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I don’t know, but if you guys can forgive all the posts in which I acted immaturely and forgive me for my sins, I honestly want to open up - and I’ve been feeling really down lately, I think in part because of Orthodoxy.
So I’m a college Senior - about to be finished - and as I’m a Senior, I tend to feel really down on some Friday nights.
Despite the fact that I’m not Orthodox yet (despite my knowledge of it above the average parishioner), I still have some inherit Christian values which I carry with me - I have little interest in the hedonistic lives of typical college students - I don’t want to have sexual relations with anybody, I don’t want to get habitually drunk, I don’t want to use recreational drugs, I have no interests in parties or bars where any one of these things go on, and I don’t want to be associated with people who live such lifestyles.
I also have a lot of baggage from my history of seizures and clinical depression - the lattermost, while for the most part gone, still impacts my social aptitude and my view on things even to this day.
What this has led to is me really only having like 2 real friends whom I hang out with - who want to be around me - and nothing else. And I feel generally aggravated that I’m not doing better than that.
My Church community is just there. I don’t know - the kids my age who are a part of it never really do anything that I know of which I can be invited to, except for one friend from that, and things became sour with the clique of people there when my friend broke up with a person in that group they were dating, and it hasn’t been the same with that group since.
My other friend I met last year, and while he isn’t at all religious and doesn’t share the same values as me, he still genuinely likes me and we hang out and do stuff. He was a part of a social group that was rather Liberal but not really hedonistic, but when they discovered my beliefs (you know, transgender ideology and Christianity), they kind of socially excommunicated me except that friend.
And quite honestly, I look around at the hedonists around me, and I’m jealous, I’m jealous that they have a functional social life, little problems, and get to enjoy the pleasures of the flesh.
Am I really better than them? I have nothing to boast about - I’m a slave to food and lust and laziness and the Internet, and I genuinely feel like a reprobate in God’s eyes. I don’t even know if I’m in the right Church honestly - the whole Chalcedonian mess makes it hard to figure out whose right and whose wrong unless you just blindly pick one, so maybe God will just damn me for apostasy, now that I know both Churches (Oriental Orthodox and Eastern Orthodox).
And I just feel miserable - a prisoner, in other words. And I kind of wonder what’s the point of it all - not that I’m suicidal or anything, just trapped in my own head.
I’m 21 years old and I can’t even get a girlfriend. I had only one friendship where there was mutual affection and a similar valued system, but that ended horribly, and miserably, and I find it hard to find a girl - Orthodox or not - who shares what I find important in life whom I’d be interested in dating. I have no interest in promiscuous women who get drunk and have no intellectual capacity outside Snapchat - if I had a girlfriend, I want just a friend. But that’s not what relationships are typically, they are just a means to an end - whether it’s appearing normal to others or having sex.
I simultaneously hate humanity, but I hate myself, and keep spiraling downwards, and quite frankly, now that the “best time of my life” is over and I have to deal with the rest of my life, of working for 40-50 years and then dying, I don’t know what to do.
I’m just an outcast, an error of the system, and I feel like I’m a mistake.
I’m alone. Based on who I am, I can’t just pick up regular friends and follow whatever they do, or just get a girl for a means to an end - I’m alone and by myself, only able to talk to similarly minded people online. And now you know the truth of who I am.
So I’m a college Senior - about to be finished - and as I’m a Senior, I tend to feel really down on some Friday nights.
Despite the fact that I’m not Orthodox yet (despite my knowledge of it above the average parishioner), I still have some inherit Christian values which I carry with me - I have little interest in the hedonistic lives of typical college students - I don’t want to have sexual relations with anybody, I don’t want to get habitually drunk, I don’t want to use recreational drugs, I have no interests in parties or bars where any one of these things go on, and I don’t want to be associated with people who live such lifestyles.
I also have a lot of baggage from my history of seizures and clinical depression - the lattermost, while for the most part gone, still impacts my social aptitude and my view on things even to this day.
What this has led to is me really only having like 2 real friends whom I hang out with - who want to be around me - and nothing else. And I feel generally aggravated that I’m not doing better than that.
My Church community is just there. I don’t know - the kids my age who are a part of it never really do anything that I know of which I can be invited to, except for one friend from that, and things became sour with the clique of people there when my friend broke up with a person in that group they were dating, and it hasn’t been the same with that group since.
My other friend I met last year, and while he isn’t at all religious and doesn’t share the same values as me, he still genuinely likes me and we hang out and do stuff. He was a part of a social group that was rather Liberal but not really hedonistic, but when they discovered my beliefs (you know, transgender ideology and Christianity), they kind of socially excommunicated me except that friend.
And quite honestly, I look around at the hedonists around me, and I’m jealous, I’m jealous that they have a functional social life, little problems, and get to enjoy the pleasures of the flesh.
Am I really better than them? I have nothing to boast about - I’m a slave to food and lust and laziness and the Internet, and I genuinely feel like a reprobate in God’s eyes. I don’t even know if I’m in the right Church honestly - the whole Chalcedonian mess makes it hard to figure out whose right and whose wrong unless you just blindly pick one, so maybe God will just damn me for apostasy, now that I know both Churches (Oriental Orthodox and Eastern Orthodox).
And I just feel miserable - a prisoner, in other words. And I kind of wonder what’s the point of it all - not that I’m suicidal or anything, just trapped in my own head.
I’m 21 years old and I can’t even get a girlfriend. I had only one friendship where there was mutual affection and a similar valued system, but that ended horribly, and miserably, and I find it hard to find a girl - Orthodox or not - who shares what I find important in life whom I’d be interested in dating. I have no interest in promiscuous women who get drunk and have no intellectual capacity outside Snapchat - if I had a girlfriend, I want just a friend. But that’s not what relationships are typically, they are just a means to an end - whether it’s appearing normal to others or having sex.
I simultaneously hate humanity, but I hate myself, and keep spiraling downwards, and quite frankly, now that the “best time of my life” is over and I have to deal with the rest of my life, of working for 40-50 years and then dying, I don’t know what to do.
I’m just an outcast, an error of the system, and I feel like I’m a mistake.
I’m alone. Based on who I am, I can’t just pick up regular friends and follow whatever they do, or just get a girl for a means to an end - I’m alone and by myself, only able to talk to similarly minded people online. And now you know the truth of who I am.