I’m sorry, but saying the solution to a bad marriage is to love God more is like saying the solution to a bullet wound is laughter. Loving God more may help in a variety of ways, but it doesn’t cancel out the effects of the world around us.
I mean, for real, I meditate 2.5 hours a day and the act of doing so has completely changed my life for the better. I fully believe in the idea that connection to the self and God can profoundly impact your circumstances in really positive ways. That doesn’t mean, however, that anything that happens to me that makes me uncomfortable or is negative is cured by meditating and praying. You have to accept that circumstances around you may be such that you have to do things, like reevaluate relationships, to solve some problems, and that doing so is part of accepting a love of God, not a flaw born of not living God enough.
It reminds me of the old joke about the man and the hurricane... As the hurricane was hitting, the police knocked on his door and told him he had to leave and he refused, saying that he had such a great relationship with God that God would keep him safe. The flood waters rose and he ended up going to the second floor of his home when firefighters in a boat knocked on his window and said they were there to save him. He refused again, saying his great relationship with God would save him. Finally, the floods forced him to his roof where the National Guard tried to evacuate him via helicopter, but he said no, his love of God and God’s love for him would be enough to save him. He ended up drowning and when he faced God, he said “How could you have let me drown? I believed in you with my whole heart, I trusted you to keep me safe. How could you have forgotten somebody who believed, honored, and loved you so?” and God said “I didn’t forget you, dummy. I sent you the police, fire department, and National Guard... I can’t help you if you won’t help you.”
Point being love God, follow God, listen for God, but do some work for yourself too. Expecting there’s a level of devotion one could hit where they are so blinded by the love they have for God that they no longer notice when others around them become toxic or no longer feel the sting of bad treatment is just unrealistic.