I wonder if what Jesus meant by "hating" people, your family, even your children, cannot be his disciple... (Luke 14:26)... I wonder if he meant, that your eyes are open and theirs are not, and you "hate" who and what they are or they are being, "that you think they are choosing to be" (which may not be the case)... You see, stupidity, ignorance, arrogance, and the wrong kind of hatred, envies, jealousies, ect... In short, all of the "evil", I guess you could say...
And you hate "it", but/and are trying your best not to "hate them for it"... But, your struggling and your hating either way... And your not quite sure what you hate, and as another person said, "you may hate (see) in them, what you hate (see) in you", or what "used to be in you or of you"... And that is really self-hatred isn't it, and gets in the way of love sometimes...
God Bless!
We get very frustrated, impatient, angry, and sometimes even bitter and jealous, if were to be perfectly honest, (with them) and "why" is that exactly...?
Well, that is the big, number one question now, isn't it...?
We ought to look at that/this and closely examine those "why's" in ourselves and in us... Cause they could be sin or sinful, or wrong...
God Bless!
The point you are raising is the eternal point of salvation and the Kingdom.
It centres on the heart of everyone, who we are and our emotional identity.
I used to think Jesus was not into counselling and our emotional life, but rather the asthetic and self sacrifice. Sin was behaviour we avoided, and loving was our calling, through witness and sharing His gospel.
Over the years I have come to realise a few realities.
We are a people born in love with love in our nature and heart.
We defend ourselves against hurt and pain, and shut this love out, while trying to appear nice we close down and get more and more distorted as we grow, to the point we do not know who or what we are.
Serving self becomes our only reference point, playing it safe and building on what we can grab.
Our complexity and trauma becomes our anxieties and life shattering experiences. Our building often cracks and for some totally collapses.
Some believe self analysis helps restore strength by working through trauma memories, but often this just reinforces them creating more harm.
Jesus seems to propose a different solution. Accepting our failure, lowering our defences and giving up, becoming vulnerable again, dying to everything we have learnt and been, and starting with Him to learn a new way. This means having a new heirarchy of emotional loyalty, with God and Jesus at the top, love flowing from within through the cross and service.
The traumas and complexity of our pasts get remade through loving behaviour, new pathways are established and we are transformed into new people, who behave and act differently, motivated from love and life not defence, status and selfishness. Sin has its power from the defence of the heart and letting our passions rule and define us.
So sin is the symtom of a closed heart still trying to define itself against an evil world. But by opening our hearts to God and accepting healing from Him remakes us, we are literally born again of the Holy Spirit. This is also why preaching just about sin does not work, because sin is the symtom of our heart attitude, and its hurt history. If we open up, repent and let love flow, then sin is resolved and we can begin to walk in true friendship and love with one another and God.