- Jun 23, 2020
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Hi everyone who decides to read this!!
Lucky you, you're in for a treat...
The church I grew up in (Baptist/Pentecostal) started going woke and seeker sensitive and it turned out to be worse than I thought... Perhaps it was gradually creeping in and I just didn't realize it. Upon participating in lifegroups as well, I was growing dissatisfied with the spiritual food I was receiving, it definitely seemed like it was missing something and there was something wishy-washy, feel good and superficial about our discussions. The rest of my family still go there.
I have a Christian conservative group chat for those who uphold Biblical truth and one of my friends from this group chat, Jane (placeholder name) had a birthday party which I attended. At this party I was astonished to meet many other likeminded young Christian conservatives. (We are like needles in a haystack amongst the progressive and apostate majority) Naturally, I asked where she knew all these people from and apparently most of them were from her church and that the congregants of her church would agree with what was said in our group chat, so Jane invited me to her church. Among these friends was a handsome and extremely talented young man who I found a real rapport with. Let's call him Alex and leave him for a moment.
So to begin with, Jane's church was a Reformed Baptist church and very different to the churches I'd grown up in my whole life (in spite of the Baptist title). I thought my family and I were the most conservative Christians in town but apparently not. This church were staunchly Calvinist and frequently reference Calvin and the Westminister Confession, whereas I was raised Arminian and my whole family are Arminian. Honestly, theology was never really discussed at home or at church so I am now intensly wrestling with this by reading books on soteriology, God's divine providence and I will not call myself a Calvinist until I read at leas one of Calvin's works and am convinced that his hermeneutical approach is Biblical. My main issue with Calvinism is the implied ascribement of authorship of sin to God which fundamentally conflicts with his character. Like I said though, I need to read Calvin and maybe some Spurgeon and Sproul to see what he's going on about and then tackle those tough verses like Romans 9.
Jane's church are not necessarily cessasionalist per se but disagree with neo-apostolic gifts on the premise that Paul was the last apostle and every prophecy is already revealed in the Bible. Elders and congregants are very skeptical of God speaking in dreams and healing miracles nowadays. Instead, an academic, intellectual, expositional faith and apologetics is prioritized and emphasized as not to fall into heretical beliefs. Several congregants favourite pastime seems to be criticizing pentecostal churches.
The church is strictly complementarian based on 2nd Timothy to the point of the pastor declaring that female pastors will all go to hell if they don't repent and stop preaching. I think this is the point that my family take most issue with viewing it as misogynist and unbiblical. The pastor explained that the role differences are clear in Genesis and that the judges, leaders and prophetesses like Deborah, Esther, Priscilla, Anna, Junia etc. were only doing it privately in their home or something (?) My family is concerned I am being brainwashed by the church into abuse and meanwhile Jane is concerned that I am seeing the Bible through a biased lense of feminism when in actual fact I believe feminism is one of the leading factors of the downfall of Western civilisation.
Remember Alex, the handsome and impeccably talented young man I mentioned before who attends this church? Well, after a couple months of seeing eachother at church, he asked if I would like to be his girlfriend after one of the weekly lifegroup meetings and of course I said yes!! Little did I know that the lifegroup leader and one of the prominent church elders (Let's call him Wayne) has some very strong opinions, one of those being an anti-dating stance. After church and the night before the lunch date in the city with Alex, I went to a cafe with some of the congregants and Wayne told me "It's not too late to cancel the date!" I soon learned that Wayne was not alone in this stance and that several other congregants subscribed tightly to this view and have tried to confront me about this particular issue repeatedly. Jane even told me that "Dating is enjoying the benefits of marriage without the covenant." Jane suggested we 'Put brakes on the relationship' and instead, Alex and I are only to see eachother at church events and never individually (even in a public space) until we are basically engaged and about to get married. Wayne doesn't even want us sitting together or talking to eachother too much at church. (SO HOW DO WE GET TO KNOW EACHOTHER? HELLO??) I posed the question of how this is Biblical and all the responses I got were about how this is a safeguard from temptation and lust. Personally I think it is foolish to marry someone you barely know but Wayne seems totally enamored with the story of Ruth and Boaz as well as Martin Luther who apparently got engaged and married on the same day and didn't even feel any affection for the first five years! I think this is mostly a fear-based reaction to the ungodly dating culture which is so prevalent in society today.
