The Holy Single Life

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Since vocation implies that some form of work is involved, then I think it depends on what you DO, not simply where you stand.

Holy Orders asks for celibacy and the sacrifice of luxury to serve others for God.
In marriage, spouses are called to sacrifice for their children and for each other. (And still for God, of course.)

What do we think of a priest or spouse that doesn't do these things? We'd probably think pretty ill of them, of course.

Being single in and of itself proves nothing. It depends on what you do with your life, all for the glory of God. Since a single person is technically not bound to follow specified conduct already, this frees them up with ample time to help the poor, spread the Word, and worship God.

That, to me, is the single person's vocation - if he takes it all upon himself.
 
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Interesting thread...

So there's marriage, there's religious life, and... is single life a vocation. Well I'm thinking of Saints like St Rose of Lima: she was called to be single and a third order Dominican. She wasn't a nun (though she wore a habit and spent her time helping the poor, etc), and I read a book about her and it was clear she wasn't called to be a Dominican nun, but a third order Dominican.

Is there a name for this state of life? I know there are consecrated virgins.. is this different? St Rose did make a vow of virginity but it was done privately, long before she had discerned her vocation of being a third order Dominican.
 
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Thanks , Michie .

Please pray for me that I may cooperate with Gods's grace in my vocation to holiness as I will pray for you . :groupray:
I definitely will. And thank you for the prayers. I need them.
 
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I think for single-hood to be considered a vocation, it has to be essentially lived out like a consecrated religious. Just because someone can't find another to marry or gets turned down by seminaries or religious houses, doesn't mean the single life they are living is a vocation. The only real Magisterial intervention on this topic I know of is the following encyclical from Pope Pius XII. Note, he says the celibacy, including among lay people, is only a virtue when it is chosen freely for the good of the Kingdom of God, and when that choice is permanent. So I would say the single life would only be a vocation under those conditions. Someone living that vocation should probably have some sort of accountability too--spouses have each other, religious/clerics have superiors, so single vocation individuals should probably have a spiritual director, IMO.

This doesn't mean that someone open to getting married, but who never finds someone, cannot lead a holy life, but they would only have a vocation in potentiality, not in actuality (a vocation in actuality is not absolutely required for heaven).

Note, when the Pope speaks of virginity, he means both those who have never married or fallen into sexual sin, as well as widows or those who have repented of sexual sin, and then chosen celibacy for the good of the Kingdom.


5. Innumerable is the multitude of those who from the beginning of the Church until our time have offered their chastity to God. Some have preserved their virginity unspoiled, others after the death of their spouse, have consecrated to God their remaining years in the unmarried state, and still others, after repenting their sins, have chosen to lead a life of perfect chastity; all of them at one in this common oblation, that is, for love of God to abstain for the rest of their lives from sexual pleasure. May then what the Fathers of the Church preached about the glory and merit of virginity be an invitation, a help, and a source of strength to those who have made the sacrifice to persevere with constancy, and not take back or claim for themselves even the smallest part of the holocaust they have laid on the altar of God.



6. And while this perfect chastity is the subject of one of the three vows which constitute the religious state,[9] and is also required by the Latin Church of clerics in major orders[10] and demanded from members of Secular Institutes,[11] it also flourishes among many who are lay people in the full sense: men and women who are not constituted in a public state of perfection and yet by private promise or vow completely abstain from marriage and sexual pleasures, in order to serve their neighbor more freely and to be united with God more easily and more closely.
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12. Here also it must be added, as the Fathers and Doctors of the Church have clearly taught, that virginity is not a Christian virtue unless we embrace it "for the kingdom of heaven;"[14] that is, unless we take up this way of life precisely to be able to devote ourselves more freely to divine things to attain heaven more surely, and with skillful efforts to lead others more readily to the kingdom of heaven.



13. Those therefore, who do not marry because of exaggerated self-interest, or because, as Augustine says,[15] they shun the burdens of marriage or because like Pharisees they proudly flaunt their physical integrity, an attitude which has been condemned by the Council of Gangra lest men and women renounce marriage as though it were something despicable instead of because virginity is something beautiful and holy, -- none of these can claim for themselves the honor of Christian virginity.[16]


14. Moreover, the Apostle of the Gentiles, writing under divine inspiration, makes this point: "He that is without a wife is solicitous for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please God. . . And the unmarried woman and the virgin thinketh on the things of the Lord, that she may be holy in body and spirit."[17]



15. This then is the primary purpose, this the central idea of Christian virginity: to aim only at the divine, to turn thereto the whole mind and soul; to want to please God in everything, to think of Him continually, to consecrate body and soul completely to Him.



16. This is the way the Fathers of the Church have always interpreted the words of Jesus Christ and the teaching of the Apostle of the Gentiles; for from the very earliest days of the Church they have considered virginity a consecration of body and soul offered to God. Thus, St. Cyprian demands of virgins that "once they have dedicated themselves to Christ by renouncing the pleasures of the flesh, they have vowed themselves body and soul to God . . . and should seek to adorn themselves only for their Lord and please only Him."[18] And the Bishop of Hippo, going further, says, "Virginity is not honored because it is bodily integrity, but because it is something dedicated to God. . . Nor do we extol virgins because they are virgins, but because they are virgins dedicated to God in loving continence."[19] And the masters of Sacred Theology, St. Thomas Aquinas[20] and St. Bonaventure,[21] supported by the authority of Augustine, teach that virginity does not possess the stability of virtue unless there is a vow to keep it forever intact.
SACRA VIRGINITAS
 
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I think for single-hood to be considered a vocation, it has to be essentially lived out like a consecrated religious. Just because someone can't find another to marry or gets turned down by seminaries or religious houses, doesn't mean the single life they are living is a vocation.

Precisely.
 
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You may be called to many vocations in your lifetime.

Everyone starts out single when (s)he becomes an adult. And while you are single, that's your vocation.

I know two people who were married and raised six children each and eventually became religious sisters (one was a widow, one was divorced and had an annulment). Both were familiar with religious life because they had siblings who were nuns. They joined the orders their sisters belonged to.

Does that mean they never had a vocation to married life? No, I dont think that was it at all.

I think they were called to both at the appropriate times of their lives--and they will always be mothers and grandmothers.

I don't know how many people consciously choose single life (whereas they consciously choose marriage or the religious life). But living life well and mindfully while you are single is certainly a vocation--even if at some point of your life you choose another vocation.
 
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