that Jehovah your God is giving you, and
they must judge the people with righteous judgement.
Deuteronomy 16:14,15 "
Rejoice during your festival, you and your son, your daughter,
your male slave, your female slave, the Levite, the foreign resident, the fatherless child, and the widow, who are inside your cities. Seven days you will celebrate the festival to Jehovah your God in the place that Jehovah chooses, for Jehovah your God will bless all your produce and all that you do, and
you will become nothing but joyful."
These parts that I have highlighted are the ones that stood out to me, that I think for you, can help to demonstrate the heart of the holy intention. I felt these would be useful for you to read, because you asked earlier for an example of where it is implied in the law, that the essence of the law is to promote love for God and each other.
One other thing that stood out to me as I read this, since you had recently expressed a view that sin is the transgression of the law and I had opted to not engage in that discussion, as I read Deuteronomy 8:3, I found it saying "man does not live by bread alone, but man lives by every expression from Jehovah's mouth".
Only recently I have come to learn about all this so that I can understand it, as the Word of God encouraged me to look into the seven deadly sins. As I read that page on Wikipedia, the words that stood out to me were:
According to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, a mortal or deadly sin is believed to
destroy the life of grace and charity within a person.
So then, if we do what we know we should not do, we are not living by the Word of God, and we suffer a spiritual death. This is what sets apart the regenerate Christian from the obstinate:
All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. But those who do what is right come to the light so others can see that they are doing what God wants.
I really do feel that you are not going to be one of those obstinate ones forever. My feeling about you, is that you have been involved with Christians who had engaged a lot in sinful practice to the detriment of their spiritual life, and they were not spiritually fit to teach you the ways of God, as is stipulated in Galatians 6:1. The consequence is, that in being unfairly judged for what probably you had morally right, you have come to view the scriptures in a light that shows God much the opposite to what He truly is. This is the truth in Matthew 6:23. I do not know whether you will allow me to show you His nature in the light that I view it, but I do know that despite being on the razor's edge, you have trusted me this far. I hope certainly that I will not let you down.
So, I feel that I would like to help your search, to have another go at this again, and see whether I cannot help you to find that there is truth hiding under one of those stones you are turning, that you will find He really is a good and loving God.