In conclusion, while this church has many merits and is the only church I have found in my area to preach with such conviction and boldness to speak out against hot topics such as abortion, transgenderism, homosexuality and the congregants are more well versed in theology than the average Christian, I have some serious reservations. Spiritual abuse followed up later by traumatic government, big tech, big pharma overreach over the past couple of years has left me very disillusioned with a lot of things and people I thought that I could trust and I know that I'm not alone. If the things this church are espousing are true and as Biblical as humanly possible, then I am willing to accept them even if some things are antithetical to what is familiar to me. This is NOT deconstruction, rather REconstruction which I am undergoing. I must reconsolidate my understanding of the Bible. It could be that this church is borderline cultish and ironically several congregants are ex-cult members OR perhaps my family, although well intentioned have been wrong the whole time. Please note that my family are fine with me attending this church and in fact have been kindly driving me there and home as I'm still just learning to drive. My folks would also give Alex a lift to the bus stop but it seems the church elders have given him a talkfest in his ears about the threat of my family since he has recently been purposely declining our lifts and "Staying longer for fellowship with the other young men". I think it was because my parents tried to speak to him about the complementarianism and dating issue probably and challenge the church stance. Curiously he came over to my house with my family to teach me something recently and we thought he would stay for dinner but he left just before dinner when my mother had kindly cooked him a meal as he was "Trying to have an earlier sleep schedule." I've noticed a change in his personality and he sounds more and more like a carbon copy of the other men at church: stoic and argumentative. He calls it being 'sobered' but in actual fact, I think the poor fellow is very easily manipulated and reading between the lines doesn't come naturally to him. I'll be honest, I have struggled with that too. You see, we are both socially like the blind leading the blind thanks to this double edged sword called autism. Usually what happens, like in a video game, you max out on talent but have 0 social skills but for me I have maybe 1 in socials skills and 0 in talent it seems but hey that's just another issue I'm dealing with to add to the pile, yay.
Nonetheless, I am thankful that God is providing me with a necessity to buckle down and conscientiously study to show myself approved.
Please pray for me also that this will not drive a wedge between my family and I during this time of intense searching
Lucky you, you're in for a treat...
The church I grew up in (Baptist/Pentecostal) started going woke and seeker sensitive and it turned out to be worse than I thought... Perhaps it was gradually creeping in and I just didn't realize it. Upon participating in lifegroups as well, I was growing dissatisfied with the spiritual food I was receiving, it definitely seemed like it was missing something and there was something wishy-washy, feel good and superficial about our discussions. The rest of my family still go there.
I have a Christian conservative group chat for those who uphold Biblical truth and one of my friends from this group chat, Jane (placeholder name) had a birthday party which I attended. At this party I was astonished to meet many other likeminded young Christian conservatives. (We are like needles in a haystack amongst the progressive and apostate majority) Naturally, I asked where she knew all these people from and apparently most of them were from her church and that the congregants of her church would agree with what was said in our group chat, so Jane invited me to her church. Among these friends was a handsome and extremely talented young man who I found a real rapport with. Let's call him Alex and leave him for a moment.
So to begin with, Jane's church was a Reformed Baptist church and very different to the churches I'd grown up in my whole life (in spite of the Baptist title). I thought my family and I were the most conservative Christians in town but apparently not. This church were staunchly Calvinist and frequently reference Calvin and the Westminister Confession, whereas I was raised Arminian and my whole family are Arminian. Honestly, theology was never really discussed at home or at church so I am now intensly wrestling with this by reading books on soteriology, God's divine providence and I will not call myself a Calvinist until I read at leas one of Calvin's works and am convinced that his hermeneutical approach is Biblical. My main issue with Calvinism is the implied ascribement of authorship of sin to God which fundamentally conflicts with his character. Like I said though, I need to read Calvin and maybe some Spurgeon and Sproul to see what he's going on about and then tackle those tough verses like Romans 9.
Jane's church are not necessarily cessasionalist per se but disagree with neo-apostolic gifts on the premise that Paul was the last apostle and every prophecy is already revealed in the Bible. Elders and congregants are very skeptical of God speaking in dreams and healing miracles nowadays. Instead, an academic, intellectual, expositional faith and apologetics is prioritized and emphasized as not to fall into heretical beliefs. Several congregants favourite pastime seems to be criticizing pentecostal churches.
