- Jun 16, 2016
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Hello everyone,
I'm very frustrated today with this new way that people seem to be getting together or lack there of. I have noticed a gradual shift in the dating world in the past five or so years. Guys used to ask me out on dates looking for a commited relationship and I eventually ended up having a boyfriend for a few years. After we broke up, I stayed single for quite awhile and recently started going back on dates again. I have noticed two new things come into play or become increasingly worse as I have mentioned above. I have recently had two men ask for my facebook or phone number and all they wanted to do after was text/email me, which didn't really make any sense, so I was confused. After about a month of this on both seperate occasions, I told them that I prefer to talk on the phone or in person, which then on both occasions that is when they started meeting up with me in person. Why men do things this way now, I don't understand. I don't see where the initiative has gone where they ask for your information and then ask you to lunch even if its just as friends. I also don't understand where all of the real friendships are or why people act like they don't want friendship anymore. They are just looking for a hook up. The other issue that I have come across is the hook up culture, where I have even found out that Christian men are involved in. A different guy awhile ago asked me out on a date and also wanted to get to know each other as friends first which sounded nice. Went out on a date or two, things started to fizzle out, I distanced myself, and he eventually became honest with me. He let me know recently that he didn't want to date and commit himself to one person. He wants to hook up with people and didn't want to get me involved and offered to stay friends, which I'm not talking to him. The last guy I talked to at first started out as mostly a "message only" relationship until I said something. We ended up hanging out once outside of our Young Professionals group and talked on the phone a couple times with him initiating most of it. He told me that he wanted to meet up again soon. I invited him and the whole group to my choir concert at my school. He told me he might be able to make it, but his tone made me feel unsure. He text me the next day to let me know that something came up. When he called me the day after the concert to apologize, it sounded more like he may have just been making up an excuse and was just being flakey.
I'm very frustrated today with this new way that people seem to be getting together or lack there of. I have noticed a gradual shift in the dating world in the past five or so years. Guys used to ask me out on dates looking for a commited relationship and I eventually ended up having a boyfriend for a few years. After we broke up, I stayed single for quite awhile and recently started going back on dates again. I have noticed two new things come into play or become increasingly worse as I have mentioned above. I have recently had two men ask for my facebook or phone number and all they wanted to do after was text/email me, which didn't really make any sense, so I was confused. After about a month of this on both seperate occasions, I told them that I prefer to talk on the phone or in person, which then on both occasions that is when they started meeting up with me in person. Why men do things this way now, I don't understand. I don't see where the initiative has gone where they ask for your information and then ask you to lunch even if its just as friends. I also don't understand where all of the real friendships are or why people act like they don't want friendship anymore. They are just looking for a hook up. The other issue that I have come across is the hook up culture, where I have even found out that Christian men are involved in. A different guy awhile ago asked me out on a date and also wanted to get to know each other as friends first which sounded nice. Went out on a date or two, things started to fizzle out, I distanced myself, and he eventually became honest with me. He let me know recently that he didn't want to date and commit himself to one person. He wants to hook up with people and didn't want to get me involved and offered to stay friends, which I'm not talking to him. The last guy I talked to at first started out as mostly a "message only" relationship until I said something. We ended up hanging out once outside of our Young Professionals group and talked on the phone a couple times with him initiating most of it. He told me that he wanted to meet up again soon. I invited him and the whole group to my choir concert at my school. He told me he might be able to make it, but his tone made me feel unsure. He text me the next day to let me know that something came up. When he called me the day after the concert to apologize, it sounded more like he may have just been making up an excuse and was just being flakey.