I have been married for almost five years. We have no children together; however, have 10 and 12 year old boys. We have disagreements that often lead to heated arguments. During these heated arguments, harsh words are exchanged between both of us. On several occasions, my husband tells me he will have me killed. I have never threatened him in this way. The arguments usually begin when I don't agree with him on something or tell him how I feel. Most recently, he expressed a desire to put a hot tub in our backyard to a tune of about 16,000. He told him I wasn't interested in a hot tub and didn't have the money readily available, but would work a summer job to help out. He knows I have a savings (we both have separate accounts) and became upset with me because I would not immediately hand over money. The argument escalated into name calling and he was, once again, telling me that he was going to kill me, emphasizing that I knew he had a gun (he told me he had one on several times), and he wasn't going to do the actual killing (he has told me twice that he has someone on the street lined up to do it). My kids hear his threats. Also during arguments, he is constantly telling me to take my kids and leave to make things better for all of us. He has gone so far as to cut the lights out in parts of the house in an effort to get me to leave during an argument, destroyed personal items of mine, threatened to change the locks, etc. Today when I asked him to apologize for saying he was going to kill me, once again during and argument, he said 'no, I'm not apologizing. You should watch what comes out of your mouth'. Also during the argument, I snapped and moved closer to him yelling, (which I know I should not have), and he said that if I didn't get out of his face, he was going to knock me out). Then when he is calm and the argument is over, he doesn't want to talk about things, and it is me hurting the relationship because 'you can't let things go and just move on'. Part of me just wants to leave and the other half doesn't know why I don't. I I feel like I don't know what to pray for but his threats may be a serious warning sign. On normal days, things are okay, but the thing is I don't when me or the boys will trigger him. I really don't like the death threats. The police has said it is not a crime for him to threaten me like this, only if he does it in a text or over social media.