The church is strictly complementarian based on 2nd Timothy to the point of the pastor declaring that female pastors will all go to hell if they don't repent and stop preaching. I think this is the point that my family take most issue with viewing it as misogynist and unbiblical. The pastor explained that the role differences are clear in Genesis and that the judges, leaders and prophetesses like Deborah, Esther, Priscilla, Anna, Junia etc. were only doing it privately in their home or something (?) My family is concerned I am being brainwashed by the church into abuse and meanwhile Jane is concerned that I am seeing the Bible through a biased lense of feminism when in actual fact I believe feminism is one of the leading factors of the downfall of Western civilisation.
Remember Alex, the handsome and impeccably talented young man I mentioned before who attends this church? Well, after a couple months of seeing eachother at church, he asked if I would like to be his girlfriend after one of the weekly lifegroup meetings and of course I said yes!! Little did I know that the lifegroup leader and one of the prominent church elders (Let's call him Wayne) has some very strong opinions, one of those being an anti-dating stance. After church and the night before the lunch date in the city with Alex, I went to a cafe with some of the congregants and Wayne told me "It's not too late to cancel the date!" I soon learned that Wayne was not alone in this stance and that several other congregants subscribed tightly to this view and have tried to confront me about this particular issue repeatedly. Jane even told me that "Dating is enjoying the benefits of marriage without the covenant." Jane suggested we 'Put brakes on the relationship' and instead, Alex and I are only to see eachother at church events and never individually (even in a public space) until we are basically engaged and about to get married. Wayne doesn't even want us sitting together or talking to eachother too much at church. (SO HOW DO WE GET TO KNOW EACHOTHER? HELLO??) I posed the question of how this is Biblical and all the responses I got were about how this is a safeguard from temptation and lust. Personally I think it is foolish to marry someone you barely know but Wayne seems totally enamored with the story of Ruth and Boaz as well as Martin Luther who apparently got engaged and married on the same day and didn't even feel any affection for the first five years! I think this is mostly a fear-based reaction to the ungodly dating culture which is so prevalent in society today.
In conclusion, while this church has many merits and is the only church I have found in my area to preach with such conviction and boldness to speak out against hot topics such as abortion, transgenderism, homosexuality and the congregants are more well versed in theology than the average Christian, I have some serious reservations. Spiritual abuse followed up later by traumatic government, big tech, big pharma overreach over the past couple of years has left me very disillusioned with a lot of things and people I thought that I could trust and I know that I'm not alone. If the things this church are espousing are true and as Biblical as humanly possible, then I am willing to accept them even if some things are antithetical to what is familiar to me. This is NOT deconstruction, rather REconstruction which I am undergoing. I must reconsolidate my understanding of the Bible. It could be that this church is borderline cultish and ironically several congregants are ex-cult members OR perhaps my family, although well intentioned have been wrong the whole time. Please note that my family are fine with me attending this church and in fact have been kindly driving me there and home as I'm still just learning to drive. My folks would also give Alex a lift to the bus stop but it seems the church elders have given him a talkfest in his ears about the threat of my family since he has recently been purposely declining our lifts and "Staying longer for fellowship with the other young men". I think it was because my parents tried to speak to him about the complementarianism and dating issue probably and challenge the church stance. Curiously he came over to my house with my family to teach me something recently and we thought he would stay for dinner but he left just before dinner when my mother had kindly cooked him a meal as he was "Trying to have an earlier sleep schedule." I've noticed a change in his personality and he sounds more and more like a carbon copy of the other men at church: stoic and argumentative. He calls it being 'sobered' but in actual fact, I think the poor fellow is very easily manipulated and reading between the lines doesn't come naturally to him. I'll be honest, I have struggled with that too. You see, we are both socially like the blind leading the blind thanks to this double edged sword called autism. Usually what happens, like in a video game, you max out on talent but have 0 social skills but for me I have maybe 1 in socials skills and 0 in talent it seems but hey that's just another issue I'm dealing with to add to the pile, yay.
Nonetheless, I am thankful that God is providing me with a necessity to buckle down and conscientiously study to show myself approved.
Please pray for me also that this will not drive a wedge between my family and I during this time of intense searching